2 lessons learned today about communicating with people.

So, I learned my lesson today about not texting when I have taken my pain meds. I sent a text message to a group of people telling them I was home. In it, I mentioned the procedure. What I didn't realize is that the colleague that I spend most of my time in conflict with accidentally was on that message. It is a long story as to why she was on that distro. As soon as I realized what I did, I texted her privately and asked for her assistance in respecting my privacy and letting me tell others at my own pace, but I imagine that by that time, the damage was done. I can't unpull a trigger, so I will just have to clean up whatever mess exists when I return to work. I'm still sort of chastising myself though.

So, lesson #1: No texting when on meds. Bad things happen.

Then, I caught up with my dad. We were talking about my sister, interviewed for and was offered a new job on the same day as my surgery. I'm so proud of her, and I told my dad that.. My dad said, well, I am proud of YOU, too. You did what needed to be done and you're making your life better. It has been a really good week for both of my girls.

Lesson #2: Don't underestimate people. My dad knew beforehand and was supportive, but he's never really been so sweetly demonstrative like that before. 

I completely understand you about telling someone you didn't mean to. I kind of did that and have regretted it since but keep telling myself it doesn't matter because she doesn't matter. I was out to dinner with my close friends and she was invited. That night was when I was telling my friends about me having the surgery. I made a conscious decision to say it with her being there and her response was "Well I hope you won't be posting pictures of you showing off your body later on Facebook" as if I would be deceiving people by showing a thinner me just because I had WLS!

I told her it was my life and my decision to post whatever I wanted....I explained to her that VSG is just the first step to losing the weight but working out and putting in the effort would be all me so I should still get credit. I walked out that night totally wishing I had held off and told my friends at a later date but oh well I can't undo it now. People like that are like little green monsters who dislike seeing others do better.

I agree with your dad, it's great that you did what you had to do to make your life better. :)

Unfortunately, I did the same thing.  I disclosed to a friend (who I thought would be supportive) my decision to have WLS and to my surprise she was negative and offered little support.  As the conversation continued, she attempted to "clean it up", but the negative energy had already been dispensed.  I was so angry with myself and I wanted to take back everything that I said.  Needless to say, I realized that not everyone is on board with my decision.  I'm doing this for my health and well being.  I've learned that my choice for WLS is personal and I should not be inclined to share.  Thank God for OH.  I feel the support here.  My VSG is coming up on 6/27, I'm so excited and nervous at the same time!