Question:
HELP - I think I am pregnant at 4 months post-op!
I never thought this would happen to me in a million years. I am four months post-op and got a positive pregnancy result. I could cry. Anyone wants a baby. They are a gift from God but my surgeon said you can't get pregnant the first year. It can harm the baby. I can't have an abortion yet I also don't want an malformed child due to my own fault. Can anyone please lend me an ear, advice, a prayer? I have always wanted to be thin and this surgery has been a Godsend but to now think that I can harm a child has me so utterly depressed. Please help. I appreciate any comments. Thank you. — [Anonymous] (posted on April 4, 2000)
April 4, 2000
I would talk to the surgeon and go see an Ob/Gyn as soon as possible. Good
Luck and I hope that all goes well
— Daphne P.
April 4, 2000
Call your Ob/GYN as soon as possible. He will have the answers. My
thoughts and prayers are with you. Please keep me posted.
— Terri G.
April 4, 2000
Did you take a home test? If so, false results are common. I suggest you
see your OB/GYN for a lab test immediately. I know you must be out of your
mind with worry, but please try to calm down - for your sake. If you are
pregnant, modern medicine and technology should help you follow-through
with a healthy child. Babies are born everyday whose mothers were
drug-users, smokers, or in underdeveloped countries where malnourishment is
common. Just remember your options, take your doctor's advice, and
remember all things happen for a reason. Check my profile - that gorgeous
read-headed baby in my late husband's arms was diagnosed with a rare
leukodystrophy called Krabbe's Disease at 3 months. She was to have
cerebral palsy, mental retardation, seizures, bone brittleness, anorexia
leading to a failure to thrive, and death at age 2. The pediatric
neurologist was absolutely false. It may sound trite, but all things
happen for a reason, and if it's meant to be it will be. You are in my
prayers and I wish you the best. Please keep us informed!
— [Deactivated Member]
April 4, 2000
Go to a lab (every hospital has one) and get a BLOOD type pregnancy test
instead of a urine to confirm you're pregnant. And as soon as possible call
your gynecologist and your surgeon to discuss this. Everything should be
ok, it's not like you're 2 weeks post-op-you've healed somewhat now. Ask
your surgeon for some case histories of women who have gotten pregnant
before they were supposed to and if he doesn't have testimonials for you
call other bariatric surgeons. If you're finding that other women got
pregnant 4 months post-op after a gastric bypass and had successful
pregnancies then you will have some reassurance. I said a prayer for you
and I hope you make your dr. appointments ASAP.
— [Deactivated Member]
April 4, 2000
I just wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I am
sure that everything will work out. Please call your OBGYN, ask for a
referral to a high risk specialist. From the information I have read - I
don't believe there will be as many risks for your child as there are for
you. Keep in touch.
— Dusty C.
April 4, 2000
I just wanted to offer some support! I will be praying for you.
— Lady C.
April 4, 2000
First of all I want to congratulate you on your pregnancy. I think it is
wonderful and quite a blessing. I also want to state for the record that I
am not against abortions for women who have to have one for their own
safety. Just to clear that issue up before I get jumped on by any
pro-choicers or pro-lifers out there. I personally however, would never
have an abortion under any circumstance. I feel you need to consult a high
risk OB/GYN immediately. I know that a normal woman only needs an
additional 300 calories a day to sustain a healthy pregnancy. You dont
need to "eat for two" as they use to say. You will be closely
monitored for deficiencies and may have to take additional vitamins or
shots of vitamins? You may have to eat a few more meals a day? Another
post said that the baby would be fine, they would worry about you. Yes,
the baby will take all it needs first and deplete you. Careful monitoring
in this medically sophisticated world will see you through. For goodness
sakes, they save 1 pound babies today. I would believe solely what your
OB/GYN says to you and how he feels you will sustain this pregnancy. Our
surgeons are just that, Surgeons. They dont know how the body ticks
persay. Your OB?GYN will take care of you first, you are his main patient,
and then he will care for your baby. You will be his main concern. Good
luck to you, your family and your baby.
