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My wife had surgery,on 5-8, and emergency surgery 5-9, was discharged 5-13, when can

My wife had Lap "RNY" on 5-8, and to have emergency open surgery on 5-9 in order to fix 2 leaks in her bowel, she was discharged from hospital yesterday, the doctor is happy with her progress, my question is when can i relax at home every time my wife sneezes or coughs i check on her to make sure she is ok, i know there are the few exceptions, but when is it safe to say that you are over the point when most complications occur?    — Rich C. (posted on May 14, 2002)

May 14, 2002
Hi Rich ~ God bless you both, it sounds like you & your family went through a trying time with your wife and the healing of her surgery. I am thankful it sounds like it turned out good though. I am not a doctor but I would assume that they would not have released her without them making sure all was okay. She's going to be sore for quite some time - I had the lap RNY on the 9th of April and I'm still not feeling 100% good - I hear open procedures can take 4 - 6 weeks to get a somewhat normal feeling back. I think it's incredibly sweet that your so concerned - my husband was the same way. Everytime he passed by me, he had to rub on my hair or give me a kiss or something. Breath a bit easier, if at all possible. Say some healing prayers and you & her will start to be back to normal, I bet, before you know it...even better this time. She will be amazed to the difference she will feel in 6 short weeks - a bit better everyday and her strength will come back as well. Best of Blessings to you all ~ PS - don't cook in front of her for a while - the smell can send a person into somewhat of a depressed mode - maybe do the cold sandwich or a can of soup or something like that.
   — Lisa J.

May 14, 2002
Thank God you wife is recovering from the surgeries :) For me it was terrible trying to sleep that first week or so, slept in a recliner, was the most comfortable position. Truly felt tolerable after a month and somewhat like myself after 3 months. Had open RNY on 9/12/01, feel wonderfully fine! Hopefully there will be no more complications for your wife and she will recover nicely, and slowly. God's blessings.
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