Question:
Looking for a boost
I am 3 weeks out and not happy. I have already seen a difference with how I look at food and have done very well following my docs diet. But I am sad at the fact that I have only lost 16 pounds since the day of surgery. But to make matters worse I was down to 187 last week and now I am 190. I could have lost that with out putting myself thourgh this whole ordeal. But the weight I lost was within the first week and then I stopped until today when I weighed myself and saw that I gained. I have gone back to mostly liquids again with the exception of some fat free refried beans for lunch. I am happy I did the surgery and I try and tell myself that losing slower is better for my skin and all but it still makes a person so sad to think of everything we are trying to do and I feel like I am failing at it. Just like weight loss before surgery. I SHOULD walk more but man it has been COLD. But I go to the malls to try and get in some walking and to stay active but I still feel like crap. I really thought I would get more energy too. But none of that yet. Does or has anyone every felt like I am feeling? Thanks in advance for all ya'll support. God Bless. — mother2mykids (posted on December 24, 2008)
December 24, 2008
Oh honey bunny! Please do not be soooooo hard on yourself. You are only 3
weeks post-op and you are STILL healing from MAJOR SURGERY. The first month
- 4-6 weeks I was up and down, energy was low, had insomnia - it's the
roughest patch to get through. Just do what you are supposed to do, take
what you are supposed to take and really try to do more walking, it's the
best medicine for feeling better and for helping to get the weight off.
16lbs in 3 weeks is good. Oh yea, and if you have your monthly visitor (I
go up and down 5lbs during this time of the month - water retention, etc.)
or are stressed about something (like not losing enough weight) you can go
up and down a few lbs. Don't weight yourself daily. Do it like once a week,
in the am, right after your morning pee and before you get in the shower -
this is your true weight. Good luck.
— jammerz
December 24, 2008
Hang in there! You will feel better soon.
— Carlyn M.
December 24, 2008
Pick you chin up.... Weight will go up and down, you will have stalls along
the way. Its the long term goal you looking at. Just follow the rules along
the way and you will be successful. You will feel better soon. Right now
your job it to get our vitamins in, drink your fluids and get your protein
in. It took months before I had any energy and walking will help. So go hit
the malls, then come home and take a nap.
— urbrat2
December 24, 2008
Honey don't feel so bad. Your doc only wants you to lose between 12-16
pounds a month. You are doing wonderful. And DON'T
— katiecakes
December 24, 2008
Honey don't feel so bad. Your doc only wants you to lose between 12-16
pounds a month. You are doing wonderful. And DON'T WEIGH
— katiecakes
December 24, 2008
Honey don't feel so bad. Your doc only wants you to lose between 12-16
pounds a month. You are doing wonderful. And DON'T WEIGH YOURSELF every
day. Sorry girls I goofed on that so many times. Duh! Anyway...hang in
there you are doing great. It will get better. Don't give up and remember
we are all out here day and night!
— katiecakes
December 24, 2008
Season's Greetings Amanda -- you will see that 2-3 pounds difference from
time to time -- do not fret you will drop the weight. I'm almost 2 years
out and have dropped 110 lbs and have been fluctuating between 175 to 180
since February of this year. I don't stress about it because I know the
body is still adjusting to the weight loss -- I almost weighed 300 lbs so
you have to give your body time to adjust to the new weight it is now
carrying. There will be stalls on and off through this process. May I
suggest that you stay off the scales and just work your program and let
your clothes be your guide.
— the7thdean
December 24, 2008
Hi Amanda. I wanted to remark on your question. First, you are not the
only one who feels this way. I am 13 days postop lap-band. I met a few
people going through the surgery and preop on the same day as me and when I
saw them at support group, they all had lost 20-30-40 lb in a few weeks. I
got so discouraged because I had only lost 14 lb. I also have been on a
liquid diet and the scales went up a few lb. I really got in the dumps and
I have had emotional melt-downs and have not been very happy. I thought I
would be so overjoyed and just thankful I had no complications and got the
approval. But I believe my "whole body" is going through a
change. My own thought process and taste/desire for food has changed. I
have felt "angry" at times because others were eating and I
couldn't. I decided to quit weighing myself because I lost sight of why I
had the surgery in the first place and just concentrated on the "big
weight loss" I was going to experience. I did it for health reasons.
I want to walk, fit in nicer clothes, have more energy, get off all my BP
meds, and tons of others, and get off my CPAP machine and breathe! I
started this journey for my health and lost my focus with the
"looks" and I knew it was going to be slow and everybody loses
weight at a different rate. Our bodies are different. People think you
just had surgery for a miracle cure and they sort of expect good things
"all the time" but it is not like that. Just because we are
walking around and breathing, does not mean this is easy for us and that we
are okay. It is a battle and will be for a long time. Look at the long
term and eventually your weight IS going to start tapering off and will not
go up and up and up like it used to do, unless you just totally blow it and
not follow any rules. I could smell french fries and gain weight...ha. I
hope this helps. Sorry so long, but I was not ready for the depression,
emotional changes, and slow, steady weight loss and I hope to help others
realize the changes your body will go through so they can prepare for this.
