There's No Crying In Baseball (Another AWESOME Vet Posting)
THERE'S NO CRYING IN BASEBALL!!!
By: Leilani
[Original draft written June 2004 - - Revised: April 2006]
That's the sentiment (scenario) that comes to mind sometimes when I hear some of the comments from people who've already had the surgery. In case you haven't made the connection, that's a line Tom Hanks made famous in the movie "A League Of Their Own." Resorting to tears or just giving up every time the going gets tough. Or your sick of taking vitamins, getting in protein is hard, water doesn't taste good, etc. That kinda' thinking is NOT going to make you successful or keep you healthy. ENOUGH already! It's time to LOVE yourself enough to get "TOUGH" wtih your aftercare. Your longterm health is worth it!!
Success comes with a backbone, NOT a wishbone!
First and foremost, you have to keep it POSITIVE. As with everything in life, if you think you can't - you WON'T! Simple enough?
I have to wonder when "we" (as adults) finally take ownershipfor our actions, our life and our health? We have been given a gift, a second chance to actually LIVE life again instead of merely existing on the sidelines. It's up to each of us to do that as healthy and productively as possible.
We're ALL statistics waiting to happen and the insurance companies are chomping at the bit. The bean counters are eager to drop Weight Loss Surgery ("WLS") from the policies; some already have. Don't you know that any negative feedback thrown into the mix only strengthens their cause? I may not be able to control every thing that happens to my body after WLS, but most things I can. I CHOOSE to take control and I will be a positive statistic when the numbers get counted.
We live in a spoiled society, expecting everything in life to come with a buncha really cool choices. Well, guess what? When it comes to your health, you're not always going to get a choice. You either DO IT and stay healthy, or you DON'T and your body pays the price.
The way I saw it, I had a 90 day healing and adjusting period after surgery. My 'super morbidly obese' body had more than enough stores to survive the learning curve. In turn, it gave me plenty of time to heal, adjust and learn. For those of you OVER 90 days Post-Op, the probation period is over - its time to get serious and LIVE what you've learned.
* You say you can't get in enough liquids throughout the day, don't like the taste of water, or just keep forgetting? -- TOUGH! It's not an option anymore. Find a way to do it, get suggestions and tips from others in support groups, message boards, etc. Read, learn and JUST DO IT!! Why do you think there is a choice here?
* You say you don't like the big horse pill type vitamins, or the tart chalky chewables? ... it's just too many to bother with? Or maybe you just can't remember to take them? -- TOUGH! You gave up the option NOT to take vitamins when you agreed to have your insides rerouted. FIND a way to get them in; crushed, minced, chopped, liquified, in a shake, etc. No exceptions, your health depends on it.
* Protein is a must. So you can't get it all in via foods and you don't like the way the shakes taste? -- TOUGH! Either get it through your meals (and there are a gazillion food choices out there) or supplement it with protein shakes and bars.
Trust me, I don't drink my protein shake every morning because I think it tastes like a chocolate blizzard from Dairy Queen. I've tried many varieties over the last 2 years. I'd even venture to say 25 of the top sellers/flavors have crossed my lips. For the record? I've yet to find one that is as 'delicious' as boasted by the distributor. So what. I still drink one every morning. My HEALTH dictates that I need "X" grams of protein per day. If I'm not getting enough from my meals then I supplement a shake. 'Nuff said.
This surgery is a gift, I owe it to me and everyone else fighting the approval process, to do it right! I will continue to choke down my vitamins, my water and my protein every single day, for the REST OF MY LIFE. Some days will be easier than others, regardless, no days will be missed.
It's all about discipline. Create a routine, set a timer, develop a pattern, tie a string around your finger, glue a note on your forehead, whatever it takes.
You're an adult - take responsibility! If this surgery doesn't slap a back bone into you, not much will.
Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05
9 years committed ~ 100% EWL and Maintaining
www.dazzlinglashesandbeyond.com
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on 12/6/12 3:28 am
I agree totally! I guess that has been my biggest beef reading so many adults on here complaining over everything they have to do. WTH??? I guess being diabetic, heart problems, destroyed joints was ok but taking vitamins, getting in exercise and fluids and protein is just too hard. I didn't have a problem eating a gazillion cookies, banana breads you name it and it was like gee, now you are ****** and have to have your hips replaced, Jane! So I place it on no one but me for this. I don't sit around beating myself up because I just want to be successful with this for the rest of my life. No it's not always easy, and getting to where I have to maintain is going to be the real work but anything in life worth anything is not easy. Let's just keep at it guys so we can all be here *****ing and complaining 20 years from now, but in a good way! Jane
Wow! Tough love, intelligent loving of ourselves. The reason the forum helps me is that it teaches me ways to get that protein, vitamins and water in. SoBe and 1/2 water, make it go down easily. Someone mentioned chilli and it went down. So many great ideas, but you put the bottom line right up there for us newbies. Thank you for loving us that we'll!
O yea babe....
But I 'll cry if I want to, it's "my party" after all....he he he
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
However, make no assumptions that in doing what we are instructed with protein and vitamins - that it will keep you or make you HEALTHY!!! Some health issues come up no matter what - that is just a fact of life. Although, if you don't do what is required you can be sure that you will NOT stay healthy! It may not seem apparent at first but it will bite you in the butt later, that too is a fact.
Oh, and not everything that happens to your health is a result of surgery!! Just because we had surgery it does not make us exempt from normal illness that we would have acquired even if we didn't have surgery.
Great post!!
