Members Speak
Coordinated by Kathy S
ObesityHelp.com Support Services Associate
Bariatric University-Bariatric Coach
Hello Members,
It's that time again where we get to sound off, share and inspire others on Members Speak!
This month's topic is: Who has been the most influential in your Weight Loss Journey?
For me, my husband and son were very supportive. Others in my life were not and I had to lose a few friends along the way. The most influential person I think...was me. I made the choice to have the surgery. I did the research. I choose on a daily basis to work the tool and I have made choices to keep me healthy! Who has been most influential to you? Many OH members share their thoughts below. Feel free to share your sentiments as well!
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It is hard to pick just one person but I would pick MajorMom(Gina) from the DS Forum and the Lightweight Forum.She has held my hand through the early (tough) months. She has kept me honest by starting a thread called ***Bites and Vites*** every day where I can go to post how I'm doing following the DS program. And she introduced me to Greek Yogurt, which is my very favorite high protein food. She has helped me understand what vitamins I need to have tested, what vitamins I need to be taking and how to order them. Whenever I think of skipping a dose of vitamins or eating something that is not good for me, I think of her and know that she would rather I do the right thing and take care of myself. That is such an influence for the better. Gina is respected by everyone on the forums for her knowledge, balance and sincere care for her fellow weight loss surgery patients, regardless of the type of surgery they have had. I wish I was more creative and could say more about this wonderful OH member who has been such a support and role model to me throughout my journey. I hope to meet her someday soon. - Submitted by beemerbeeper |
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It is IMPOSSIBLE to answer this without leaving somebody out. Major Mom Dina McBride Dogma2Karma (my wonderful angel) Georgina Stefanie P Sandy (Samaro) Connie (jpconnie) Tali Tali MomInCorona Ginger K Anna MsPPPants Irish Coda Colene I know I'm forgetting somebody, or a few somebody's. I also know I never would have been able to do this without your support. I knew I forgot someone. How did I manage to forget to add you, Val? And Lori...and Nicolle! I guess I should have tried to just pick one. :) - Submitted by: Panda Q. |
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It is IMPOSSIBLE to answer this without leaving somebody out. I agree -- there have been so many people who have been kind to me on this journey. Red |
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The most influential "person" for me has really been the entire DS Forum here on OH. There are some highly knowledgeable veterans who help hold all us newbies' hands. I've learned so much about vitamins, how to read lab results and how to get in enough protein. Oh, and let's not forget the best foundation garments and toilet odor management. And, reading the forum daily helps me stay on track with my eating. I learn almost as much from some of the train wrecks as I do from the wise vets, to be honest. I say to myself, "self, don't be like that," when I see someone who ignores some great advice and then continues to moan, "oh, woe is me, I don't know why I'm not losing more weight!" Mostly, though, the spot-on advice far outshines anything else on the forum and I'm so grateful for it. Well, addicted really, if I'm being honest. - Submitted by JennType1 |
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She's not out here as much, but there was a gal today known as Happy Catbert. When I was a noob, she was SharonT. |
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The Vets on this forum. It's by far the best DS forum out there, with the nicest, funniest and smartest people. (Oh, okay, there's one or two idiots, but aren't they everywhere?) My husband. He is incredible in his support of my decision. - Submitted by Sheanie |
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I must say that the vets on the DS board are extremely supportive and have taught me well. They opened my mind and taught me to think "outside the box". Newsflash! Surgeons and dietitians don't know what it takes to keep you at optimal health when it comes to protein and vitamins, but the good news is, you can be healthy and full of energy post WLS. Once my mind was open, Michelle/"Vitalady", became the most influential person in my weight loss surgery journey. She teaches me new things about protein, labs and supplementation constantly. She leads by example and shares her mistakes and triumphs. All you have to do is read her posts, follow where she leads and ask her questions. She talks to people; she doesn't shout at them. I know with all my heart and mind that I would be in a world of hurt if I hadn't started listening to Michelle's advice. The proof of the rightness in her advice is in my labs. My surgeon celebrates my labs with me every time I visit. I think he might be another Vitalady convert. - Submitted by MajorMom |
