Question:
Ok, ok, you've convinced me...

You know, a person doesn't realize how crazy they sound until they post a question and read it and the responses to that question! I really did not realize how irrational I was being. I'm not generally a stupid person, just self negligent. I DO have kids, they are the whole reason I went through with this surgery. So, thanks to all of you who answered my question, I realize how neglecting myself not only affects me, but THEM too! My kids are my life. I would never willingly hurt them, and until now, as crazy as it sounds, I had not even considered what I could be doing to them! So...I went out and bought all my vitamins yesterday,plus everything else that I have heard was good for you. I started exercising and taking walks, and drinking all of my water. I bought protien powder and protien bars, and for the last 2 days I have followed through, and I guarantee you, now that I have perspective, that I will continue to take care of myself. I do want to thank you all for answering honestly. You have opened my eyes. The last thing in the world I would want to do is hurt my boys. Now, once again, like when I first had this surgery, I am looking forward to the future. I can't wait to start feeling the benefits of taking care of myself. Actually, I already feel better, if you can believe that. The exercise makes me feel energized, and the water makes me feel refreshed. I am glad I posted anonymously though...I'm kinda embarrassed now!:) God bless you all and may you all have continued good health!    — [Anonymous] (posted on February 21, 2001)

February 20, 2001
You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I just think that it is important that you take care of yourself. Having this surgery is a life long commitment. One thing I've learn is that no one can take of you better than you. If you don't like or love yourself then others are not going to like or love you either. Because they will see how you treat yourself. Then they would think they can treat you like that also. I know you a person who love his/her children. So the love you feel for your children is the same love you should feel for yourself first.
   — [Anonymous]

February 20, 2001
Thank you for updating us. Believe it or not, I have thought a lot about you and was very concerned. I was thinking that this must be why they're making me get a psych. eval. I thought some folks were a little mean to you but if it got you moving then maybe that was good. I also posted something, got response that amounted to "see your dr." and I'm also convinced that I was downplaying a real problem, I'm calling for an appt. today. What a great community we have here. Take care of yourself and post again if you need a kick in the butt, or to tell us how good you're doing. :)
   — [Anonymous]

February 22, 2003
Hi there! I know this question has been here for some time as I look at the date, but I wanted to say hello and say that I hope you have been able to follow through on your healthier steps and that life is much better for you now. Chronic pain is a big bummer, so I hope you've found relief.
   — Elizabeth N.