Question:
why!! do people have to be so rude and negative

Would you all please be kind as I am trying to be supporative to others ' I had made a statement about my health and the amazement at the improvement ,and so many people have made positive comments, and then I get a rude comment on my statement. I have had a bad year, 3 hospitol stays for dehydration, and to restreach my stomach ,and I have been sick and throwing up for 12 months. I am happy at my new life and I would do it again , My aunt even died during rny surgery this year please be more supporative and not say anything if its not good as people need support Please read the answers to my previous statement . (statement of amazement please read ) and see for yourself thanks Cindy    — toyotawife (posted on October 18, 2008)


October 18, 2008
Cindy Hi I did not get to read your question or the reply, sorry. I want to say that I am sorry if someone has over stepped and was rude or not kind. We all have feelings, different things going on in our lives. I think it doesn't matter how far we are from our surgery we have all had emotions that are over whelming at one point or another in our journey. At times people do not think before they speak. Please continue to share to ask questions and to anyone else who may have read what was said please do not let this stop you from asking questions, no question is dumb and anything you want to share please do so. I enjoy this website and we all need to be here for each other. Bless you Cindy and thank you for being able to stand up and say something. Tammi Sandoval RNY July 16,08
   — Tammi Sandoval

October 18, 2008
I hope you are feeling better and please dont let the rude comments get you down only you know how it has been for you so please keep up the good work and get yourself hotter then ever sending you only good thoughts
   — sawwas

October 18, 2008
Cindy, I have not been able to find your previous statement so I couldn't find the rude response you are referring to. I am thrilled that you have been through so much adversity and have come such a long way with a positive attitude. Please try to ignore those who have nothing better than to be rude and focus on the positive. Keep up the good work, Dawn Vickers, RN, BLC, CLC
   — DawnVic

October 18, 2008
cindy i am so sorry that the women was so rude to you. i remember reading her comment to you. she was upset because you didnt use any punctuation. well i thought OH was for support on weight loss, not english class. i think you were fine posting it like you did and all ihave to say to t he women who posted that was karma is a B#$%&!!!!!!! Congrats to you and your knew life, i cant wait to start mine. 6 weeks to go. take care
   — jackie L.

October 18, 2008
Note: I found Cindy's previous post, "statement of amazement" by clicking on "Expand List of Questions." Anyway...... Hey there Cindy, I saw the rude post you were referring to, it was left by "Dawn Marcia Wilson" whom, apparently, must be menstruating, or perhaps forgot to take her "medication" today....... Anyway, I, and everyone else here are sorry you were subjected to such rude, and judgmental comments, when all you were trying to do was express JOY at your new life and new health. I know just how you feel, my life has changed in a lot of positive ways since I had my surgery. Best wishes and keep in touch here at OH.com!
   — Gina S.

October 18, 2008
Hang in there Cindy! You are a champ and I wish you the best of luck!
   — katiecakes

October 18, 2008

   — pjwinslow

October 18, 2008
I see this rude person's profile is private. Did you all see this? I think that is very rude of this person and they should be ashamed of themselves. Frankly, I am very shocked at this comment. This is supposed to be a board where we help each other with WLS questions, not critiquing others on there English. I am going to critique this person by saying please go and learn some manners!!!! Sorry Cindy for this person's rude comment to you. How shameful!!
   — trishhooper

October 19, 2008
Cindy, I am so sorry that people have offended you. It sounds like you are having a terrible time of it. I, like you, love this site. If it weren't for people on this site I would have not idea what was going on with my body as my nut is basically worthless. I have had a few negative comments myself but refuse to let them get to me. I am only 8 weeks out but love the changes in how I feel most of the time. Hang in there and keep your chin up.
   — phyllismmay

October 19, 2008
cindy ignore that rude comment. She is obviously having a hard time following the rules of this site herself. and perhaps she should take her own advice and check what the rules are for OH keep up the good work.
   — Gabbygal68

October 19, 2008
Cindy, There are so many members on this site who are kind and supportive. Take in all of the positive comments you get and lean on them for your support. You can email me anytime if you need support. I am having surgery on the 23rd, so if I don't email right away, you will know why. Take care and hang in there. God Bless Penny [email protected]
   — pennyandcj

October 19, 2008
Hi there, I too have not read the responses that you received from your first post, but I would like to. What was the date that you posted the first time. I also wanted to apologize for anyone's negativity as well. I have noticed that while most people on this board are very supportive and comforting people (without them I would have never had my surgery) but there are some that cant seem to find the positive in anything. I did read your first post just not the responses and would like to say congrats on your weight loss and your accomplishments. It's a great feeling isn't it? Good for you and I am so happy for you!! God Bless! Angie (sillyguts)
   — Sillyguts

October 19, 2008
Head up.........we do not need rudeness oh here!!
   — jennifer1976

October 19, 2008
Hi, Cindy - I went back & read your statement of amazement, and the responses, and wow!! I started to read it when it was first posted but it was kind of hard to read w/o any punctuation - but one thing came through loud and clear: you're extremely excited about your new healthy life and wanted to share! I'm still pre-op but looking forward to having the rny, and lately I've been kind of depressed that it seems to be taking forever to get stuff done before I can even get scheduled. But reading your post reminded me of the reasons I wanted to have the surgery in the first place - to be healthier & to not feel like a burden or an embarrassment to my family. So thank YOU - betcha didn't even know that your post might be supportive to someone else, in addition to sharing your own joy. And hey, what the heck, one negative post - don't sweat it. Maybe she was having a bad day. I'm very sorry for the loss of your aunt, though. I hope things are going better for you now, and congrats on the new happier, healthier you:-)
   — sem51

October 19, 2008
well guess what i just posted on here and i usually type and dont worry about punctuality either .i want to fix it but once i start typing i cant stop, but I am not good with all of the dots and crossed t"s ,, i got a bunch of responses and no one said anything they understood me im sorry somone doesnt have anything better to do with their time but you GO GIRL Live Life.
   — cathacus

October 20, 2008
Hi Cindy, My name is jennie and I feel like you do. I had someone be rude to me as well and I think that really dicourage me from asking questions any longer. People dont stop to think what others are going thru. I am sorry it happen to you. Jennie
   — zydeko47

October 22, 2008
OMG!! WTH>>> Cindy keep on posting your feelings & stuff and If someone is RUDE let them know ASAP This journey is hard enough ... don't need any NEGATIVITY!!! God Bless u and keep um coming!!! I just wanted u to know I support U! rose78
   — rose78




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