Question:
Any advise? Feeling guilty.
I blew it big time. There was a retirement party at work for 3 coworkers where they had three huge chocolate cakes. I wasn't even thinking and ate 2 small pieces. CRAP! And I didn't get sick. I didn't even think about it at the time. Then it dawned on me - what the hack did I just do??? I have been doing so wll with both my diet and exercise, too! Feeling very guilty. I don't want to blow it now. Any advise? (I now know that I can eat sugar without barfing). Very guilty. — C P. (posted on May 1, 2008)
May 1, 2008
Hi Carol. Don't beat yourself up. It's done. The only thing you can do
when you fall off the wagon is to get back on.
I too can eat anything. Sometimes I have a small "fun size"
candy bar, sometimes I have one bite of cake.
My dietician told me, eat what other people eat just not so much. So I
take that with a grain of salt, ALWAYS being conscious of what is best (and
necessary) for me with a little bit of leeway for what I like since
I"m still a human being.
Others may disagree with me here but it's working and I've lost 65 lbs. in
3 1/2 months. Believe me I still eat way less than other people and way
less than I used to.
Let go of the guilt...today is a new day.
Chris
— cjjordan
May 1, 2008
Hi Carol; I know what you're saying! I'm preop and have been on the preop
diet for 9 months. Every time I eat something I think I shouldn't I feel
like I have to walk another couple of miles to work it off. But I've
discussed this with my nutritionist, and she also says not to worry. This
is a life-long way of life, and they expect us to "cheat" on
occasion - she says I wouldn't be human if I didn't, and they'd know I'm
not truthful with myself or them if my diet logs don't show an occasional
sweet, etc. You haven't blown it - you enjoyed yourself without going
overboard. The important thing is that you recognized it and the potential
problem because you didn't dump, and you should congratualte yourself for
that and go on. Congratulations!
— obeseforever
May 1, 2008
The first time I tries some cake and didn't get sick, I though I was home
free. Then I went to a party and tried some cake with icing, and got so
sick. I was swetting, cramps, amd just feeling really bad all over. That
was the last time for me. Don't push the limits. You will never for get
it. Kist say you messed up and get over it. I have, but it was a big
embaresment in front of all my freinds when I took ill at the party.
— William (Bill) wmil
May 1, 2008
You have to allow yourself these times without the guilt and just move on.
I purposely have days when I decide I am going to eat something I should
eat all the time. The key is to allow these times infrequently and in
moderation. This is the rest of your life and by eating a little naughty
food now and then is not going to kill you. Forgive yourself and do not do
it often and you will be JUST fine! If you still feel guilty...get out your
sneakers and take a job around the block for redemption! That's what I do!
Whatever you do...don't start pushing it and get off track so far you give
up eating right...Then you might really want to beat yourself up...because
then you really have trouble! Hugs!
— .Anita R.
May 1, 2008
I did the same and ended up gaining almost 40 pounds back. I have lost it
all plus more and am now at 125 pounds. I put sugar back on the band list
and do not eat it. I hit the dieting hard and had great results.
— nascar_angel_3_2003
May 1, 2008
So you're human huh? Like the others said. Your going to stumble now and
then, just brush off and pick yourself up and do better. Please be careful
tho, you might not have dumped this time, but your still can. You
especially don't want to find out the hard way at an outing. When you dump
alot of fluid from your system is quickly "dumped" into the
intestine. You could experience from the traditional vomiting, heart
racing, etc. or diarreah. It happened to me that way, and I don't flirt
with disaster anymore. Take care of yourself and your tool. And don't be
so hard on yourself! Good luck! Lesleigh in Ga
— lesleigh07
May 1, 2008
Don't be fooled that you can now eat sugar. I occassionally have a cookie
or something with more than 6 grams of sugar and feel fine. BUT!!! I have
had two occassions when sugar made me really sick, it could be that you can
tolerate more than most. And don't beat yourself up about the occassional
slip...it happens. As long as you jump right back in there and don't keep
up the bad habits you'll be fine.
— deebunny38
May 1, 2008
You haven't "blown it", you made a choice to eat a little treat
and it's over and done with. Now is what counts, the way you choose to
move on from here. Forget about yesterday and focus on the future. Keep
the focus on your goals and moving forward toward health and wellness.
Good luck,
Dawn Vickers, RN, BLC, CLC
— DawnVic
May 1, 2008
Hey...that chocolate cake is not gonna make you gain weight...the GUILT
from eating it WILL...stop with guilt...it is a killer of the soul and one
of the least productive of all human activity...so what?!...you ate some
cake...do NOT dwell on it...celebrate your weight loss instead of focusing
on a little bit of POWERLESS cake...it's over...look forward to
tomorrow...YOU ARE GREAT...stay positive!!!! Peace & Light...Samantha
— Samantha M.
May 1, 2008
Thats why I have'nt even tried anything like that afried it might not make
me sick
— ELAINE44
May 1, 2008
i can relate to the guilt. There was a birthday party at work for one of
my friends and I had a few bites of a slice of cake. OMG the guilt!! It's
definitely not worth it to me. Whether I get sick or not it doesn't
matter. the guilt was worth than the 'jewish guilt' I get from my mother.
We just have to not let the guilt consume us and try and move forward and
not regress further.
— Danielle T.
May 1, 2008
Dont eat cake..... Plain and simple. You have to be able to say no to
sweets. But on the ohter hand dont deprive yourself either. I am a
chocoholic. I eat chocolate when ever I want it. I just cant eat a lot
because thank god I dump. I dont get sick or anyhting I jsut feel like
crap for about 45 minutes. Its enough to make me think the next time I do
it.
— Joanc
May 1, 2008
I don't think that you should be beating yourself up so much!! Yes, you
are feeling guilty, probably more normal than you think. So, you had two
small pieces of cake, okay, so what? Just get back to what you are supposed
to be doing and let it go! Guilt is not healthy, probably worse for you
than the cake. Moderation is the key. It's not like you are doing this
everyday, is it?? Also, just because you didn't "barf" this
time, doesn't mean that you might not "next time". You don't know
what the "nutritional" stats of the cake were, so don't take this
as an open invitation to eat sweets. Wishing you good luck and wisdom for
the future.
— anitak
May 2, 2008
Ok Carol, you feel guilty, I would too. You awakened something in you that
you will have to deal with. That's the bad news. The good news is the
same, you have the opportunity to now deal with this ugly truth, that we
eat what we want, when we want. We want it all and we want it now as the
commercial says. It is ok to feel guilty when you do something wrong, but
don't beat yourself up to the point it does not need to go. Guilt should
drive you to walk away from what you know is bad. When fire it too close,
what do we do? Back off because fire hurts. Well, treat this the same
way. When sugar is close, soap it, wash it, throw it to the birds, do
something besides eat it. You did this without thinking you said, ok, so
think next time. Don't allow yourself to not think about your food
choices, at least for now. The mindset is up to you. The choices you make
are yours to make, you are an adult, but the consequences are yours alone
as well. Take care, and I wish you well.
— Patricia P
May 2, 2008
An occasional couple bites of dessert is fine... as long as you can stick
to a couple bites and not create an unhealthy habit.
Just because you didn't dump on 2 bites, doesn't mean you won't dump on
something else (or a couple more bites).
— gonnadoit
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