Daily Post--8/25/08

For the shy people who used to be invisible--How do we get out and meet people?? How do we become visible?

I wasn't shy before, and certainly am not now.  But I'd like to know how people are overcoming that!

I don't know if I'm shy or not.  I never felt invisible, always just the opposite.  I didn't like it, but I always felt like I stood out like a sore thumb!  Now I feel "normal" but I don't think my attitude towards meeting people has changed.

I am having a hard time with this.  I moved to a new town 5 months ago, and havent really made any friends, I work with a lot of great people but I am too shy to push myself on them or their out of  work activities.  I would love to meet new people.
Vivienne

I was so shy, and sometimes, I still am...   but it's easier now, just living life.  I have met the love of my life, and through him, many more new friends.  I attend church with him regularly.  My daughter's friends spend more time around the house, so I get to know them better too.  Possibly because my outlook is brighter?  I dunno, but people in general seem more drawn to me. 

I also do Partylite candle parties - I signed up (for the second time) the day before my WLS, and I'm so much more successful this time around.  I tell everyone at the parties that the first time, I did it for the money - this time, I do it for the social outlet.  I love being "invited" to party a time or two every week, and I get to meet new people every time!  I also love the camaraderie of the meetings and helping others find their niche in Partylite.  It's so nice to begin a relationship based on a mutual love of candles - and sometimes, I gain lasting friendships!

Honestly, being shy is something that I "am"...I don't think that I can undo that shyness just because I lost weight...I am trying very hard to be more active in Church....it is not easy for me...but my priest is pushing me and needs my help so that kind of encourages me...but overall...I don't see my shyness going anywhere!

I always wondered how can people NOT see a 286 pound person?  I was a shy wall flower.  I still don't go out of my way to be seen.  I'm still the wall flower

I am a greeter at church, plus I'm on the welcoming committee for 2 different groups.  So, I'm the person that shakes your hand and smiles at you and chats with you to make you feel welcome....

I'm real involved with my church.  I don't think that I'm shy, but I was very quiet.  I seem to be out of my shell a bit more since my surgery.      Jules

not sure but look forward to reading everyones answers on this one