Bras? HELP
If you have a store in your area that sells higher end bras, I'd recommend that. Dept stores and VS aren't going to cut it here. I have the same issues as you and you need to be able to try on all sorts of styles and brands. I do best with French Lingerie makers (Chantelle, Empreinte, Prima Donna are my favs) as these all have wider bands and bigger cup sizes (up to an H) to deal with our tube socks, yet small enough in the band to accomdate the fact that we are smaller. So right now I'm a 34E or 34F depending on the brand and if I had a breast lift, I'd be down to a C since there isn't just a ton of tissue there, just skin.
HW: 280; SW: 255; GW1: 150; CW: 155.
I just bought some awesome bras that are Felina brand from a local lingerie boutique (thank you Elina!!!). It was so comfortable that I bought 2 and seriously just ripped off the tags and wore it home from the store. I don't know how to tell where to buy them near you, but if you can find someplace that carries them with an experienced person to fit you properly it might work for you.
As for me, I was 38E before surgery and am now wearing 34D or DD depending on the bra. I have been able to buy the brands I love at Nordstrom Rack, but I do try a lot of different sizes to make sure I am getting the best fit.