Question:
Does anyone else feel like a failure?
I am so lost!!! I had the surgery back in March, had every complication in the book, spent one month AND four days in the hospital and for what? I haven't really lost as much weight as i wanted to. In nine months i have lost 60 lbs, I feel lost. I NEVER lost a lot of weight, not even in the begenning. My average was 10 lbs a week but i have not lost a single pound for THREE months. Is anyone else experiencing this? By the way, I am 5'2 and my starting weight was 252. I am currently 190/192.5. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! — summerday_99 (posted on December 27, 2007)
December 27, 2007
despair is the tool of the devil, you must give yourself time to succeed.
It will happen, just don't you quit, I've been stuck for 5 weeks after
losing like 90 lbs very quickly, I was told by others that my body just
needs time to adjust. hold on in there. Brian
— johndough
December 27, 2007
Hi I too had surgery about 9 months ago 2/14 and am 5 ft and started at
227lbs I have been at a stand still since Sept at 30 lbs. I figured after
the holidays I would go back to the beginning and start out on liquids and
do the stages all over and see if they gets my metabolism going again.
— MOMTOTWOSONS
December 27, 2007
Hi- Lizith don't be so hard on your self I think you have done great so far
at losing 60 some lbs in 9 months . I am 11months in pre op and I have only
lost 20lbs And I have been at a stand still for the last 4 months. I think
you should be very very proud of your self. Give your self abig hug from
me. carol heine
— just-ducky
December 27, 2007
I feel bad for you, because you were hoping and expecting more weight loss.
I still have 30 pounds to lose and have bad eating habits at this
time...have been doing this for about a year. Please don't feel like a
failure, Lizeth. Everyone's body fights this weight, and some people will
tend to take it off slower, like you and me. If we really commit to this,
we make sure we don't eat too many calories, take in the protein, iron, and
calcium that our bodies need, and try to exercise every day for about an
hour. We are not easy losers, so we have to do more than we are. Our
lifestyles and habits have to change in order for the body to respond. I
wish you a lot of luck. Good Luck!
Email me at [email protected]
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Pam
— Pam Fottrell
December 27, 2007
Hang in there it will happen. Typically anyone under 300 lbs will lose the
weight MUCH slower than a person who is 300 lbs+. Your starting weight was
only 252 so it's going to take a lot to take the weight off. Just make
sure you are getting in your liquids and your 70 grams of protein each day.
Increase both if at all possible and the weight should start again. It
also depends on whether you had RNY or band. Band's will lose at a
massively slower rate than RNY. Good luck, God bless and welcome to the
losing side!
— crystalsno
December 27, 2007
How many weight loss schemes have we attempted throughout our lives only to
fail over and over again? The question must be asked: Did we fail
ourselves or were the methods flawed? When it comes to WLS, if it didn't
work the way it was promoted, you got ripped off by the surgeon. Try a
lawsuit. He/she might decide to take another look ... .
— Tom Y.
December 27, 2007
What surgery did you have. As someone else posted banders lose at a much
slower rate then RYNers. I know its frustrating not seeing that scale go
down. I was fluctuating between 195-196 for the last week. It finally went
down another lb. I was getting irritated and it was only a week! I can't
imagine 3 mo. Have you talked to your doc/NUT about it to see what they
suggest? Starting from the beginning may help boost your metabolism.
— juliebelle0402
December 28, 2007
Lizeth, it sounds like you have had a really rough go of it. I am so sorry
for that. I want to encourage you to be sure you are getting a lot of
walking or exercise in. Even if you don't lose another pound, it really
helps your outlook on life and your general health. I find that many who
do not lose after a short time are really short changing themselves in
exercise. I hope you are getting enough exercise and water, but I fear you
are not. Please take a healthy look at yourself and what you are doing
(maybe again, as I am sure you have in the past), and do something in the
right direction for you. Whether it is changing your diet, or exercising,
or both and going to support group somewhere. You need to build your
emotional support to expand your physical support. You can do it though,
and you are worth it. Do something good for yourself today, sweat! Take
care. Patricia P.
— Patricia P
December 28, 2007
Hey Lady,
Girl, yell triumphant -- a month and four days in the hospital with
complications and you still lost 60 pounds --- that is great. Don't be
down about it, be happy. There are probably some people who are still
recovering from the complications. You're doing great. That first month
set you back in the losing department; but hey, you made it through the
complications and proceeded to lose 60 pounds.
Each body is different and each body loses weight at a different rate.
Some lose fast and then have to stop. I'm sure there is a physiological
process with all this that we don't quite understand. And I'm not trying
to either.
Try something new to jump start your weight loss. Maybe change your work
out regiment, check your vitamins. What does your physician say?
Starting January 2nd I'm going to start back to working out -- mostly
weights. Got sick and haven't worked out since before Thanksgiving so I
need to get back in there. Gotta work on firming up those arms and thighs
-- so join me want you!
— the7thdean
December 28, 2007
I feel you completely!! I was banded in August. I didn't lose any weight
initally. Only after the surgery I dropped some weight. To date, I have
lost only 35 lbs in 4 months. So either we are expecting too much, or we're
both on the right track. I have a hard time not eating the bad stuff . I
know that's one of my downfalls, and the other is not exercising.... Lisa
— ljam94
December 29, 2007
hey!!! Give yourself some credit... 60lbs is phenomenal. Weight loss is
an individual thing and you can't really compare yourself to other people.
I'm guessing that the month and 4 days in the hospital involved a lot of
bed rest.... no exercise.... really, it sounds like you are doing great.
The less amount of weight you have to lose, the slower it will come off.
What foods are you eating and how much? Are you exercising? Our
bodies/metabolisms adjust so you have to switch things up and make it work
for you. Check in with your surgeon/nutritionist if you haven't and see if
they can give you some suggestions on breaking this plateau.
You are by no means a failure. You've achieved a lot despite significant
complications and a month in the hospital.
Congrats!
— mrsidknee
December 30, 2007
I totally agree with what Sid said! You have done great so far. Be proud
of yourself! Don't dwell so hard on how far you have to go. Take it one
day at a time. You are at a plateau which is common. You need to change
something, whether it is exercise (doing more or how you are doing it), or
how you eat (what you eat or how much). This might help to jump start your
metabalism. I was 254, 5'3 when I had my surgery and was happy when I hit
under the 200 mark! Be happy, girl! Hang in there!
Noni
— NONISRAINBOW
January 2, 2008
I just wanted to thank everyone for their support. Looking back, I do have
to be proud of myself. Sometimes it gets hard to stay positive but I must
try. Again, I want to thank everyone for being there when I have needed
words of encouragement. ---Liz
— summerday_99
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