Question:
I'm 4 days post op and now scared, please respond

I'm 4 days post op and my surgery went fine, I'm recovering fine. Obviously still in pain and am tired, but insides are ok. Now I'm scared I'll be one that loses too much weight, has major problems, etc. I think I may need to go on some type of anti-depressants or something. Please give me some encouragement, I'm very scared.    — alicialeew (posted on October 12, 2001)

October 12, 2001
I'm 5'6 and my starting weight was 252 my BMI was around the 40.2 mark. I've have lost 95 pounds since surgery ( Feb 28,2001). I feel good and am at a point where people say that I really don't need to loose any more weight. I eat anything. I do stay away from bread, gease, and fat. I want to loos another 30 pounds or so .... I want to be around 120-130 lbs. I really think that the amount of weight you loose and the rate that you loose it all depends on your body. I don't think that just because you are on the lighter side that you loose slower. I know people that have had surgery before me and were about 50 pounds heavier and I have out lost them by 25 pounds. So I really think that it has to do with the persons body. Keep your chin up and talk all of your concerns over with your dr. ~~~~~~~~~~ Heather..... [email protected]~~~~~~~ Come on and join us!
   — Heather C.

October 12, 2001
I know how you feel. I had no problems but kept expecting the other shoe to drop and end up with a big problem. How you feel is normal, and my worry eventually went away. Just relax. Getting thru surgery is the hard part. Now your a post op! You will feel better when you see the scale dropping.
   — bob-haller

October 27, 2001
It's been a couple of weeks since you posted this, so you're probably feeling a little better now, (hope so anyway). I'm 2 yrs. post op. I thought the period that you're in right now really stunk... the very vulnerable feeling was very hard for me to deal with. Not only does your body hurt, you're tired, and unsure of so many things. For me, the finality of the decision I had made really hit me a few days after surgery... then the insecurities sneak in, (did I do the right thing?), etc. Since I'd had C-sections before I was able to recognize the temporary depression that is caused by major surgery. Recognizing this didn't help a lot, but it did help some. Add to this the food intake being different, my mind getting used to the fact that I really did have to change a lot of things, (it's one thing to plan something, quite another to live it). Letting myself rely on others, dear friends and family that let me go on & on & on about the food, etc., etc., AND the passage of time helped tremendously. You might have a few problems as you go along. Life very rarely goes smoothly pre-op or post-op. Take a deep breath when you start feeling that way, and decide that IF AND WHEN a problem occurs, you'll deal with it then. This period of recovery is the hardest. It gets better, every day,every week. You made a good decision, YOU took control of your life. Breathe, Relax and think of all the positive things in your life right now. Good luck!
   — tammy R.