Question:
I'm having my surgery 3/30/09, is it normal to have thoughts of doom?
— regina6913 (posted on February 20, 2009)
February 20, 2009
DOOM? Its normal to have thoughts of failure or not losing as much weight
as one thought one would. Doom is just a strong word so I would think you
are really afraid this won't work. Keep researching and ask your doc and
other professionals your questions. Most insurance companies have you go
through a psych profile so I would think you did. Going through that and
getting the "green Light" is proof you can do this. I think you
will be fine; its normal to be afraid of the unknown. Good Luck and God
Bless,
vinnigirl, retired RN
— vinnigirl
February 20, 2009
Sweetie, You are beautiful! You have the support and love of your gorgeous
family as well! Don't feel doomed. You are about to start a journey to
wellness. You are making the quality of your life far better than the time
you have being miserably unhealthy in a MO body. You can do this and
succeed! Most of us do! It is scary and drastic...and I felt more doomed
knowing that I didn't have a better chance being MO...The surgery gave me
back my life! I never imagined I would feel as good at 44 as I did at 21. I
look better at 44 than I did at 34...I am healthier and happier...It's as
far from DOOM as DOOM gets! LOL In my dreams at night, I was never
fat...and I would wake up in that fat body and feel so trapped. I am
finally the woman I am inside as well as outside...and you can be too!
Don't feel doomed...Get excited! You have so much to be happy about...Just
look at all those young people in your family! You're gonna have little
ones that you can actually chase around and play with and love on with more
energy and zest than you can now! Push those bad thoughts away! You are
going to LOVE the new you! Big hugs!
— .Anita R.
February 20, 2009
Oh absolutely, lol. It's perfectly normal to second guess yourself and
worry about the worst happening. Try talking with your doctor about it.
Sometimes getting some information on how things happen during the surgery
can help. You're gonna do great!!
— Shirley D.
February 20, 2009
Hi I just wanted to tell u I will keep u in my prayers, I had RNY Bypass
July 08 I have lost 125 pound went from 368 to 243 and I feel great, it
took me 2 years for this surgery u can read my blog to see why, I never
gave it a second thaught I was ready for my new life I was so ready to
live, You will be just fine dear so many emotions right now honestly I
turned it over to the doctors who know what they are doing and to the hands
of God just sit back and enjoy the ride to your new Journey, Life is grand
I am living I knew if I did not have this surgery I did not want to
continue being a fat depressed lonely person, I am married but I was still
lonely I found the courage and the strength to have positive thoughts, be
strong it is so worth it.
— Tammi Sandoval
February 20, 2009
I went in to my RNY at very high weight (451) and certainly had lots of
worried thoughts in the years, months and weeks ahead of surgery. My
sister was great though, always saying "we don't put that energy out
there in the universe, just don't put it out there. The surgery is going
to go great and you are starting a new life - THAT is the energy we put out
into the universe." We are big believers in that sort of energy in our
family - and she was right. My surgery was a little more complicated than
usual, but I came thru with flying colours, walking to the washroom within
the first hour back in my hospital room, and taking pain meds for just 24
hours then nothing. Let me encourage you to imagine only the positive and
most exciting parts of the journey and "put that out there" in
the universe - you'll be great! :-)) Cheers to ya.
— mountainmike
February 21, 2009
I had my lap/RNY on 2/3/09 and I got cold feet a week before the surgery.
I also felt gloom and doom. I have 5 children and I couldn't help thinking
that something was going to go wrong. I even wrote a goodbye note/will
justin case. I'm glad I did that because it put me a little more at ease
if something were to go wrong. It's perfectly normal to feel anxious and
worried. After all it is major surgery. Just be sure to follow your
doctor's directions and move around as much as you can after your surgery.
That'll speed your recovery and prevent blood clots. That was my major
worry. Anyways, here I am 2 weeks out and I lost 22 lbs. I'm already
feeling energized. It also helps to psych yourself up by using
visualization techniques. Picture yourself in a hot new outfit. It worked
for me!
— 5kids
February 21, 2009
Yep, I would say it's very normal. I had lapband surgery in January, and
the day before surgery, I was an emotional mess. I was so afraid something
would go wrong or I would never walk back in my house again. We have two
little boys, and I kept thinking about leaving them without a mother, my
husband on his own, etc., etc. I felt selfish for having the surgery, and
I was ashamed I hadn't taken care of my weight problem a long time ago so I
wouldn't be having surgery, thus putting my family at risk of being without
a wife/mother. A little overboard, yes, but I was scared. The other part
of me was super excited, though, and I just kept trying to remind myself of
all the pros of going through with the surgery. I had read in a book
"You can do anything afraid that you can do unafraid," and I just
kept going through the motions of packing for the hospital, going to the
hospital, checking in, putting on the gown, etc., and then before I knew
it, that same day I was headed home again. Among the other things other
people suggested, I would add to go ahead and really let it all out. I
cried with my husband, and we both talked about our fears and also the
benefits of surgery. Saying out loud to my husband what I was most scared
of made me feel better. It made both of us feel better, actually, because
he had the same fears. I went ahead and cried at the hospital, told the
nurses how afraid I was, cried in the holding area in the operating room,
etc. Have someone with you to just hold your hand. Good luck to you!
— wenniewo
February 24, 2009
yes...i had my surgery 10/7/08 and right up to the day before i was
scared..it's normal, you're human...you'll be fine...and i would not change
a thing i have lost 79 lbs in a little over 4 mos...it is so worth it!
— missbarbie71
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