Question:
Some advice on dealing with a royal #@*($&?
Hi, all... As my surgery date approaches (less than 5 days away) I'm getting more and more nervous, but today I had the pleasure of dealing with a lovely person who after arguing with my father about the money he owed (he owes my father), I stepped in, told him to calm down and as he walked away he said "Mooo Mooo". I actually didn't think I'd heared right, so I said, "What?!" And he said it again. Now, this is the owner of a restaurant, doing this in FRONT of his customers... I haven't had anyone say something so insulting for many many years, but I'm wondering if anybody has ideas/ways to in some way teach this *#$@( a lesson? If not, just being able to say this to people who understand is therapeutic. Thanks, all. 4 days, 16 hours and counting... — Luci L. (posted on July 26, 2000)
July 26, 2000
GEEZZZ! That is terrible, I am so sorry that happened to you. I have a
whole childhood of that stuff I remember vividly. Congratulations on
surgery, you are so close, I know you have done everything you could to
lose weight and feel better, we don't seek out WLS for fun. June
— June F.
July 26, 2000
Yeah, next time you have the chance tell him, "I WILL lose weight, but
how in the world will you ever raise your IQ?"
— Alicia B.
July 26, 2000
Tell him, "i can always lose weight, but all the plastic surgery in
the world can't help you!"
— [Anonymous]
July 26, 2000
You know, as we grow older usually people get more sensitive, smarter and
less likely to say things only to hurt us. As we mature lifes experiences
should teach us how to behave. Unfortunately, my mother is in an alzheimer
center. Last week one of the patients said "Man, she's fat",
everytime I'd enter the lunch room to help my mom sit at her lunch table.
My mom kept changing her mind and I'd have to take her back several times.
Each time this woman would say "man she's fat!" It really hurt.
Later I thought about it and realized that children and mentally impaired
people say exactly what they think and have no stop between their brain and
their lips. Apparently the man who Moo'd at you hasn't had common sense
for quite a while. You'll be a better person for it (even tho it hurts)
and realize that this is one more reason to be happy during the healing
process of your surgery and try and keep positive through any of the bad
times after surgery. God bless and good luck!
— Bryytteyes
July 27, 2000
Hi there - I had to get in on this one! Boy, is there any one of us that
hasn't gone through this exact same thing...I'm sorry it happened to you
too. It never ceases to amaze me how hostile, childish and just plain mean
people can be. In reality though, he made himself look really small and
petty in front of those other people; I'm sure those other people didn't
think any less of you. However, when I'm faced with situations like this,
I like to just look that person directly in the eye, smile and just shake
my head. It lets them know that you are way better than they are, and that
their comments didn't get to you. But deep down, I'd really like to just
belt 'em! Keep your chin up.....
— Darcy B.
August 1, 2000
When I discovered my Husband was having an affair, I read alot of the
e-mails between him and the other woman. One of the things she kept
mentioning was how she was always worried she was too fat for him (this
from a woman who runs 3 miles per day!). I honestly think she did it as a
way to "dig" me without "seeming" to. My husband has
since left me and is still with her and thinks she's a freaking saint. But
I know better. But, oh my god, it hurts so bad when people do things like
that. I wished I had never read the e-mails for that reason (and many
others-you can imagine). But I have to realize, she's the petty, insecure
one. Not me. I am doing something about my problem. I am facing and
taking action. How do you improve someone who doesn't want to be or even
recognize they need improvement? I can only hope that one day my husband
will see her for who she really is. And another thing, people who
purposely inflict pain on others do eventually pay for what they've done.
We may not be there to see it, but you can't live a life filled with hatred
and anger and it not affect you. Keep your chin up!
— [Anonymous]
April 5, 2002
Wow. I cannot believe some people!! That is so immature and it makes me
sick
to my stomach. Strangley, I don't recall being made fun of alot. I
remember
being ridiculed by one person in elementary school. Back then, I really
didnt
realize I was fat. It wasnt reality until I was in the 6th grade. I think
whether you get picked on or not has alot to do with the strength in your
personality you portray while you interact. I was likely to say something
if someone crosses me. I admit I had a big mouth while I believed I was
'normal'. Now that I am much older and realize I am morbidly obese, I more
than likely wont say anything. They really have to p*ss me off :) In
fact, I remember about a month ago, My best friend and I went to go visit
her mom(mind you, she is VERY poor, alcoholics, and missing most of her
teeth along with her boyfriend. Her mom's boyfriend does other hard drugs
too)
He happened to be drunk and started arguing with my friend and after that,
he
went outside and I heard him still griping. I heard him say "She needs
to LEAVE
MY HOUSE along with HOG-JAWS in there" Something just snapped and I
kicked the
door open and yelled (I dont know where this came from) "AT LEAST MY
JAWS ARE
STILL IN TACT! AND I GUESS IF I WERE ON THE SAME DIET PLAN OF COCAINE AND
BEER,
I COULD WEIGH A BUCK-0-FIVE SOAK AND WET JUST LIKE YOU!" He shut up
after that
and my friend and I left. I dont think either of us are going out there
anymore.
— Nicole0105
June 5, 2002
OK...I know it's been awhile since this post but I HAD to respond. I would
have started ranting and raving (so all of the restaurant customers could
hear), "You are Mooing at ME?? ME?? Your faithful customer?! Just
because I ordered your best sundae?? You uncaring, unfeeling SLOB!!! People
who eat are responsible for your very well being!!! At least I will lose
the weight...you will be ignorant for the REST of your miserable, short
sited, life! I can't believe that you would treat a paying customer that
way!
Yes, I know that you weren't a customer at the time but...I would have used
his comment against him and made sure that all of the customers (some of
whom were probably obese) knew what he said.
— Pandora A.
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