I just read that u r having the band. I know u r scared but u will be fine! The band isn't that dangerous. I wish u the best whatever u decide. It would have been harder on me if my hubby hadn't supported me, but u know what, I would have still done it. Losing weight would have been worth ticking him off. U're the only one who can decide to do this or not, don't let someone else decide for u.