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I have not been on my weight loss journey very long but I was on a long journey of being the overweight woman in the corner secretly wishing I could step out and do all the things everyone else was doing. Although I have many close friends and family members who support me and are proud I made the decision, I have to say the biggest influences were my sons, family, husband (not completely comfortable with me having surgery) and society, for they are who looks upon you daily. I took seven years to make the decision and research what I was going to do and I know deep inside I made the right choice and will now live a longer, healthier life than I ever was being overweight. This is not the easy way out by far, as some think, every day is a challenge counting protein grams, taking vitamins, can I go with the friends and family out to dinner and make the right choices? It is a very big change. I only wish society would view it as a positive step to change instead of the easy way out. I pray that the health care system makes it available to more people wanting to make the change and that we educate society on what you must commit to for the tool to be successful. I love everyone on my side in my new journey. This site has been so very useful and positive whether or not I agree, it is all good advice.God Bless us all, Angela - Submitted by angela M. |
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My family, mom, dad, husband and three sons were so supportive and helpful. I guess the most supportive outside that group would have to be MajorMom... my angel. She called while I was in surgery and talked to my mom and hubby and then called once a day ( or at least I have been told) to check in. On the day I was having all the tubes and stuff out, she was on the phone with me. She has talked to me several times on the phone and many, many times online. When she takes on the job of being angel, even though she and I are 1000 miles apart, she REALLY took the job seriously. I love my DS and I love my angel she will always be my angel. She was the one that saw me through the dark side... Thank you Gina! More than you will ever know, you were the rock in our storm... mine and my families. Denise Atlanta, Ga - Submitted by dtabor5 |
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First and foremost, God, who made it possible for me to get this wonderful tool called the DS and has given me a brand new life - inside and out!? He is faithful! Lori Black - my angel, and a great source of knowledge. Brok, aka Apologize - this young man shared pre-op and post- op knowledge with the world via You Tube and OH, and led by example.? EVERYBODY on the DS board, including those who were not so nice! |
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Lori Black, my angel. MajorMom and so many others. They were instrumental in my search and journey into the DS. Without them, all of you, I would be lost. Thank you, Dana - Submitted by TaylorD |
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The most influential people in my journey have been my mom, my sister and my Dad. God rest his soul. - Submitted by yex1 |
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I would have to say my husband has been the most influential in my weight loss journey. He has been my cheerleader from day one. I also have a great girlfriend who has been the next influential person in my weight loss! They both have been very supportive and have been there when times have been tough. I'm very fortunate to have these people in my life! - Submitted by Janice R. |
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I have to say that my sister has been the most influential person in my weight loss journey. I watched her go through it herself for four years. When it came time for me to make a decision, she was right there every step of the way. She invited me to her doctor's appointments for her fills so I knew exactly what I was getting myself into. Since I've had the surgery, she has been my rock. She listens when I'm complaining, not feeling well or struggling with too much restriction. She makes the two hour drive with me to get my fills. She has helped me with a food list of what I can eat and what I can't. She motivates me every day just by looking at her and seeing what a success she has had. She tells me whether or not whatever symptoms I have are normal. Really, she's just there for me like she's always been, although with this I consider her an expert in this area. I would have never made the leap with the Lap-Band if it hadn't been for her encouragement every step of the way. - Submitted by jmwlpn2003 |
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I have to say Ellis Hospital Bariatric Center because I am 3 and 1/2 years out. Gained back weight and was in a banders nightmare eating slider food and finally realized I needed help and switched to their center. What a difference. If you live in the upstate NY area and trying to decide who you want to go to, they are the ones. I cannot pinpoint one person, they are all fantastic there. I have lost about 13 lbs and those numbers are going up all the time. I am so motivated and I feel better than I did when I first had the surgery! |
