Question:
The woman who inspired me to have WLS made some
remarks to me today that have me a bit worried. I met her last year when she came to my work to look at a piece of equipment, she made a comment that she just lost 80 lbs and then told me about WLS. She changed my life. Well she stopped in today to see how I did. Well she said I have lost too much weight too fast, 89 lbs in 5 1/2 months. She said I must be doing something wrong since everyone she knows took at least a year to get down 90 lbs. Have I lost too fast? My labs were just done and perfect I might add, so no nutrition issues that I am aware of. She also said she can teach me how to get my body around dumping syndrome!! I want to dump on fat and sugar, built in behavior modification. WHy would I want to get around it?? Then again she claims she had cookies for breakfast and I had a protein shake. Cookies for breakfast are what made me obese in the first place. I am working really hard to get my protein and water in each day and upset when the scale doesn't move and then she makes these comments. Maybe I am wrong to let it bug me but it is. I am 24 lbs from goal and hope to reach it by my 1 year in October, as I know loss will slow down once I hit 6 months. Wendy 259/170/145 — Wendy H. (posted on April 23, 2003)
April 23, 2003
I too think she is jealous. Sounds like she has blown here WLS and wants
you to fail too. No, you are not losing to fast. I lost 108 pounds in the
first six months. I'm two years out and still in the high over weight range
of BMI. I certainly would'nt try to get around the dumping. I can eat some
cookies and wish I could'nt. But thankfully I can't eat many. Do try to
follow the rules. They are there for our benifit. If possible, I would
distance myself from this woman. For whatever reason, she wants to drag you
down.
— Danmark
April 23, 2003
You're doing great - don't let her effect you at all! People lose at all
rates, especially when they're being "good" and following the
plan! You go girl!!!!
— jen41766
April 23, 2003
I would be proud of your own accomplishments and take advice only from the
Doctor. Steer clear of this kind of "peer-pressure".
— meliss0725
April 23, 2003
Wow.. sounds like she is jealous and wants to sabotage your weight loss.
Just keep doing what you are and ignore that CAT! :-)
— SJP
April 23, 2003
Hey there. Don't you just hate jealous people? I had surgery 11/21/02.
In 5 months I have lost 105 pounds. I have had people tell me the same
thing but who cares what anyone says as long as we feel great. Don't we
deserve it? Let her talk. You are doing fabulous!!! Good luck to you.
— Regina C.
April 23, 2003
I lost 150 in 13 months. But I didn't hit that 100 til 8 months. You're
ahead of me, so really, right on schedule. So, let's see. You are sticking
to a good plan, losing lots of wt. Your friend is eating/drink whatever,
together and poking along. And she wants you to STOP LOSING ALL THAT
WEIGHT (!) and slow down and keep pace with her. Hmm, what's wrong with
this picture? Congrats on your good work!
— vitalady
April 23, 2003
I know that everyone has said all that I would say, but I just had to chime
in here. I think you are doing great and 89 pounds in 5 1/2 months is
wonderful. I lost 104 pounds in 6 months and I praise the dumping syndrome
every day LOL. I only wish that I dumped on more things. I have to syke
myself out by saying "I can't eat sugar cuz it makes me dump"
(even though that isn't quite true anymore). I figure if I keep telling
myself that, it will deter me from going back to the sweets. Anyway, I
just wanted to say "Congrats on your lose and keep up the good
work". Sincerely, Mary Beth
— Beffy W.
April 23, 2003
This woman may be jealous, but then she can be under some pressure also. I
lost 140 pounds in about 9 months and there was a woman who had surgery
about a year before me who might have lost about 90 pounds and people are
always comparing us. I can imagine this is annoying her. When people say
something like she is losing slowly, she eats this and she eats that. I
say...you know what...so do I. I sometimes eat chips and cakes and cookies,
but we all lose at our own pace. We all have different metabolisms. I
would ignore her advice, but I guess I can kind of understand. I remember
back in the day being jealous of skinny chicks who could eat all they
wanted without gaining an ounce!
— Lisa N M.
April 23, 2003
Sweetie, DO NOT let this bother you. First of all, everyone loses
differently. I am 7 months out and down 127 pounds, The first 4 months I
haad lost 80 plus pounds. I knew it was faster than most, but was I going
to complain- uh un. YOu obviously know this woman isn't too up on the do's
and don'ts of this surgery if she is now eating cookies for breakfast, so
don't let anything she says make you wonder if you are doing the right
thing. You are doing great! Keep it up!!
— karmiausnic
April 24, 2003
It's amazing to me how many unqualified experts there are out there. She
could be jealous, she could be misinformed (her diet is a GOOD example of
how misinformed she might be), she could be...etc., etc. I've lost 145
pounds in 9 months and have never been healthier or felt better and my doc
says I'm right on track. With people like her I smile and nod at her
"wisdom" and then do my thing.
— [Deactivated Member]
April 24, 2003
Hi Wendy,
Just keep doing what you're doing. She's not an expert here. Your labs are
fine and you're doing what you should. No two people will loose the same
way. Some more, some less and you seem to have a good head on your
shoulders. Don't let her teach you "the way around dumping". For
you it's a no no! One of the reasons many put their weight back on. Stay
true to yourself. You did this for you, not her. I can't imagine how
difficult that must be for you but stay true to yourself and be polite but
tell her you're not interested.You'd like to keep the healthy eating habits
you've aquired. Best wishes and continued success!
— Linda M.
April 24, 2003
Wendy,
Girl you're doing Wonderful! Awesome in fact, Keep going, and don't let
that friend tell you any different, seems you re-trained your way to a
healthier life, (Eating a protein shake for breakfast) Whoo Hoo ~ I do the
same, just hold you head up high and let her have her cookies, becuase
you're oh so right, wasn't it the cookies that made us obese in the first
place......
I wouldn't let anything she says to bother you, hold your head up high !
You know you've chosen the right path.....
WAY TO Go !
Post op 11 months down 128 pounds
— tannedtigress
April 25, 2003
IGNORE HER! As long as your feeling great and the doctor doesn't raise a
red flag, keep it up. And cookies for breakfast??????? Get real. I know
for one that cookies helped me get as big as I am today and I'm not about
to risk ruining my surgery by pigging out (still pre-op)
— Renee B.
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