Hi Martha!
Read your post, then your profile, and just wanted to say that we have a bit in common. It's so hard not to get down when you know your surgery date is coming up, but it still seems so far away. And the memorial page, while it is informational, is very depressing. But all you can do is keep your chin up and know that you are doing the right thing for yourself as well as your son. I had the same fears as you, check my profile if you have some time. But here I am, 3 days post-op lap RNY, and while I'm not totally in the clear, I am home, I'm eating tiny portions of pureed goop, and I can't wait to see the pounds fly off. Oh, I paid over $25,000 to get a quick(er) surgery date. My insurance doesn't cover this. But what a helluva Christmas/New Years/early B-day gift, huh?! We refinanced our home at a better interest rate for me to do this.
Best wishes to you and your family...