Question:
Spouse had surgery over 3 months ago, dr. about to give us the ok to get intimate?

(to whoever reviews the questions before they are posted, please review and change the wording if you consider it inapproiate) my wife had surgery early May, her dr. has put intimacy off limits due to complications that arose from surgery, at last visit dr gave us the green light to resume normal activities, i would like to ask if anyone had any problemns with being intimate the first time after surgery, (i.e. being creative and causing an injury, hernia), or are there things that we should not even try, (i.e such as oral sex)?    — Rich C. (posted on July 12, 2002)

July 12, 2002
I went to my doctor three weeks after surgery and he said to wait about 2 more weeks after that and it should be fine. It was a little awkward, my husband didn't want to hurt me, but it was good.
   — dolphins94

July 12, 2002
Here is my suggestions, go very slowly, let her guage how you pace things. Let her comfort level guide you. Be very slow and gentle and stop immediately if she is uncomfortable. I suggest a position where she is not bearing your weight. My ex and I got creative with this and had no problems (hint: legs around shoulders). Good luck!
   — Kellye C.

July 12, 2002
I think your wife is probably not comfortable with her rapidly changing body. Just reassure her that she was beautiful to you before surgery and is even more so now. Courtship never hurts either, flowers, take a walk together, etc. Good luck my friend.
   — Dianne B.

July 12, 2002
When I was released from the hospital there were no complications and I was told it was okay as soon as I was up to it. We didn't wait long, but since the incision is still pretty sore for a while we were very careful. The spoons position works really well for soon after. Go slow and let her set the pace.
   — Virginia N.