Nancy,
What can I say or do to ease your pain? We lost my mother-in-law this summer following a WLS revision. It was not a surgical complication, but an undiagnosed Heart Condition. I have tried to be strong for her parents as they suffer the loss of their daughter. Let me tell you, it just isn't easy no matter how old your child is. A parent is always to go first. I can feel your pain. May your angels wrap you up tight over the next few days, weeks, and months as you work through the pain. I will pray that you can find the coping skills to live on. Allow God to carry you through the sand...
Loving Hugs from your Okie Friend.