I just learned of your daughters passing,I don't think I can find the words to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.We on this site are very close and it feels like I have lost a dear friend,even though I didn't even know her.As I prepare for my own surgery,I have tried to prepare my children for this possible outcome,and I told them that no matter what,they should remember that I have made this decision and it is the best thing I have ever done for myself.We just want a chance to be "normal".I'm sure that Mary felt the same.It won't take the pain away of living thru this loss,but remember that she will no longer feel the pain of watching her life slip away,or the ugly disrespect of society as the physical pain became unbearable.She is free of the body that kept her from living and she is at peace. With all my love and deepest sympathy.