Question:
I don't know what to do.
I had RNY on 07/13/2009 and I have lost a total of 29 pounds, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I want to be happy for others but I get sick and tired of hearing how other people have lost double what I have in this short abount of time. I know everybody is different and I didn't put the weight on overnight but I feel like I'm in a losing battle. I had my first plateau at 2 weeks which lasted for about 2 weeks. I saw my dodctor last month and he said I should lose another 30 lbs by October, I don't really see how that is going to happen with my slow progress I just feel like it's going to take forever. Also I'm only getting in about 300-500 calories aday if I'm lucky and to be honest I have never had more than 24 oz of water in a day. I do work and exercise on a daily basis but I was wondering if I'm not eating enough or maybe I'm eating the wrong foods. My husband is currently deployed and I want my weight loss to be a big suprise but don't think it will happen. Please someone tell me what to do. — angelhonee (posted on September 5, 2009)
September 5, 2009
you are doing really well. i don't even know why i am writing this.
you're not going to be 120 lbs after 6 weeks. 29 lbs is spectacular
progress. everyone plateaus at 2 weeks-- it has to do with something
called glycogen which is an energy storing substance in your muscles. as
long as you are getting fewer calories than you burn you will lose weight.
you're doing fine.
— greenpunchbuggie
September 5, 2009
Getting your water and protein are both very important. Maybe not getting
enough water is holding your weight loss up. But 29 pounds is great keep a
smile on your face =) God bless and good luck!!!
— TanyaMuncy
September 5, 2009
It's my understanding that we should be drinking a minimum of 48 oz of
water a day. You're not drinking enough water.
— agwc
September 5, 2009
I agree with what the others have said. I had RNY on July 8th. I have lost
35 pounds and I am satisfied with that because I know that I MUST continue
to lose, so it's not like the numbers are not going to continue to drop.
PLUS I figure if the weight drops a little more slowly, I have a better
chance of my skin being able to keep up with the loss by shrinking as I
lose. The down side of losing allot very quickly is that the skin is out of
sync with the decrease in size. Most of us suffer with some hanging skin. I
just figure it will be less for me if I lose weight just a tad more slowly.
You will lose weight, don't worry, and your husband will be so impressed
when he sees you. Keep your chin up.
— browngathers
September 5, 2009
I have the same problem... I had RNY on July 23 and haven't lost anything
in the past 3 weeks... it is sooo frustrating. Like you I do not get in
enough calories, my nutritionist warned me that if you don't get in enough
calories it can stall your weight loss (your body is in starvation mode and
is holding on to everything).
I have tried to eat more, walk more each day, and drink (I know it feels
impossible to eat what we are supposed to and drink all that we have to in
one day - I usually don't but I try more each day). I understand
completely how you feel, just hang in there everyone says we will get
through this!!!! (I hope!)
— wendy-s
September 5, 2009
First, I want to say "thank you" to both you and your husband for
the sacrifices you are making for our country. Freedom isn't free, and it
is folks like you who pay the brunt of the price.
Second, by having the surgery, you made a tremendous step forward in
licking our mutual addiction: food. Work on the health issues, (physical,
mental, emotional, spiritual), and the weight WILL come off. It's never
fast enough for any of us. But it will teach you patience and
perseverence, and with your husband deployed, you'll need both!
— jtoothman
September 5, 2009
I had my surgery the week before you and have lost just about the same as
you. I can see how you can get a little frustrated when you hear about
those losing 40-60 pounds to your 29. But as the previous posters said,
you WILL lose...you can't not, and the more slowly you lose, the better you
will look (your skin will shrink with you).
As far as getting enough protein, I know it's hard when you can't eat much.
What has helped me is the meal plans on Bariatriceating.com
(http://www.bariatriceating.com/BEhealthnutrition/foodjournal.php)
There are suggestions and ideas for each meal....it really helps me when
I'm not sure of exactly what I should be eating.
But most importantly....don't lose heart....the weight WILL come off &
your honey will be so proud of you!
— Jeanne C.
September 5, 2009
Do not give up you will loose... However, as another one posted you are
not getting enough water or calories. I had my surgery in August of 08 and
I went through a phase where I thought the less consumed the faster the
weight would come off... I was wrong. every person is different, however,
once I increased to about 900 cal per day and really drank my fluids the
weight started comim off. If you are not getting enough protein add
protein drinks to you calorie count. If you don't like plain water there
are a million calorie free or low cal things you can add to it. DON"T
GIVE UP... FYI... I can tell you from experience that he won't care what
you look like when he comes home as long as you are there with a huge hug
and a big sloppy kiss.
— phyllismmay
September 6, 2009
You are doing great! But I understand your frustrations - I am a year out
as of yesterday, and it seems the further out I get the more I plateau.
But take your measurements every month and look at those - it is amazing!
