Sally, You have a friend in Naples,Fl. I have a BMI of 67.5 and weigh 431 lbs. I know what you are going thru. I have lymph edema with fibrosis in my legs and go 3 x a wk for therapy and wear compression bandages on my legs everyday. I have shortness of breathe and fatigue,knee joint pain and incontinence and lower back pain. I share your frustration of an ordinary day. I am on SSI and can't do much anymore. I worked for 26 yrs and loved it and now I find it a real chore to get the smallest thing done. Our God loves you and that love is unconditional. We don't earn it, its a gift, from Him. Your friends do things for you because they want to. Let them. Its their way of expressing their love for you. I have found in life that things go in cycles. Right now its your turn to receive. You will be a giver when your health is restored to you.Stay in touch, I think we can be a blessing to each other. Leslie