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I would have to say everyone in my life has been supportive of my journey! If I take a close look at specific people, my husband might just be towards the bottom. There are times he's at the top, but lately not so much. I recently finished my last pre-requisite in school to apply to an RN program. I told him when I am done I am going to go the gym every day. Well, last night I went to go and he had the nerve to tell me, "it's not good for a person to workout everyday!" WTF???!!!! Really????Sorry, this isn't the Rants and Raves board....:) - Submitted by Nicki H. |
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Hi Kathy,I do think I was the most influential person about my decision to have weight loss surgery.However, I had a very supportive Primary Care Physician. She encouraged me to get the surgery and said I would be a good candidate. When I go to see her, she always supports me and gives me alkaloids on my success. I did have some support from family but, not all. I continue to be my own support system and struggle with the downside of sometimes losing weight more quickly. My husband was neutral on the decision. He said, "whatever you want to do." I would have liked to have some other positive remarks or for him to tell me how great I would look.So, in short, I continue to be the most important person in my decision. I support myself through the good and bad. Only I can affect the outcome, so I don't really rely on anyone else for influence or support. I think it comes within. Peace - Submitted by MaryMargaretG |
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Hi Kathy,The most influential person? I have several but the top one is me!Yep, we are in charge but the people most helpful to me have been:My bariatric surgeon: Dr. Stewart VersemanMy Eating Coach: Kristi...her daily blogs help me so much!Jen Emmerich master guru of accepting yourself, your body and I consider also a friend. Rebecca Blades Director who is an RN and heads up the Bariatric Program at Borgess.Best Friend Deb B. who had the Lap-Band and is my number 1 workout buddy.The people who go to my bariatric support group meetings.My wonderful hubby.Several close friends who might have had WLS and some that haven't.Yep, I have a HUGE support system and love them all. - Submitted by Debbiejean |
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Kathy,I had to be quite proactive and fight for my own WLS and I worked hard as a "lightweight" but am an emotional /stress eater so I slacked off when things were bad during my first 15 months. Hubby became deathly ill and my coping skills weren't as great as they should have been! Even salad can make you gain weight if you put too much cheese and stuff on it! At 13 months, I was at 83% of my goal and then had a regain but I am still working on it! I'm almost six years out this week and I know that my own husband, while he thinks he has helped, has actually sabotaged me...and I, myself. One of my best friends mentored me, but she was farther out and helped me develop some bad habits....ouch! Once I realized this, I nipped them!My support early on was from folks on OH (formerly AMOS) like Kirk Thompson, Caroline Martin, Patty*edit-Butler* (from Texas )--- Darlene Wells, Sandy McDaniel (haven't seen her post in ages and ages!) and vitalady for nutrition and vits knowledge...ppl like yourself and Charlie, Leilani and Dx. Folks on here are supportive and keep me honest! |
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Kathy My most influential support was my daughter. She did all the background work. I went with her to be her support. She is why I considered it & we support each other.Nan - Submitted by Nancy H. |
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Kathy, I think the most influential people who have helped me along the way are my wonderful friends on this OH forum. Nan H, Margo m. Phyllis g, and a number of other people. Also, my surgeon was a great part in my decision to have RNY. I have maintained about a 140 pound weight loss thru getting Thyroid cancer and beating it. I also have my best friend in Denver, Donna V. She became a wonderful cheerleader while I was in the midst of my journey. Carla Klein - Submitted by carlak |
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Hi Kathy, There was not just one person that was influential. My husband and my sisters were always there for me. My surgeon, Dr. Holloway gave me an awesome tool to FINALLY stop being hungry 24/7. He also gave me a lot of encouragement when I needed it. The thing I am most appreciative of is, when I first met Dr. Holloway, he told me that being overweight was not a character flaw. I had always beat myself up for not being able to maintain the weight I had lost. I also have good friends that I work with who helped me. I feel truly blessed. Mona - Submitted by monymony |
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Here's another vote for "me" being the most influential person in my weight loss journey! Katherine B Submitted by: Katherine B. |
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EVERYONE THAT HAS EVER POSTED ON THIS SITE...!!! HANDS DOWN...!!!AND....................MY BIGEST FAN AT HOME...MY DAUGHTER, EMAREE ROSE..!!!!!!!!!SHE IS ALWAYS SOOOOO ENCOURAGING...ALWAYS SAYINGTHINGS LIKE "MOM, YOU WOULD LOOK GREAT IN THAT....OR WOW, YOU FEEL TINY."SHE IS MY BIGGEST CHEERLEADER...GOTTA LOVE HER!cyndy - Submitted by www.ohmeohmy.com.105 |
