Question:
Illeffects of gastric bypass surgery with a BMI of 41

Please, I sure hope someone responds. I really hate to say this, but the negative comments come from gals that are heavy. Is there any truth to this concern? I heard that if you are not morbidly obese, gastric bypass surgery is not a good thing. I had a 41 BMI, I am 6 months out and I am at goal, and I have lost 106 lbs. This is one reason why I do not like to tell folks that I had GBS, people can be so mean and jealous.    — FSUMom (posted on February 28, 2010)


February 28, 2010
I would say don't listen to those people. They are probably jealous. You should be very proud. I also have a BMI of 41 and one month out. Lost 19 lbs and looking forward to more. Keep smiling and give yourself a pat on the back. Bonnie
   — reallady

February 28, 2010
I haven't had surgery yet, however, I too am hesitant to tell people that I am going to. I have heard some really crappy things about people who have had WLS, like, oh that was the easy way out, why can't you just diet?, or my favorite is, I know someone who had it and gained all their weight back. I want to scream. I decided that the only people who are going to know are close fam and friends. Everyone else can hear the truth! I cut out sugar and fats and I'm eating WAY.... less LOL! Be proud, anyone who makes this decision is brave and strong and that doesn't include all the crap we've went through being fat!!! You go girl
   — imamom462

February 28, 2010
I'm 8 months out from my open RNY and can count on one hand the number of people I've chosen to share my decision. Even if you only tell the ones closest to you, their reaction may not be what you expect, which is one of the things I've experienced! It's only one person, but that's one person too many, in my opinion. I'm still happy and confident in my decision. You're not obligated to share your story with anyone!
   — KiaSunRay

February 28, 2010
whoever said this is the easy way out has no idea what they are talking about!!! this is the hardest thing i have ever done! dont get me wrong, i would do it again. i started at 264 and i am down to 183. my surg was 12-15-09. i went thru hell the first 2 months! up untill 2 weeks ago i couldnt eat and could barely drink. dr said it was all in my head. boy was he wrong. found out i have an ulser and had a kink in my small intestines. i had surg again 2 weeks ago and i feel alot better now. this isnt a quick fix! you have to work at it all the time, getting down protine shakes, making sure you REMEMBER to eat and getting all of your water in, its alot of work! hang in there its all worth it in the end!! who cares what others think u are the one who is doing all the work not them
   — watch_me_do_it

February 28, 2010
I don't like to tell anyone either. I had a BMI of 42, as I remember. I think it is a personal decision. There is so much judgement about obesity. If you had a BMI of 41, you were morbidly obese. I personally wouldn't have gastric bypass if I had less than around 100 pounds to lose. Other people can't tell you what is right for you. if you are happy with your decion to have a gastric by pass, then it was right for you.
   — MargaretHM

March 1, 2010
My Dr told me to tell those that ask,I now consume less than 1000 calories and I exercise! Its the truth!
   — davonjack

March 1, 2010
I, too, had a BMI of 41 when I began. I had an rny on 12/23/09. Before surgery, I had to do the 24 wks of dieting and ended up losing too much weight, so then couldn't have the surgery. Then, I put on all of that weight and an extra 20 lbs (not intentionally). I am 42 yrs old and have spent darn near my entire life being fat. I have tried every diet out there and have had success and then failure. Ultimately, I was never able to keep it off. The people that have told you that you took the easy way out have no idea what you have to go through to get here. This process has been the most difficult thing I've ever had to go through in my entire life! There is absolutely NOTHING that is easy about this. The up's and down's, the emotional stuff that goes with it, and having to give up everything that gives you pleasure...that has been the hardest for me. Trying to find something new that fills the void that doesn't make my keester 10 ft wide I think is about the hardest thing I've had to do through all of this, even harder than quitting smoking! Seriously, please try not to worry about everybody else and do what's best for you. You have the support and friendship of all of us here on this site that know exactly what you're going through. We care and support you! Take care, Kristin
   — taylork25

March 1, 2010
I too was at a BMI of 41. I think it is ridiculous that insurance companies make people wait past that point. I did what the doctors told me, never had one ounce of trouble. Exercised and lost 125lbs. That's the way it should be. Not to where a person has to lose 200 or more before the procedure is approved. I say count your blessings and just feel sorry for the naysayers, they either have never had a weight problem or are jealous!
   — Sandra N.

March 1, 2010
i started at 325, i'm 6 months out and down 101 pounds. I just got to 40bmi and I am proud of what I've done. I don't care who knows. I dont care what anyone thinks.... we have all taken control back of our lives!! dont be embarassed it took a lot of courage for you to make that decision. And if we were able to lose it on our own we all would have! People fear what they dont understand. If they are you friends and they care about you truly they will be on your side. Good for you!!
   — MarthaJ0110

March 1, 2010
First of all congradulations on your weight loss. You are a sucess story. I'm 8 months out and have lost 100lbs. I tell everyone I've had RNY and have had no negative responses. I find alot of people very curious not jealous or mean. Continue to hold your head high you've taken your health back, Good for you!!!!!
   — donnaholman




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