I have lost 25 lb from my highest weight and that is good enough for me.
Now I just have to start exercising and try to eat right and take vitamins.
I know that everyone feels like they go into a pit and then we feel guilty
because we question how do we have the right to feel this way after all we
have received. But you have people that care and will take the time to let
you know we understand. Sometimes our close loved ones don't understand
what we are going through and don't know how to help us, so be strong and
motivate yourself and you will eventually get out of that pit. I would
pull you up right now if I could see you. Take care and hang in
there....this too shall pass. Pammie
— Pammie2u
December 24, 2008
Aww...Hugs! You have to give yourself a year...Don't get on the scale all
day long...It's best if you weigh once a week...(easier said than done)
Your weight can fluccuate just by how much water you drink or salt you
intake. You are still healing...and there could be a little inflamation
here or there...Your energy will pick up once you lose a little more
weight, are able to eat a little more food (nutrition)...You're doing just
fine! It's a little depressing the first few months because the stress and
the doubt and the changes you go thru...All the hormonal inbalances while
you are losing and healing too...Like constant PMS! ...You really don't
know what to expect...I think we all see how some people seem to just melt
away....But we don't realise how long and yet how fast a year actually is.
Give yourself time...You'll get there at your own pace! Hugs
— .Anita R.
December 24, 2008
Patience! You can't lose unreasonably. It will come off. You are
probably still getting rid of water weight that you picked up on the IV's,
while in the hospital. I was looking at my 3 month out pic compared to my
recent pic (One year) I never thought I would have these results. Time
will pass quickly, but don't give up yet! Happy Holidays! Lesleigh in Ga.
— lesleigh07
December 24, 2008
Merry Christmas Amanda...As I read your post...I thought that could have
been me writing the message. I am 4 weeks Post Op, I had the Gastric
Vertical Sleeve in November. I am down 16 pounds. I have low energy and
my family has commented that I have been a bit crabby, which is not my
normal personality, kind of like a long PMS. I read the comments and
support you received from others and will take them to heart for myself
also. Thanks for writing and it is comforting to know there are others out
there just like us. I know 16 pounds seems like a small amount compared to
others but we are all different. Different surgeries, different starting
weight, etc. so different results. We had an early Christmas yesterday
and my oldest daugther kept commenting about how she could really see my
weightloss in my face, in my body...that made me feel good. She even said,
"Mom, that is not a new top is it, because it looks way big on
you"...YEAH...she sees it. Next week I plan to start writing my daily
intake and to add some walking in on my treadmill. I want some energy and
am hopeful if I meet some nutritional needs that will come. We are still
healing. HANG IN THERE...We are still in the losers club! HAPPY
HOLIDAYS...Diane
— DianeMB
December 24, 2008
Hi, just hang in there, you are still healing from surgery,the body has to
catch up and heal. As for weighing everyday, don't do it, as it will
fluctuate with time of day and what you have taken in. I find that taking
a tape measure and take measurments from week to week helps out more than
the scales. Don't become obsessive with weighing.
The weight will come off.
I am still waiting for my surgery date, wish the insurance company would
hurry up to make a decision as to pay or not.
I can't wait to look slim and trim again...need to lose 125 lbs, but will
be happy with 80 to 100.
Hang in there, you are doing the right thing for your health. Just be
patient and not so hard on yourself.
Farmgirl58
— Farmgirl58
December 24, 2008
Hi
Yes, I am feel that way at this time. I am 7 months and only lost 54 lbs.
bypass, I feel like i have failed I have been having some stomach problems
in lot of pain that goes throgh my back. i am schdule to do a test on
1/5/2008 so the doctor can look at my pancreas, that is scary to me. i just
fel so bloated, i am drinking at least 100 oz of water, not to mention
crystal like 32 ozs. Am I drinking too much, my doc says no, I dont know
what to do. there are days that I am so hungrybut so sick to the stomach
that i cant eat so I drink the atkins shake, cuz i still dry t get in my
protein. but no wait loss, I am crying all the time now, I feel very
depress. ANY BODY PLEASE HELP ME. I dont know that to do anymore. Am I not
eating enough or what, some times I think that I am not, and other times i
think tht I am eating too much. I am confuse.
Jennie
— zydeko47
December 24, 2008
I had lap RNY 2 yrs ago. For the first 3 weeks after surgery I lost
nothing. Not even one pound. However, I followed the plan and the weight
started to come off. Do not despair. Things will get better with time. I've
lost a total of 120 lbs and would do it all over again. Good luck.
— maria09elena
December 25, 2008
Something else to keep in mind, the amount of weight you have to lose
impacts the rate at which you lose. It sounds like, if my math is correct,
that you started out just a little bit over 200lbs... 16lbs is GREAT for 3
weeks.
— mrsidknee
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