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Without a doubt, my husband. He constantly gives encouragement and compliments me almost daily... - Submitted by Ladyasher |
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My SISTER! She had RNY last May and I have watched her go through this process and come out of her cocoon and become a beautiful butterfly! From the moment I told her I was thinking of having WLS she has been so excited for me and there for me 100%! I had my sleeve on the 15th and she took time off work to take care of me and make sure I got all my protein in and fluids and had anything I needed. I am so lucky to have her in my life! Submitted by kathyellen |
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I relied on the OH VSG board for daily encouragement. I read at least 100 profiles to see what people thought about the surgery of their choice. This has been the most invaluable tool that I could have ever found. My friends whom are on this board are much more successful than the people I know with the same surgery who do not come here. I refer everyone considering surgery to OH because I am not sure if I would have been so successful if I had not had the people here to go to for guidance and support. - Submitted by Emily_Rose |
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When I saw Emily Rose post, I had to post as well. Emily Rose was the most influential person for me. She posted everything, so I could easily follow just how she was doing. We were somewhat similar in size, and it was such an encouragement to watch her. I was delayed by one year, but things happen for a reason. Maybe I needed that extra time. Watching Emily over that years' time was all the encouragement I needed to go ahead with the surgery. THANKS EMILY!!! - Submitted by wendyvanosdell |
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OH! I am so glad that I was able to help someone! I post everything hoping that it will give someone encouragement, especially someone that is coming up behind me or with me. I am glad to see you that are succeeding. Isn't life wonderful? I tell my friends who are getting this surgery to be prepared for the best ride of their life!BTW, your post almost made me cry. - Submitted by Emily_Rose |
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Life is so wonderful! Better even than I had anticipated (and this is only eight weeks out). I was very glad for a chance to thank you. I'm quite certain that you have helped many, many others. - Submitted by wendyvanosdell |
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The greatest influence in my life, without even knowing it, was my mother. I lived my life with a morbidly obese mother who loved her children so much that she put herself through school while raising us, partially alone. Though she imparted hard working ethics, independence and self reliance, she established very poor eating habits in us with fast food choices nearly three out of the seven days of the week. She is from the south and 'good ole southern cooking' was always a weekly part of our diets, as well as candy and chips. I saw her struggle with her weight while taking diet pills and going on Weight Watchers. At the same time, she was simply sitting her life away in front of TV. She was ashamed of her size and become a recluse because of it. As I started to have children of my own, I fell into the same lifestyle choices until I had my last child. I got active and went on the never ending 'diet-go-round'. When I had the chance to have WLS, I really did jump at it after hearing from several friends and seeing their successes. I have kept her in the back of my mind and have wondered how much different her life (and ours) would have been had she had WLS. What healthier habits we would have developed and how differently we would have lived life, and would I even be having the need for WLS had I had a healthier role model? I'm glad to say that since I made the choice to have WLS nearly the first person I told was my mom and she has been so supportive with asking how I'm doing and just what all I have been going through and just showing a great amount of interest and concern. I was a bit trepidations about telling her since my brother offered to pay for her to have WLS some years ago and she flat out refused saying it was simply too dangerous and that she'd be on supplements (this was RNY WLS) for the rest of her life and all the 'rearranging" of her stomach and bowls. I knew I had to tell her even though I knew this was how she felt, but she said she understood the reasons behind my choice and was glad that I had the chance to have this done to help me get healthy for myself and my kids. The other person I did this for was my husband. He's in the Army and works out every day and takes care of himself physically and mentally. He has loved me no matter the size I have been. I want to step out on his arm at one of those fancy Army balls and just look stunning and have him be proud to have me at his side. My children are probably the highest reason I do this. It's linked to reasons of growing up with an obese mom whom wasn't able to or