Question:
Should I give up? Advice please...
I have been trying to have RNY surgery for almost two years now. This past December the surgeons office called and gave me a surgery date (03/03/09. They said that everything was in order, I had insurance approval, and good to go. I was thrilled! Then I received a call 1 week before the surgery date and was told that I needed a therapist's approval. I now have to see a therapist for a minimum of three months, then MAYBE they will let me have the surgery. I am so frustrated! I believe in signs. Is this a sign I should give up? - Kelly — stormynights (posted on April 1, 2009)
April 1, 2009
NO!, hang in there. You will appreciate when you are on the "loosing
side". I believe that obstacales are put there to see how determined
you are about your weight. I know people that their surgeon moved, quit,
changed the insurance they accepted etc, they kept going cause it meant
that much to them. You can do this!
— Kathy Thomas
April 1, 2009
Kelly,
Sounds like you have put alot of effort towards having the surgery. Don't
let this frustrate you. You'll be very pleased with the results and it is
worth going to a therapist for three months. Best of Luck!
Liz Carrere, RN
Bariatric Coordinator
Physicians Medical Center
218 Corporate Drive
Houma, LA 70360
(985) 850-5282
— lizcarrere
April 1, 2009
Kelly- Don't give up, the things in life that are the hardest to achieve
usually give us the most reward. If you are doing this for the right
reasons - your health - then don't give up. I was 355 lbs when I started
now I weigh about 170 lbs, and I'm having a frustrating time getting
approval for reconstructive surgery for my hanging skin. But I won't give
up until I have exhausted all avenues. Good Luck and May God Bless You!
— shelleyjean39
April 1, 2009
Hi Kelly I too had tried to have the RNY for 2 years. In 2004 I was
addicted to cocain and one of my agreements of my primary care doc was that
if I underwent treatment she would help with what she could so I could
under go the surgery. In May of 05 I decided that I was tired of the life I
was living and decided to go into rehab in September of 05 I checked myself
into a 30 day program in o6 I was baptized and have God in my lif,e in 05 I
went back to school and got my GED and started college,in o5 I started
seeing a diatition and lost 40 pounds when they where doing my blood work
prior to the surgery they found out I had Hep c genio type 1 the worse a
person can get, I started treatment a shot a week, 6 pills aday total of 14
at that time for other health reasons aday. They cancelled my surgery and I
was devistated I to believe in signs. I could not understand why this was
happening when I had been doing everything I needed to do and had God in my
life. Then I realised that it is for a reason what reason I did not know
until one day in October of 07 I was really depressed just going back to
bed pulled the covers over my head and recieved the call "is this
Tammi yes, this is so and so at UWMC its your turn u have waited long
enough" I dropped to the floor and thanked God the reason I believe is
that i was not strong enough, I had surgery July of 08 because my surgeon
underwent some health issues and I have lost 140 pounds to date was it
worth the wait evry hour every day and I would do it again. I have 3 years
and 10 months clean active in my church and I am living I just wanted to
share 3 months 2 years tomorrow its worth it be strong and do what u need
to do to live. This is the short version of my life u can read my blog
take care and u can wait it is so worth the wait I know it gets depressing
the wait seems like for ever thinking of u Tammi
— Tammi Sandoval
April 1, 2009
Unless you had a diagnosed addictive behavior before, I have difficulty in
understanding why you have to have 3 months of therapy? I saw a shrink one
time. I had consulted one prior to surgery for depression, and I consulte
him for the surgery evaluation. Perhaps you have a therapist you arleady
know, or can get a referral to another one? Most that go through these
evaluations have 1-2 visits, not months. DAVE
— Dave Chambers
April 1, 2009
Hi Kelly,
NO! Dont give up! I know the wait and hoops they want you to jump thru can
really get to you...but just take it instride and get everything done and
then enjoy your NEW body and NEW way of life!
See you on the LOSERS bench!
— tootsie52
April 1, 2009
I wouldn't. Some things are worth fighting and waiting for...you might see
it as a sign...I just see it as an obstacle and obstacles shouldn't stop
you if you truly believe you are ready for such an amazing transformation
and lifestyle change! I cannot imagine if I gave up after I had to wait a
year myself, after being approved, for other reasons besides therapy. That
year gave me time to research and appreciate the second chance at life by
reflecting on my own life and problems. I would NEVER undo my surgery or go
back to that MO body and lifestyle again...and I am one who never says
"never". Or believes in strong words (lies) like never, always,
or forever...EVEN if I gain half of my weight back over the years, as long
as I remain healthy, I will still consider myself a success! This is a sign
to stay strong and not give up...The wait it worth it for so many even with
some complications...They are worth the risks compared to staying MO! They
were for me! 3 more months? Not bad! I was raised in the military
life...I sometimes had to wait for months and months to even see my hubby
or hear from him at times...and I learned to stop thinking of everything in
terms of signs and omens..."What doesn't kill you makes you
stronger!" Good luck...Get your therapy for only 3 more months and
learn about YOU deep down inside where that thin person lives and dreams of
escape but has no way out on her own! Don't give up...You deserve
this...Hold up an invisible "sign" in the mirror that says
"I deserve to be thin and healthy"...There is your sign!
— .Anita R.
April 1, 2009
Thank you ALL for your WONDERFUL advice and kindness! I just needed a
little support... and you gave it to me. Thank you sooo much! - Kelly
— stormynights
April 1, 2009
Before I clicked on the question, I already answered NO, you should never
give up. You are a smart girl. Good luck to you.
— buggyboot
April 2, 2009
Check with your Surg to see if the have a Phyc that they refer to... Thats
what I did and I had do some personaly test... and then talk to the shrink
for 30 min... and then a few weeks later she sent over the letter to my
surgon...good luck
— playgirl2077
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