Also, don't expect it to be this fast for the rest of the time - the first
month you lose the most, but then it will slow down some. My surgeon told
me if you lose more than 12 lbs in a month, it is either water or muscle -
and you don't want to lose muscle! It was really hard for me to drink
enough water for nearly 4 months - I just couldn't get it down - not to
mention all the protein! The shakes/protein drinks were the only thing
that helped me for the first 6 months. But not getting enough water in can
slow the weight loss down as well as not getting in enough protein. And
then the last piece of the puzzle - that "E" word - exercise. If
you can just get out and walk for 30 minutes a day, that would help you
tremendously! But be sure you make it part of your day - schedule it in,
and don't let anything else come in the way of it. Treat it as a doctor
appt that you wouldn't cancel. And even if you don't feel like going
walking, make yourself do it - once you get started, you will feel so much
better and it will be fun and you'll feel better about yourself. Find a
friend who would be willing to be your support person for these walks - who
will get out there and do it with you and encourage you. If you have a
dog, take them with you for the walk. Or if you have kids, get them to go
with you - it's a great way to get kids more active as well. Our children
tend to learn our habits (especially our bad ones), so now is the perfect
time to retrain them - and they'll be excited to help you out as you will
have so much more energy for them. I know I am a year out from the VGS,
and it does get more difficult the further out you get, but making those
changes now will make all the difference. And later on in your journey if
you feel stalled or you think you might returning to some of your bad
eating habits, try the 5 day pouch test - it gets you back on track.
Congrats! You are already a success! Keep up the good work.
— Wendy M.
September 6, 2009
I saw a picture of you on your profile and you look great. You will lose
the weight.. Be patient. I know you have heard all of this before but hang
in there. I sometimes think that it is wrong for a doctor to put a number
on how much you should lose..He or she should know that we are all
different. I to have a hard time getting my fluids in to this day (I am 16
months post op) and I know when I don't get in my fluids my weight slows
down..I have to force myself to drink...Good luck and you look
fabulous.....
— okbuffy
September 6, 2009
Hi And congrats on your loss thus far. You are doing well. My clinic says
you are to lose about 20 lbs a month and you are right on. Now...If you are
drinking a small amount...you could be dehydrated. And this is not a good
thing. You will not lose a pound if you are. I was dehydrated and it took
me 2-3 weeks to get re hydrated drinking about 90 ounces a day to get
there. I knew I was dehydrated because my eyes didn't tear when I yawned
and I had little saliva. You know when you yawn how your mouth kind of
fills with spit..mine didn't. I hope you aren't, but please do get all your
fluids in. Best of luck to you and congrats again! Hugs,Kim
— gpcmist
September 7, 2009
You will lose the weight. I had the same problem last year after RNY on
7/22/08. The weight comes off slowly for some people, continue to drink
alot of water.
Nevalle W.
— wade0005
September 8, 2009
I am not sure if this has any bearing on what your are talking about, I had
my proximal bypass in 2007, 250 pounds give or take, funny how you forget
lol...here it is 2009, I finally hit my goal here a month or so ago...130
actually passed my goal which was 135...there were days the weight stayed,
days I would lose a pound gain back two, or lose 5 pound in a day and gain
one or two back the next..
Some days or weeks it wouldn't move one way or the other...Well now my
problem is a tiny bit different..How to keep it on..I am afraid to go for a
walk in fear I will lose ten pounds..LOL..
It takes time, slow is good, Fast not so good, and with this surgery I
learned Patience is a definite virtue.
I quit looking at the scale except in the doctors office for my 3 mo.
check ups..I quit worrying about it..then here a mo. or so ago. Hubby says
here get on the scales..I nearly fainted..(not really) but wow, 130 I was
not expecting it..I went shopping...
Try not to worry talk to your doctor make sure everything is ok, make
sure you are eating the way he wants you to,then forget about it..one day
you will look and it will be gone..
Big hugs to you I know its hard it takes everything we thought we knew
about dieting and losing weight and tosses it right out the window..they
did say NEw Life Style..LOL..
Big Hugs Gabby
— gaydria
September 10, 2009
i had rny july 28th.i have lost 34lbs since surgery and i had already lost
12 before surgery.i too feel like my wieght lose is slow.i find it hard to
get in my fliuds and protien.i platuea every week it seems.i stayed at 23
lbs lost for almost 2 weeks and have stayed at 31 lbs about 2 weeks.i felt
like i was just not going to lose it.i heard that if you don't get in your
fluids and water that you will be dehydrated and if you are then the wieght
lose will be slow.i walk but i could use some more walking.with my job it
is kind of hard but i try hard also.please keep me informed.i thought i was
the only one.water still hurts going down.does this happen to you.please
send me a private messge and let me know ok?warm liquids don't hurt but
water does.email is [email protected] if you want to email me.
— carolyn1970
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