was so tired and worn out from all the fat she was lugging around, to be as interactive and active while I was a child. I have been that way for some of my children's' lives. No more! I want their memories filled with active adventures and outings that we did as a family. I want to set them up for a lifetime of health and activity. I want that to be the norm for them. To make choices based on what is good for their bodies and a long, healthy life. To develop a taste for healthy nutritious foods to sustain them and provide them with a long life. To say I'm doing this for me, is a given. To have a long life and a body that is nourished and used as it was intended to be used is of course what I think all people that are fat and obese. Only through embracing and having an active life can one truly live to the fullest and really know and enjoy all those things they have missed out on. - Submitted by SuziJones |
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Well, I am completely new on here and have not had my surgery yet , but I would like to say how you guys are all influential in my journey. I really did not feel comfortable with bypass but wasn't sure about the sleeve either. Since becoming a member and reading all your heart griping stories I will soon have a surgery date and feel like 100lbs of anxiety has been lifted off my shoulders! You all have been such a blessing and thank you for all of your guidance! - Submitted by scrappinbabe247 |
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I would have to say The WLS people on You Tube and my Mom. - Submitted by amyusmcwife |
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My Dad. He paid cash for the whole procedure and flew with me to Puerto Vallarta and stayed with me every step of the way. He made the whole thing happen. He is truly a one in a million father. He's my WLS hero. - Submitted by Katie C. |
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The most influential person in my life has always been my mother. The day I told her I was getting this surgery, she was apprehensive and unsure. I turned to my husband and got the same reaction, so I came to OH and found all the support, advice and education I have needed. There are certain people who are really dedicated to this board and make it well rounded. There are so many that I cannot even begin to name them all. - Submitted by Kelly S. |
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Any folks, but most of them are from here on the message board: Shari (Jupiter6) because she taught me not to be afraid of eating, not to make food into the enemy and because she just generally rocks. Pam (Pam T.) because she stresses the importance of looking at your journey as holistic. This is about weight loss, but it's also about overall health! She taught me we should never sacrifice our health for the sake of losing weight! Jen (JenStock) because she taught me that I need to work on my "inner girl", And then there are folks in real life. The one who most comes to mind is a lady from the gym. I have NO idea what her name is. She is gorgeous. She's about 65-ish with long locked hair, a toned body, beautiful skin. I'd get on the elliptical machine next to her every day and marveled at how she did the highest intensity. One day I asked how long it took her to get to that level and she said "one day I just decided I could do it and I did!" and then she reaches over and bumps mine up too! That first time I thought I would DIE! But you know what? I didn't. And I kept coming back wanting to conquer that machine. Whereas, I suffered through five minutes of that level two years ago, today I can do an hour on it. And she is still right next to me...a beautiful goddess who taught me to be a goddess too. :) - Submitted by Cleopatra_Nik |
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I have to say that my husband has been the most influential and supportive person in this journey. My mother, brother and sister have all been there and have supported me, but my husband has been the total rock star. He has held me up when I didn't think I was doing the right thing, loved me when I was not so loveable (especially those first few post-op days). He has been the first to celebrate my little successes. I could not have done this without him. - Submitted by Kyle H. |
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Support and influence are different and I have a lot of support, but the person who actually influenced me into looking into the surgery was my next door neighbor, Rhonda. My kitchen window faces her house and I can often see her come and go, work in the yard, play with the kids, etc. Rhonda had the surgery two summers ago and I watched her shrink from one week to the next. I'm standing there washing dishes and have to call to my husband "Hey come look how thin Rhonda is!" She looks wonderful now and she tells me she would do it again in a heartbeat. But not only did her figure change, her disposition changed too. She's such a happy person now. - Submitted by KerryJean |