— Laura L.
April 4, 2000
I'm praying for you and your family. Please let me know if there is
anything I can do to help.
— Toni B.
April 4, 2000
My heart goes out to you and like the others who have posted you are in my
prayers. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to concentrate on all
the different advice you're getting. I think two things stand out from all
these wonderful posts. First, you are important and the people on this
site do care about you and your situation. Second, get information from
your doctors so you can make good choices you are hpoefully comforatble
with. It makes sense to find out if you are really pregnant, and if you
are what the risks are, before angonizing over decisions you may never need
to make. At any rate, Godspeed and God Bless...
— Alicia B.
April 4, 2000
My heart goes out to you! You've touched on a subject that has worried me
since surgery, too. I think the best advice has already been given, but I
will reiterate it - talk to your OB/GYN and have her/him consult with your
surgeon. That way you'll know all the facts and can make a decision based
on solid information. Remember that whatever you decide, another member of
this site has most likely experienced the same thing and can support you.
Best of luck!
— Kim H.
April 4, 2000
Just a note to let you know I am praying for a safe pregnancy
and delivery for you and peace of mind!
— M B.
April 4, 2000
~Just wanting to let you know that you arent alone, and you are in many of
our prayers! I am not in the medical field, but I think you have been given
good advice from many of these post, and you need to seek medical support
immediatly...If you Need anything please FEEL free to contact me directly,
Even if its just a shoulder...((((Hugs)))
— Ann A.
April 4, 2000
That was one of the questions I asked at my seminar. My surgeon said it
has happened and
that perfectly normal babies were born, remember the baby takes what it
needs. Talk to your surgeon
tell him to get you a nutritionist to work with you. Bless you in your
attitude that this is a blessing.
I will be praying for you too. Talk to your surgeon right away and keep us
posted.
— Lenore G.
April 4, 2000
Alright take a deep breath. Lets start from there. I was made aware of a
lady in Woodland California who was 6 months pregnant at time of surgery.
So far she and her child are doing well. She is listed on the obesity site.
She had surgery at UCDavis by Dr. Ninh Nguyen. The main issue is for you to
be in contact with a dietitian now.I belive that it could be done with
almost constant high protein supplements.Do not feel that you have been
defeated. In many aspects you will probably lose weight with the
pregnancy.I would also find a womans resource center/pregnancy crisis
intervention in your area.I truly wish you the best of luck, for you and
your babe. Please e-mail me if I can help you anymore.
— DENISE S.
April 4, 2000
Congratulations!!! Please, do not worry. As long as you get
the proper nutrition your baby will be fine. It may take a
little more effort on your part but believe me the worst thing
for the baby is worry. Every problem has a solution and this
is no different. Before getting upset remember, as other posts
have stated, everything happens for a reason. I believe that
completely. Health babies are born every day to people that
do not take care of themselves. You, simply because of the
surgery, are more in tune with your body than most people. Get
help from you OB/GYN and your PCP and remember to listen to your
body. It will tell you what you need when you need it. Good luck
and God bless you on this wonderful journey.
— Jen L.
April 30, 2000
hi there!!! your post caught my eyes, i really feel for you!!!! Is there
any possible way, you can have this baby???
please let me know how you are doin.. i am a pre-op, still considering, you
can email me at ndsgdkarma@ aol.com
— Jenny D.
January 6, 2001
I, too, am a little less than 4 mos post-op and just found out I am
pregnant. How was your pregnancy? I bet your littleone is beautiful! Can
you tell me how everything went? I hope you get this e-mail.
— [Anonymous]
January 24, 2001
Hi:
I know your post was from last year but I just wanted to check in on you
and see how things went. I got pregnant at 2 months post-op as well and I
lost my baby but I also found out it was badly deformed. Did you have the
baby and are you ok now? Is the child healty and can you tell me how it
went. I am now 1 andahalf years post-op and 12 weeks pregnant - wish me
luck.
— anitawilson
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