Question:
Has anyone not made it to their doctors goal weight ?

Has anyone not made it to their doctors goal weigh by theor 1 year check up? I have my 1 year check up tomorrow and I am not at the goal weight the doctor set for me. I am about 13#'s above. I am not even at the goal weight I set for myself which is about 6#'s lighter than I am. I have been at the same weight for about 4 months and have not lost a pound no matter what I do-increase exercise-change foods-eat more- eat less. I think I am done losing. I am very satisfied at the weight I am at-however feel alittle like a failure. Just wondering if anyone has been here. 252/156/144    — Jan S. (posted on April 1, 2004)


April 1, 2004
It took me 15 months to "arrive" and another coupla months to stabilize. Cut yourself a little slack. We can't stop these things on a dime, ya know? Deep breath.
   — vitalady

April 1, 2004
Same here. Im 17 months out and havent really lost anything (up and down same 5 pounds)in 7 months. I did quit smoking on my one year anniversary. I thought that was the part of the problem but now I really dont think it is. I am going to weight watchers now to at least try and maintain. I do feel great (274/180) but am definately not in that size 8 Ive dreamed of (hell 10 sounds good now) im in a 14. Who knows maybe something will give. Good luck to us both!!! Marilayne
   — Marilayne M.

April 1, 2004
According to statistics, success is 70% of your excess weight lost. You seem to have done that and your BMI is in the normal range. I think you've done wonderfully!
   — Yolanda J.

April 1, 2004
Most people do not make it to their doctors goal weight if it is a weight chart weight. You can totally make it to whatever weight you want to but it takes a lot of hard work to get those last 10 or so pounds off. I have 6 pounds to my original goal but am already at a size 6 so if I don't make it I will live. It took 2.5 months for me to lose the last 10 pounds so just be patient. You now have to think of yourself as a girl who needs to lose 13 pounds instead of one who needs to lose 100+. That is a cool thought huh?
   — Carol S.

April 1, 2004
Oh honey, I wouldn't call going from 252 to 144 a failure! On the contrary-you have been a great success!! Just keep at it and follow the rules. You need to think positively--you've done great!
   — Janet P.

April 1, 2004
Doctors have no business setting goal weights for their patients. There are too many individual factors for them to play God like that, and they're setting their patients up for feelings of failure if they don't make the "chart weight." And within 1 year? Why 1 year? Isn't that unrealistic? That said, is your own goal weight realistic? Have you been that weight before, and what factors made you chose that number? Try setting smaller goals for yourself, and when you surpass them, celebrate your success. Failure is an F-word that should not be in our vocabularies.
   — Leslie F.

April 1, 2004
You know, neither my surgeon nor my PCP ever mentioned a specific goal weight. I had one I picked myself. I lamented to my PCP that I was still 40 lbs from my personal goal. He said, "That's fine if you get there, but I am satisfied with where you are. You have made positive lifestyle changes and all your labs and your blood pressure look good." I am off most of my prescription drugs and am much healthier than before surgery. I've said it before and I'll say it again - suucessful weight loss surgery is not necessarily measured by the scale.
   — koogy

April 1, 2004
Don't worry about your doctor's goal weight. I saw on your profile that you have a normal BMI, so I don't know what chart he's looking at! Some of those are just too low for formerly MO people. Do you feel good? Are you healthy? It's up to you to decide, and it looks like you've done just great!!
   — mom2jtx3

April 1, 2004
I started at 386 and made it down to 210, but that is as low as I got. I am now 225, which the doctor said is normal, to gain back some weight after you stabilized. But I can't help but be disappointed. The doctor never told me what I should weigh, but privately I hoped to make it to 175. I am so far from that goal that I wonder if it was ever realistic. I am a size 18, which was a dream I thought I could never achieve when I was a size 54. I wish I could have gotten under 200. Still, I feel really good, so I just try to keep that in mind. I can walk, I don't sweat at all any more, not even in the summer unless it is 90 degrees, I can bend and move and do all the things that our 'normal' friends take for granted. So, while I especially can relate to your worries about not reaching your goal weight, I have to tell you that if you don't, you will still be just fine.
   — Janice D.

April 2, 2004
Jan, hon don't stress about this. Just look how far you have come. Say 2 years ago, did you, in your wildest dreams believe you would be weighing 156??!! Remember that state of mind and health are so much more important. When my doctor asked me what my personal goal weight was I told him it wasn't a weight it was a feeling I wanted to achieve. Well..........I have reached that feeling. I have energy, I feel good, I am in better spirits and more confident, oh, and I am off all medications. Be a little kinder to yourself and remember that this tool was to help you acheive a more "Normal" life and worrying about weather or not you can lose that last 12 pounds should not take away from the feeling of achievement you should have. I say "WAY TO GO GIRL" "YOU HAVE DONE BEAUTIFULLY"
   — debbie11092002

April 2, 2004
Please do not be down on yourself. You are at the weight you should be. Your body will tell you what weight you should be at and it has. Good for you! You need to have a heart to heart talk with your Doctor and let him know that this is it. You are healthy and happy and that is all that matters. If you have to prove to your doctor, keep a food and exercise record so that you can prove to him you are doing your best. Congrats!
   — Linda R.

April 2, 2004
Why are you worried about the year out when the surgery takes 18 mos to 2 years or even more to get the weight off some people?
   — mrsmyranow




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