Question:
Not much of a question, but at 2-3 years or more post-op, have

any of you had any REAL challenges? I had my WLS, LAP RNY 9/3/2002, so that make me about 2ys, 6 months and about 13 days out as of today. I started at 265+, got down to 132, then, blew it! Well, I've learned that, and because of the additional support, I'm not beating myself up anymore! Now, at 182 pounds, I'm not happy with this weight gain, but I'm not going to stress as much as I have over it! It (the weight) is coming off because I STILL want to get into my purple leather suit. (see my post under 'Dream Weight') There's been a total of 19 people I work with that looked upon me as a 'mentor' of sort. I felt like I let them down and many of them work in the same building as me. I don't regret the surgery OR my struggles with eating and all...It's a learning process I wasn't really prepared for. I just know that I didn't realize the TRUE impact this surgery has had on my life until now. I'm feeling the back pain creeping back, the severe pain in my knees and just feeling that, has made me sniff, wake up, and smell the coffee! I'd do it again. But do you know what? I keep a file of the Q&A's I post, as well as some of those that are submitted by other posties on this website. The latest is that now, I see and feel that I'm going to be okay and I'm going to use my *tool* just like I did when I first started out. I've learned I just have to stay focused. I do need additional support and guidance from you because I have not been eating properly. I had to first admit this TRUTH, and get over it. I can't afford to even be OBESE anymore. It's too painful. Now in my life, I have the awesome task of moving from the apartment I've lived in for over 10 yrs to a townhouse (yeah, it's happy time!):) I recall some time back when I was *fresh from having my WLS, out of the hospital*, how happy it made me to answer the Q&A's when there were questions asked...Made me feel like I was REALLY contributing (with my limited knowledge). Now, I'm getting my support, knowledge and suggestions to help me 'get back on track' from you. Strange isn't it? How one day, we're like we don't have a care in the world, then the next, like ALL hope is lost? Well, I'm bbbbaaaackkkk! It's been a struggle, but I can honestly say, that I do have some things to share. I just wish I didn't feel the way I did earlier...like I had let so many down. Some of you were "trying" to put me there in the same *group* as some of the other knowledgeable folks. I won't say I know everything, but I have definitely learned some valuable lessons. I'm dealing better with the 'ssues" I've encountered over the last year as well. Life, itself is a university, and we NEVER graduate...there is ALWAYs something we can learn. I thank God for ALL of you in advance for your input to this post, as well as your prayers, comments, suggestions, encouragement. I'm not feeling much like exercising right now, because I'm in so much pain, but my mental/emotional status is improving daily...Will you give me some ideas I can use? I'm taking it one step at a time and not do too much at once-that is what I did before, and my success will come especially since I will continue to trust in God! - Thanks, friends! It's good to be back! Hadiyah McCutcheon, PROXIMAL LAP RNY 9/33/2002 5' 2" 265/182/115-126 (I WILL GET TO where I want to be!! Hadiyah McCutcheon, a.k.a~    — yourdivaness (posted on May 17, 2005)

May 17, 2005
Hi, Hadiyah I had my surgery FEB 2002 and went down from 267 to 150 and now i'm at 170-175. I'm having some serious issues on loosing this weight right now i'm going through a lot of emotional issues such as loosing my sister in Dec. I still can't cope with it and she was my partner in keeping me in check about my eating because she also had the surgery. When she was around my weight was stable now the scale seems just to be going up and not down and all I do is eat, and I get upset that I eat and then eat some more. I turned to this website to get help and to see if someone could relate to me. Marci a friend of my sister has been a great help but she's so far it doesn't help much. I need help I don't want to be fat again, my sister would be so dissapointed.
   — mamita093

May 18, 2005
Your divaness, You say you don't feel like exercising, but you know it's key to your success. Get in the pool and move your beautiful body.....Good luck.
   — DianaE

May 18, 2005
Diane, now that's another item to go on my "to-do list"-I have a phobia of water; especially if it comes ANYWHERE near my neck! True terror. I was frightened even when I was baptized! I've heard swimming and aquarobics were not only energizing, but really works those muscle groups...okay, okay, I'll make an attempt, but I'll have to take care of some other matters first. My therapist says, "one things at a time, and one step at a time". Thank you for showing me you care. ;-)
   — yourdivaness

May 18, 2005
I am 15day post-op and doing remarkable! I have no reqrets about this choice. Your posting forces me to think about my future and it brings to fact that everything I am learning must be never taken for granted. Seems like you might want to come back to your roots of the first stage of your journey, and as you said, there is always something we can learn....Good Luck and I will watch for your sucess! ~Lenora B.
   — lenora

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