Question:
Am I the only on who had to jump through a year's worth of hoops?
My journey has been almost a year now; I have had trouble with every aspect of the process. First, not enough dietidian visits; second, no hard co morbitidies; third, just shy of 100 pounds overweight. I have had to gain weight, got sicker in the process, and almost gave up when I got my denial letter. I did some careful wording from a friend and they overturned my denial. I am now awaiting my surgery date and can't wait! but now I am feeling like I have to make up for a life that will not be there in these last months pre-op. Is this normal? — minnweaver (posted on March 23, 2008)
March 23, 2008
I am not where you are yet...Do try to focus on the future and feeling good
physically. Personally I think you are smart and fortunate to be making
this change before the situation gets any worse. Not having co
morbididies is a huge advantage going in so think about how you will be a
year from now.
Can't make up for anything...can only go forward, Honestly I hardly cared
to try this time last year , thought there was so little hope that I could
ever feel better...I have squandered 50 years being fat and can hardly even
believe I can have this done now and save myself...what a blessing
actually...Who gives a darn about food as opposed to seeing my grandkids,
god willing!
I am sure you will be running through all sorts of feelings and emotions
and fears and everything else the world can throw at you. Guess
what...there is life after food...got that from my best bypass experienced
friend...200 pounds off in a year and a half and she is so transformed! I
keep an eye on that...
Hold the course and stay busy...get obsessed in another area and take it
one day at a time...success will come and time will pass with or without
you messing up the work you have done...love...sorry about the
lecture...I've been an AA sponsor too long I guess...same gig though
darling love and luck hugs from afar...
— [Deactivated Member]
March 23, 2008
For all the effort you made to get heavier...you should have just tried to
get thinner. I personally do not understand your train of thought. I would
have rather stayed obese and healthy than have surgery. To try to gain
weight to have the surgery is just plain strange to me. I don't want you to
think I wish you ill feelings because being over weight is not an easy
life...Neither is life after surgery and I hope you have at least done
research and realise that irresponsible behavior such as "living the
life you won't have" is not taking your weight loss surgery very
seriously. You should be focusing on how you are going to eat and make the
important changes to eat healthy for the rest of your life. I dunno what
your were expecting to hear...but I have to be one that doesn't
understand...To each his own, I suppose. Good luck and I wish you much
success...I had to wait a year although I was approved immediately for all
my health issues. Well...you got it so take good care of yourself and
follow the rules and you will do fine. BTW, I had my last supper a few
nights before surgery, but only that one time. The rest of the time after I
was approved I tried to diet and eat what I was supposed to to lose
weight...When I couldn't....I went thru with the surgery...Otherwise, if I
lost weight...I wouldn't have had it. But that's just me. Good luck
sweetie! Sorry about the brutal honesty...I just felt I needed to be.
— .Anita R.
March 23, 2008
Your so NOT alone. When we have to fight so hard, we make darn sure that
we follow instructions to a tee. Somtimes when people have it easy, they
dont appreciate what they have. I am just expressing my opinion. You will
really respect what your about to do much better! Because it gets harder
right after surgery, stay on task.
Wish you the best! KathyR
— Kathy-R
March 23, 2008
Hang in there! I have done the same thing and ALL I have to do is to find
a nutritionist [my DR. has one-but they are a 2-3 hrs away] I will have to
make the trip if I cant find one closer. We didnt get this way over
night..so I guess the time we put into this will be well worth it. Nothing
GOOD comes easy! I will keep you as well as ALL the others on the same
path we are on in my prayers. We will all get our tool and we WILL make
good use of it!
— tootsie52
March 23, 2008
it took me just shy of 3 years from start to finish - a denial and a give
up in there somewhere. sometimes the hoops seem never ending and so one
sided - like no one else is having issues. but it's all worth it in the
end. in a size 4; down 137lbs FOREVER! was it worth it? Absolutely! good
luck!
— jammerz
March 23, 2008
Don't look at it as making up for the last three months pre- op. Look at it
as preparing for a new life altogether. Don't let any one beat you up
emotionally for the choices you made...it's done... look forward to your
new life.
Good luck!
— Jeanne Aldrich
March 23, 2008
Yes. I had to jump through hoops too! It will be a year for me in June.
But feel glad that you ARE approved ... and that you are about to begin
your journey! Congrats!
— B. Jones
March 23, 2008
And Tracy. You did it how you had to do it. Make no mistake about it. No
one knows the path we take to get to the decisions we make. What may seem
strange to others may make perfect sense for you, your goals and your
lifestyle. So like the song says "You do you"!
— B. Jones
March 24, 2008
It took me 2 years- and was denied twice before it was ok'd. I had my
surgery 3 1/2 weeks ago and it was worth every bit. I -like everyone have
had moments- but I have a lot of life left in me. Life is good!!!
— sueannel123
March 24, 2008
Tracy, count your blessings, some people jump through hoops for four or
five years to get surgery, many people suffer different things to just get
there. I had to wait 9 months to just see my surgeon for the first time.
We all have "stuff" we go through. Your patience in this part of
the process can play an important role in your recovery and weight loss.
It will also take jumping through hoops and being patient. You have only
begun. Patricia P.
— Patricia P
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