Question:
do you have a date yet? how do u make the time go by faster?

i have a surgery date of march 11 2003 how do you pass the time by with out going crazy....it has taken me almost a year to get my date...navy doctors i also am looking for a angel in the norfolk va area... i am struggling with my decsion to do this...i am 32 years old...over weight 10 years now...i have one 14 and 13 year old kids...i have been married 16 years...and i am scared some thing bad is going to happening...i am due to have lap. i have nightmares and i feel so lost some times...everyone says i carry my weight well...i don't get any grief from being over weight ...because every ones says i have a pretty face..i get so sick of beig told ...you have a very pretty face....what about the rest of me????i feel like changing my mind on some days....but i am too young to be loaded down with fat...not being able to feel free...i just want to feel free... thanks for listening... first time user...    — angela-thomas (posted on December 11, 2002)

December 11, 2002
I wish I could answer that one. My date is 12/31/02--great way to start the new year--and I can't wait. Can't think of anything else and time is just dragging.
   — sandy L.

December 11, 2002
Ahh once it gets a bit closer time will fly while goiing slow:( Things to do while waiting. Attend support group meetings, take some post ops who have done well to dinner, start exercising as best you can EVERYDAY, walk in malls when the weather is bad, hang out here looking at before and after pictures, plan a vacaion for afer you have lost 100 pounds, buy a read some books about WLS, and look forward to the great transformation you are about to have. The more exercise you get now the easier surgery will be. <P> The date although it appears far off now will become a countdown. Trust me mine took forever and then it was time. I dreaded surgery and shouldnt. Soon you will understand why I say POST OP IS THE PLACE TO BE!
   — bob-haller

December 11, 2002
Hi, Angela! Certainly all of your feelings are normal! I'm pre-op too (no date yet), but I question myself all the time about whether I should do this or not. Like you, I don't really get any grief about my weight. I've always gotten the "pretty face" thing, too. And in general, my health is not bad, although I have been dealing with joint and back pain for while now. But the one thing I know is that WLS is most likely the only way I would ever lose all the excess weight I need to lose. I have tried and failed at so many diets, I just don't think I can stand the thought of trying any more of them. I have never been at a normal weight for my height (I was close as a teenager), and I want to know what it feels like to live life in a "normal" body. Like you said, you just want to feel free. If you feel you could never diet down to where you really want and need to be, then go for WLS! Good luck to you!
   — Carlita

December 12, 2002
hi one thing i did is itold the dr office that i wanted my surgey ASAP and they put me on a list i started out with july 1, than went to june 20 than went to april 30 and tan to may 3 s if you let them know maybe they will speed it up good luck
   — ROSEMARY A.

December 12, 2002
hi..my date is jan 27th and personally im just taking this time to learn about food i can eat, about protein shakes and bars, enjoying foods i wont be eating anymore, learnin to get my water in, just basically gettin myself really prepared. i also been tryin to find a support group but havent had much luck yet..
   — christine S.

December 12, 2002
I'm 31,(single no kids) and understand the "pretty face" comments..heard them all my life!!! I have no date yet although I have finished all my pre testing..awaiting the surgery coordinator's call to set something up.. Things that are helping me get through all ove this THERAPY, THERAPY, THERAPY!!!! I have a wonderful eating disorder specialist I've been seeing for a few months now. Not only do I want the weight off, I want to know what my triggers are, why I gained so much and why I can't seem to lose it and keep it off. I've been discovering me and who I am and what I'm all about. I'm taking baby-steps towards me stop taking people's shit and then eat my woes away. We all have our own reasons of why we are overweight. Finding these things and relearning new behaviors is a long process, so I am working on this pre-op. When I'm not thinking about myself(lol) I do volunteer work, arts and crafts, visit with friends, enjoy my family. I'm planning on what my life is going to be like when I'm at goal weight. Where my career path will lead me when I don't have weight as an excuse anymore. How will I take care of myself when food isn't an option. Excercise, walking, dancing in my living room...taking care of Numero Uno, because if I don't take care of me no one else will! I hope this helps..best wishes...PEACE
   — chickiewickie