Question:
Will my sexual "appetite" improve following surgery?

My hubby has been quite a miserable men lately. when we first got together, things were diffeent until ther last couple years. I do not feel into the whole intimacy thing. I want to, I try to. I just can't. I need to know if this will impove after surgery and weight loss. If so, how long before I become that "sex goddess" my hubby has been missing out on?    — Crystal D. (posted on July 29, 2001)

July 29, 2001
I had surgery on May 9 and have lost approx. 55 lbs. My "sexual appetite" has definitely increased! I felt so ugly before but I'm now starting to feel sexually attractive again. It's amazing how weight affects how you feel about yourself both good and bad. I'm sure that once you start losing weight you will feel like a brand new woman!
   — [Anonymous]

July 31, 2001
Now here's a question most people don't seem to willing to jump into. The same question came up at a recent support group meeting that I went to with everyone going silent until I stepped forward. Well here I go again. I do believe that being overweight can cause a lower libido, however many of us would agree that our view of ourselves can be more damaging than the actual weight. Once your body starts to look and feel better so will you. I was 268 lbs pre op, now 6 mos. later I'm 210, believe me when I say things between my husband and I are much, much better. I'm sure you too will be pleased with the end result to all the changes you and your family are going through. Good luck and all the best to you. And please feel free to contact me with any more questions.
   — Lisa C.

July 31, 2001
I'm 5 weeks post-op and have lost 33 lbs. Sometimes I'm so preoccupied with my diet and weight that I ignore my husband and I'm not interested, but I know this will pass as I become more comfortable with everything. Before I knew about this surgery, our sex was great. Then, once I learned about it and started researching every free moment I had, things got ugly. There are lots of ways you can satisfy him without getting too involved, it's not the 'real' thing, but as long as they're happy. Now we're spending time walking together, talking, and holding hands. So, it's not an instant 'sex goddess' transformation, but with time and lots of patience, I'm sure our intimacy will get better. Our husbands go through so much with us, it's important to acknowledge their needs too.
   — Lori W.

August 3, 2001
I don,t know about yours but with 116# in sixteen weeks off my wife and i are back at dating level circus animal sex games and adventures, its been very worth the battle . GO FOR IT. king of love
   — ricky R.