Question:
I need some help.
I had my surgery date on december 19th, the night before I woke up from a nap and got extremely dizzy and disorientated and came close to blacking out, that scared me immensely, a few hours later I got horrible pains in my stomache and the doctor on call said it was an allergic reaction to the pills, now I know I NEED this surgery but its just a bit hard for me, I don't really have much support for it, my parents keep down talking it, and telling me I don't need it and I shouldnt get it, I could use some advice, has anyone else had an episode like that, I'm not really sure if it was an allergic reaction or if I was dehydrated. I don't know, I want the surgery, but its hard hard to stay strong when people fill your head with ideas you know? — kickstyle (posted on January 1, 2007)
January 1, 2007
Keesha---I've had similar episodes and my doctor told me I was dehydrated.
Since then, as long as I get enough fluids, I'm ok. As far as the debate
of having the surgery versus not having the surgery. . .It was the best
thing I have ever done. If I had to do it again, I would in a heartbeat.
You have to do what you know is best for you. I have lost about 120 pounds
and feel better than I've ever felt. Before the surgery, I was pretty much
to the point that I didn't want to be around anymore. When the weight
started falling off, I would've told anyone that this surgery saved my
life. However, I have come to realize that God saved my life by giving me
the opportunity to have the surgery in the first place. Take advantage of
it. You owe it to yourself. God bless you!
— skinnytz
January 1, 2007
what type of pill did you take? as far as the support issue i think
support is very important, but you need to understand that your parents are
probabley scared too and that's where some of the down talk is comming
from. sit down and explain to them where you are comming from and exactly
why you want the surgery and why you feel that you need the surgery and it
may help them understand better and maybe then they can and will support
you better. hope this helps holly
— RNlvnCARSON
January 1, 2007
Hi Keesha, I will be having surgery tomorrow morning. I opted not to tell
too many people. Of course my husband knows and my son somewhat. Acouple of
people at my church know to include my pastor for prayer. Some of my inlaws
just know I'm having surgery but not exactly what. My family at home I
decided not to tell, especially my parents. I didn't want them putting
their fears on me which I know they would. I only told people that I knew
who would be supportive and not negative, especially my mom. Either way, we
have to have a peace about it within. I prayed a silent prayer asking the
Lord to give me peace if this is for me and also my husband peace to. I
have had peace since which was around this time last week. My husband ia
better to what magnitude I'm not sure. What matteres is that you have the
peace and pray and ask the Lord to give it to your family as well.
— puddin35
January 1, 2007
Keesha, I am sorry your parents aren't supportive. Everyone has doubts
before their surgery. The horrible pains were probably from nerves. I had
head pains about a week before surgery and I'm sure it was nerves. This is
perfectly normal. You are having this surgery for you....if you were
approved and the insurance company is covering it, then you should go ahead
and don't listen to the negatives. I also didn't tell many people and the
ones who tried to discourage me well I told them about my medical problems
and the fact that the insurance approved it and then they understood. My
kids were the best at being happy that I was going to get healthy. Just
re-schedule the surgery and don't say anything more! Good luck!
— Sheri A.
January 1, 2007
Keesha, I also have had similar problems, and two of mine were because of
my blood sugar levels, and the other was because of dehydration. Go for
the surgery!
As for no support, I also had 2 children and a few friends that were
totally convinced I would die on the operating table. I had faith in my
doctor, and everything went well. Do this for you, if you want to, and not
for anyone else. Once your family and/or friends see how well you are
doing, they will become very supportive. My two children, of the six, can
now see how important it was for me to have it.
Enjoy your new beginning! - Debbie Hoggan
— DebbieHoggan
January 1, 2007
HI KEESH,I HAD MY SURGERY JULY 2002.I HAD NO SUPPORT WHATSOEVER. I WAS ON
MY OWN WITH IT.MY FAMILY, ESPECIALLY MY SISTER WAS DEAD SET AGAINST IT, BUT
YOU KNOW WHAT?I GUESS SHE WAS JEALOUS SEEING THE WEIGHT FALL OFF OF
ME,BECAUSE SHE WENT AND HAD IT DONE ALSO.SO HONEY, DO WHAT YOU THINK IS
BEST FOR YOU.I DID.
— deb44m
January 2, 2007
All I can say is that I am soooo glad I had the surgery. My puality of
life is much better! I can tie my shoes easily, bend over and pick things
up off the floor easily, and fit into theater seats with room to spare!
these are all little things, but significant when you couldn't do them
before. If you have truloy tired everything else, the surgery is good.
— Novashannon
January 2, 2007
Anxiety and Stress can play a strong part in not only emotions but also
your physical well being. I havent had my surgery yet, but I think it is
crucial to have a peace in my own mind about having the surgery and a
confidence in knowing every aspect about this surgery and trusting in
myself and having faith that I can do this before I do it. Also, I have
listened to what others have said and try to understand them, yet I am the
one who has done the research and know all the pros and cons and have
weighed them all out in my own head and i am the one making this sacrifice
and i am the one who has to live with this body, I am the one that should
know what I am willing to give up or take on to change my body and better
my life. I have thought it all out and with education and lots of prayer
have eased my mind about having the surgery. I think this is important, to
have peace in your mind about having the surgery. I think if I couldnt find
this before having surgery, I would be doing it right now until I could, no
matter what anyone else says, it all comes down to you and your surgeons
and medical team in that surgery room, your family arent the ones who cant
eat this or cant eat that, who need to watch this or need to watch that, it
is you and you alone. Sure it is good to have support this is very
important also to have someone to talk to about it and encourage you
through it, but you can also get this from friends, I get most of my
support from people I go to church with. Your family may be scared too, but
sometimes, as I have discovered, people even family, are often
uncomfortable when you try to better yourself, they feel that then they
would need to ...It makes them have to face that maybe they need to make
some changes themselves, and they dont like that. I dont know if any of
this makes any sence but I hope it helps some.
— Rhonda Lassabe
January 2, 2007
I know where you are coming from with the support issue. Everyone in the
world tried to talk me out of it, tried to scare me. I finally got fed up
and realized that I was not having this surgery for them, I was having it
for myself. It is hard to go through it without the support, although my
hubby was very supportive. You cant help but wonder if you are doing the
right thing. But I will tell you this, out of those who downed the surgery
3 have already said they are thinking of having it done after they have
seen how well I have done. You have to make the decision not anyone else
can make it for you. I think you should be mentally ready to do it also,
because if you think you are going to fail, you just might. But if you
know in your heart that you are worth it and your health is worth it, then
you have nowhere to go but down (in weight)! It has been the best thing
that I have ever done in my life, and you know that saying...look who has
the last laugh. Some people are just jealous, and some are so concerned
with the word surgery, they cannot see past that! As for being dehydrated,
it has only happened once, and it was a feeling I will never forget. I
promised myself it would never happen again, and it hasn't. You are worth
helping yourself feel better, look better, and live longer...you make your
own choice and we are here for ya! Good luck
— Melinda34
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