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i catch myself sitting back and not doing anything to help myself along and thats not fair to me. my mom only wants me to drive her because i make her more comfy. my daughter claims she does not want anyone else to keep her 8 yr old son. i could go on and on. but im so bored with my life right now. i love everybody but dang!!
Their response doesn't matter. Tell your daughter you can't get her son on the bus, and then don't be home the next day when she comes to drop him off anyway. Tell your BF you will cook on these days and he can have leftovers or cook himself the others. If he gets cranky re-evaluate your priorities with him. Tell your mom you would love to help her on (Tuesdays, for ex) but unfortunately other days are getting crowded. And then get up early and go somewhere. If they call let it go to voicemail - you can get emergency messages but not be caught up in their everyday drama.
Time to step up and take are of you! "Loving" people does not mean you cater to their every whim. What about loving you?
HAHA I just read M. cortez post and these are awful close. We must be on to something, hey?
AS FOR YOUR PARENTS..TELL THEM STRAIGH UP TOO.." MOM & DAD IM ONLY GOING TO COME AND SEE YOU 2 DAYS A WEEK .. SO SET UP ALL YOUR APPOINMETS FOR THOSE DAYS ONLY.. IF YOU NEED TO GO SHOPPING GO TO THE DENTIST, SEE THE DR MAKE SURE IS ON THOSE 2 DAYS THAT I CAN COME OVER AND HELP YOU..I WILL CALL YOU TO SEE HOW YOU ARE EVERYDAY IF I CAN, BUT I WILLL NOT BE COMING OVER UNLESS ITS AN EMERGENCY..AN EMERGENCY MEANS IS SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOUR HEALTH.."
AS FOR THE BF TELL HIM YOU ONLY DO LAUNDRY ON FRIDAY OR SUNDAY(WHICHEVER DAY IS BEST FOR YOU, MAYBE ONE OF THOSE DAY THAT YOUR DRIVING YOUR PARENTS AROUND) AND NOT ON ANY OTHER DAY...AS FOR MEALS TELL HIM THAT YOU ONLY COOK 5 DAYS A WEEK AND THAT WEEKENDS IS TAKE OUT.. THERE IS NO COOKING ON WEEKENDS.. TELL HIM ITS A SIN...
THIS IS YOUR NEW CHANCE DONT WASTE IT....LIVE , LIVE , LIVE , LIVE AND ENJOY MORE THE NEW WONDERFUL YOU.. GIVE HER A CHANCE TO COME OUT AND LIVE LIFE, DONT BURY HER EVEN DEEPER.. GOOD LUCK!!
IF THEY STILL DONT GET IT.. THEN SMACK THEM AROUND .. WELL THE BF AND THE DAUGHTER ANYWAY AND MAKE THEM GET IT!!
get rid of him. You need to find somebody whom with help you and not be lazy. Tell your daught she needs to get her own child off the bus. Also your parents need to get a life.
You need a new life. You are going back to school good for you.
I did all this lovingly and my Mom and Brother did not know how to react at first. But, in time our relationship improved and I learned how to express my feelings without feeling guilty (the first time or two I thought I would be zapped with a bolt of lightening).
In order to be physically, mentally, and spiritually fulfilled we have to take time for ourselves. If not, in the long run, you will not be able to help them anyway. They will be taking care of you.
Good luck. Set those boundaries, howere that looks for you. You may have to make one change at a time instead of all at once.
Keep us posted. We're in your corner.