Biggest Mistake

Hi there, I am 5 months post op and the first month to two months I had several moments of "what the hell did I do to myself!!"  I felt lost some days and then once I went back to work, and got into a routine and saw the weight flying off I knew it was worth it.  Everyday just got better and better and now I am loving life and could not be happier. I hope you will find peace with this decision.  For me, there is no bite of food, even it it was my ultimate favourite food in the entire world is worth being morbidly obese.  I am trilled with my new slim self and the confidence and opportunities that I have.  Best decision I ever made.  I wish you luck on your journey.

Daisy 

Just as everyone else has said this is perfectly normal. Not only is it normal, it's expected. I called it my "mourning period" because let's face it that is what you are doing. You are sad, depressed, regretful, etc., and that's okay! I wish that I could tell you that it passes quickly but I'm sure it is different for everyone. I had complications, so in my case it was about 2 months before I was much better. That being said it has been 8 months this April and I am 30 pounds from my goal weight. I am no longer a diabetic, in excellent health, love going to the gym, etc, etc. I got my life back, and believe it or not so will you! Please feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to. Good luck and God bless! 

I felt the same way, it is very hard but very worth it!. its very hard, but going from 340lbs to 240lbs, i have more energy than ever and im loving life!

Whatever you do... do not try to pretend like you didn't have the surgery and try eating stuff too soon. You will regret it.  The first few weeks are the worst. You feel like crap, you are still obese, food sucks... yeah I was there.  Now I would do it all over again tomorrow.  You just have to hang in there. 

I just ate 3 Milk Duds.  My favorite candy.  Pre OP I would have eaten 30.  Now I am at goal, I exercise and track and EARN those Duds.  See? It can happen, just not tomorrow. You must change your lifestyle and your thinking and your behavior for it to work.  You can do it!!!!

Right after my surgery, I felt like I'd been hit by a cruise ship! I couldn't move, I could hardly breathe, and the thought of nothing but popsicles and kool-ade for the immediate future drove me BONKERS. I think most of us have been there, and we'll completely agree that it sucks.

I guess the word of the day is "patience," even though it's something you don't want to hear when you feel like crap. It does get better as your body starts to heal, as you start seeing results, as you find things you can actually eat and you're not stuck on soup and mush.

Hang in there, we're all pulling for you!

I just had the VSG on the 19th of March and I felt the same thing.  I was able to have a scrambled egg today and it really did make a difference.  Hang in there.  I does get easier.

My wife had RNY about 3 months before I did.  So since I had seen her progress, I guess I never had a "what did I do to myself" moment, but early on the food limitations did suck.

But on the way I have found my tastes have changed and it is for the better.

I still want stuff at times, but not to the degree of before.

I love jelly beans.  I got some last night (they are everywhere due to Easter) and after a few, they were so sweet that I threw the rest away.  Who am I?  I have never thrown away jelly beans before.

My point is, once you get to where you can eat more things, you might realize that your tastes and desires have changed as well.

Best of luck.

As you can tell from most all of the posts it's quite common to feel like you may have made a mistake the first few days after your surgery. I know I asked myself that exact same question! You just don't feel good, I was in quite a bit of pain myself. You just had a pretty major surgery... Let's face it it takes awhile before you start to feel good again. It probably took me a couple of months before I was sure I had made the right decision. The weight will start to come off amazingly quickly and in a couple of months you will feel better and actually be able to see a big difference in how you look.  Everyday it gets a little easier and you feel a little better. It s a slow process for awhile but trust me you WILL be happy you made this choice to better your health. I had RNY 3 and 1/2 years ago and have a website I've been working on to help others. When you feel like it check it out . and hang in there.  Good Luck. 

http://www.gastric-bypass-journey.com/

Personally, I acknowledge my feelings as just that - "feelings."  Feelings do not equal truth.  I acknowledge my feelings but tell myself the TRUTH.

I often "feel" like I'm going to explode - but the truth is - I have never exploded - I'm still in one piece. 

I often "feel" hungry, but the TRUTH is I ate my bariatric meal 30 minutes ago and the commercial I just saw made me think of food.  The TRUTH is I'm having head hunger not true hunger.

I could go on and on, but I think you get what I mean.  You may "feel" like you wish you didn't have surgery but what is the TRUTH?  Were you morbidly obese, did the foods you normally ate make you morbidly obese, is your health bad due to your morbidly obesity?  Will you "feel" this way 5 years from now?  You may "feel" like you should have cancelled the surgery but the TRUTH is you didn't and you now are a RNY gastric bypass patient by 5 days.

Go to support groups or therapy if necessary - it helps many of us get through our "feelings."  RNY surgery is not the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.  All choices have consequences, but for me having my RNY 5 years ago was a good choice.  Not perfect, but the right thing for me to do.

Best wishes to you, Penny

I can't really add anything new to what others have written, but I'm writing a reply anyway just to give one more voice to the chorus: what you're feeling is very common after major surgery, many (perhaps even most) of us had those thoughts and feelings.

For me, just a few months post-op, I know that the surgery was the single best choice I've made in my life. I am healthier and much more physically active. I eat pretty much whatever I want, but like another poster, I find that my wants have changed since the surgery. The foods I "mourned" the loss of right after the surgery don't even appeal to me now.

I too encourage you to see your post as what it almost certainly is: a temporary emotional reaction to surgery. I hope you post again soon with a brighter view - I believe that you will.