Question:
I am planning a wedding for my sister.

We are planning her wedding dinner in the buffet. A few of our guests have had weight loss surgery and one is refusing to go because she won't eat $20 worth of food. A friend said she once heard that if you have had this surgery, and can get a note from your doctor, perhaps the buffet will only charge the child's rate for that particular diner. Does anyone know if this is true. I would love to be able to tell our guests this is an option, because I don't really blame them for not wanting to pay full cost for a meal they can't eat that much of.    — celticdreamer (posted on August 25, 2009)


August 25, 2009
Most people who have WLS do receive a card to present when dining out so that they may order from the child's menu or just appetizers. If your guests don't have it they should be able to get another from their doctor. Good luck with the plans.
   — kaylazoe

August 25, 2009
who asks guests at a wedding to pay a cover? isn't that what the wedding gifts are for? i wouldn't go either.
   — greenpunchbuggie

August 25, 2009
First of all shame on you Jen on your rude comment. Don't be so judge mental until you know the whole story. And shame on your guest for worrying about getting her money worth. I have also heard of the Dr office giving you a card. Ask the place where you are going to if they are willing to reduce the rates for a few of your guests and explain your situation. All they can say is "no". Good luck with your planning.
   — Supersize

August 25, 2009

   — lieutenant-ed

August 25, 2009
This is one of the mindset changes that has to be worked through after WLS--not being able to eat your money's worth. After WLS you have to decide that it's ok to go and get something you really enjoy eating, eat what you can and let the rest go back to the kitchen if you can't/don't wish to take a "doggie bag." I would never consider $20 too much to spend to be at a wedding buffet of someone I consider special even if I only ate one or two bites -- it's really not about the food or the cost of it. My doctor does give each of his patients a card that you can show to restaurants that says you've had weight loss surgery and you can only eat 4 ounces of food. Some restaurants have been willing to go along with this and others don't seem to care. Since my surgery I have changed so that now I don't see a meal as having to get my money's worth but rather a time to be with friends and to eat what I need to fuel my body. Obese people always found buffets a good "value" because they could eat as much as the wanted which is one of the reasons they are obese.
   — rkurquhart

August 25, 2009
I'm with you Bob. The wedding day isn't about them, it's about your sister. If they don't like it or want to pay #20 to spend time with family/friends then let them not attend. I mean I feel the same way in the fact that I don't want to pay for a buffet when I don't eat that much or even only one plate, but $20 isn't that much to attend a special day for someone, and I would NOT ask them to change it or refuse to go based on that fact alone. These people are being selfish, and need to get over it.
   — Carrie S.

August 25, 2009
Here's what i would be thinking: "Load up a plate and take it home," but seriously, $20 bucks isn't too bad. Think of it as paying for the company. Now $45 might be a little steep if your not eating, at least for me.
   — Joseph Johnson

August 26, 2009
I went to a wedding years ago where the B&G requested people to bring a pot luck in lieu of a gift. It was great fun and there was a ton of food. Anyway, I've had to attend some buffets and just brought along my own container and took some food home. Most places serving buffet won't give you a doggy bag - so bring your own (anyway, it's good for the environment). Also, $20 is not a lot to spend time with friends and family. I figure I probably ate more than $20 worth before i had WLS. Just go and have fun!
   — Muggs

August 26, 2009
When those wls guests send in their RSVPs, if possible, just mark them down as a child guest. That way, only a child's meal will be charged for the wls ppl.
   — babs71958

August 26, 2009
I did get a card from my Dr... most regular resturants that I have been to will let you order off the kids menu... the best thing to do is to call the location in advance and ask them.
   — phyllismmay

August 27, 2009
Here's a link to Obesity Help's restaurant card. http://www.obesityhelp.com/magazine/RestaurantCard.html
   — susyhoho




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