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My office has had several WLS's in the last four years, but I'm the last person to be trustful. Finally, my friend Gina, who sits next to me, came back from a loan to another office and she'd done so wonderful with her weight loss. The fact that a possible cure for my diabetes got me to go to the seminar. The doctor was so thorough in his lecture and answering my questions, both during & after the seminar. I was in and from that day, I was ready.Thank you Gina and thank you Dr. O'Malley & staff. PS: And I was off insulin before I left the hospital! - Submitted by carol.grangel |
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I have two influential people in my life. First and foremost, my soon to be wife Ter. She has been the most supportive in helping me along the way. At first she was not supportive as she was not educated in what this surgery really was about. This is sort of typical in a non-op partner I have read. The day I got the surgery she realized how important this really was for me to have. She eats healthy with me and motivates me to work out. With both of us living a healthy lifestyle it makes for a brighter day. The second person is my mother. I wouldn't have had the surgery if it wasn't for her. I was on the fence leaning towards not having this surgery due to a previous doctor I was going through. She did some research for me and found my surgeon and sent him an email to call me. I ended up making appointments and got things rolling with this surgeons office. My mom was there with me during surgery and continues to support my weight loss after surgery. - Submitted by ItsMoiRach |
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There is more than one most influential person in my life. The two people who influenced me the most would be my 17 year old daughter and my 16 year old son. My daughter Samantha is the one that encouraged me to look into and having weight loss surgery. After her comments about how my weight affects all parts of my life and my family's. And the benefits of having the surgery... I would feel better mentally as well as physically.She has been through all the diets and attempts of mine at losing weight. I have to say that she's been my cheerleader, as well as my second conscience when I wanted to eat something that wasn't allowed. My son, Paul, has been the encourager that I have relied on before and after surgery. He reminds me that I need to be active and get out of the house for walks and more exercises. Who says that teenagers aren't smart? Sometimes you have to listen to your kids....and I am so glad that I did. Thankful for my kids, Lena - Submitted by lady_roper2 |
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I am waiting on my surgery date. But I certainly have a very influential person on my life. One of my best friends, Chantel. I have known her for about eight years. She had RNY four years ago and was very successful. I didn't tell anyone when I went to the seminar. I was still on the fence. I knew I wanted to do something and I had been thinking about the surgery for a long time. But I wanted to go to the seminar by myself. I didn't want to bring anyone else into my "surgery frame of mind" until I was absolutely sure. I wanted to make sure I was the one making this decision for me. When I showed up at the seminar, another friend/co-worker was there also, Keydra. We were both surprised to see each other there. We had dieted together in the office and worked out together before, trying to lose weight. But neither of us mentioned to the other that we were thinking about surgery. She said she didn't tell anyone for the same reason. She is another big influence on me. We have gone through this journey together. Her surgery is April 15 for the VSG. Chantel has been wonderful for both of us. Her experience with the surgery and advice have been priceless. And her enthusiasm and support just wonderful! When I've have moments where I wasn't sure if I was strong enough to do what will be expected of me, she reminds me that I am strong, I can do it, and I always have her to call on any time of day or night. I also have a 3rd person who is a huge influence on my weight over all. My friend Sherry. She is not a large person, but she motivates me to keep moving. She is like a sister I never had. She has told me that she is not a supporter of the surgery, but she is a HUGE supporter of ME and no matter what I decided to do she would support me 100%! "Keep moving" is what she is constantly telling me. If it weren't for her I would weigh 600 pounds! So, Chantel, Sherry and Keydra~ I love them! - Submitted by twcayce |
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I am just starting out on my journey. My RNY is in exactly TWO WEEKS! WOOHOO!! BUT, the whole reason I got the strength and drive to make this happen was because of my husband's success with his own gastric bypass two years ago. He has lost 100 lbs, RUNS (not walks, not jogs but RUNS) almost daily, anywhere from 2-7 miles! This is the man I could barely get to take a walk with us before surgery. He is in fabulous shape, still is conscious of how much he eats and makes sure he gets his protein. He never misses his vitamins. He is supportive of me having the surgery and making positive changes with my health, but he has also never put me down or made me feel like less of a person because of my weight and my yoyo dieting. When we met, we were both a lot heavier than we are today. We are going to be a whole new couple! And good examples of good health for our son. - Submitted by michelly1030 |
