Question:
Has anyone ever felt like they are setting themselves up for sabbotage?

I've been on "diets" before. I notice as soon as the first 30 lbs. come off, for some reason I start the regain, plus some. Well, I am just over 5 months post op from a restrictive type only operation for weightloss. I find that I am eating wrong lately. What's wrong with me? I know what I need to do and how I need to be eating. Why do I do this to myself? How do I get back on the wagon again. I DON'T want to have gone through this and gain it all back. HELP!! Thenks...you guys (my extended family) are the best!    — Cinna G. (posted on April 15, 2002)

April 15, 2002
Hi. I understand exactly what you mean. From July 2001- Nov. 2001 I lost 45 lbs and have gained at least 15 of it back. I am afraid to get back on the scale. I think for me the way that I cope with things is to eat, like an alcoholic goes to liquor for a drink. I think the best way to fight the urges is to begin to write in a journal as to why you eat and even do a food dairy to examine when and how you eat. Believe me I'm no expert. If I was I wouldn't be the way I am, but these are some things that have helped me in the past. Also, seeing a therapist is a big help. they can help you to realize why you may be eating the way that you are. i hope this helps you. Jessica Hoch
   — Jessica H.

April 15, 2002
Honey, you are not alone! You can retrain your pouch by eating the way you are supposed to, in the amounts you are supposed to, plus never drinking with your meals. As for the "head hunger" --we all have different methods in dealing with this. Some people journal their feelings, like to try and figure out WHY they eat what they eat WHEN they eat what they eat. FOR ME, I am ten months out. My food plan is REAL foods, avoid processed foods, protein first always. Avoid caffeine, it stimulates the appetite, etc. Exercise every day. I just don't want to go back to the way I was!Maybe you should consider Overeaters Anonymous. It all helps to maintain recovery and not have the regain syndrome.
   — Barbara B.

April 15, 2002
Hi Cinda. I am still pre-op, but your first sentence describes my entire diet history. Like another poster, I recommend finding a good therapist. There are also some good sounding self-help books out there. I've bought several, but never read them. They're still on my bookshelf, so maybe I will get to them someday! But most of all, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP. Remember, you're asking for help now, and that is a great first step! You can do this!!!
   — Heather H.