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I want to have the surgery to be around for my daughter. I want to be an example for her and I thought to myself, if I do it now she won't remember me this unhealthy (she's three). I also stumbled across DivaTaunia's You Tube channel one night through Google. I remember when she hit 100 pounds lost, I called my insurance company. I got my approval and now I am on my way to a surgery date. - Submitted by michelleguelde |
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First, it was God. I'd been alternately dieting and using food as a drug for 20 years. I had an a-ha moment early in 2007. I sabotaged my own weight loss efforts because I didn't feel deserving. Then, I went on a retreat weekend at my church and that changed everything. I not only felt worthy of losing weight and getting healthier, but I also felt worthy of asking for help. I started researching - read a number of books, researched surgeons, etc. And had surgery in November of 2007. My children were my motivation to set a positive, healthy example. My husband has looked at me like I was the most beautiful woman on Earth - at 339lbs and now at 140lbs later, so I could lose the weight for the right reasons, not because I felt I needed to please someone else. So grateful for all of those blessings. - Submitted by Maida F. |
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My husband has been incredibly supportive, but I'd have to say the most influential person has been my surgeon. He takes the time to answer my questions. He isn't afraid to get after me if I need it. He has just been great! - Submitted by niffer1283 |
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I would say me first - then my doc and his group for my weight loss JourneyBut in my life? MY MOTHER. - Submitted by H 2. |
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Good Morning, As of late, I haven't participated in this board very much but I used to be a fairly active member. I feel very compelled this morning, however, to respond to this posting._____________________ At 21 years old, in 2001, I decided, on a whim to have gastric bypass surgery. I was 5'9 and weighed about 230-240ish. I wasn't married or dating anyone and wanted to lose weight desperately. I found an advertisement in the newspaper one morning that read "Need to Lose Weight? Have Gastric Bypass Surgery in Four Weeks!" The phone number was out of town but, it was my answer! I didn't talk to anyone in my family and certainly didn't call my friends for their opinions (even the people I had known had the surgery). My ego was far too inflated and I didn't want to point out to anyone else that I realized I was heavy. I called the number, got an appointment and as the paper stated, was approved for surgery within a few days. Before that fourth week was over, I had my surgery completed. Still, no one knew. I didn't seek a therapy group or support from anyone. I felt I had no need. I needed to lose weight, was given the tool to do so and was off and running. Done deal! I was cured! A few months passed, perhaps six months and I ended up pregnant. I was on birth control but it didn't seem to matter. I had a very hard pregnancy, my weight fluxuated and I was put on pic-lines bedridden. After that pregnancy, new types of birth control and a little more awareness from my general practitioner about my surgery, I became pregnant again. Needless to say, it again was rough. Immediately following the pregnancy, at 24 years old, I had my tubes tied. It wasn't until this point that I started to realize that this gastric bypass surgery I had (from this mysterious out of town doctor) probably needed a little more attention than I was giving it. I tried to contact my surgeon a few times over the next months but he had left to Iran and was MIA. I started doing my own research online and came upon this website. Being the social maniac that I am, I liked what I saw. I had never really interacted online with people before but the site had so much information and I could anonymously ask questions! I found the sex board and started poking around. I began to open up a little bit to people here and it wasn't before long when I had found some friends that I was able to open up to. My ego started to deflate... a little. I found someone in particular that I was able to confide in and start to trust. He taught me about gastric bypass surgery, the emotional side effects of it and how I should be taking care of myself. He helped me connect with a couple of women here that were also able to guide me. It wasn't until I found this site that I finally had someone that I felt comfortable talking to about gastric bypass, being overweight and all the other baggage that I had been carrying around. You know, all the stuff that you're supposed to sort of have figured out BEFORE surgery. I learned about taking vitamins, my pouch, the importance of lab tests and check ups... and most importantly, the significance of a supporting network. I learned to be a "part of" rather than trying to figure things out on my own out of pride or ego. I learned that I was ok... even a little normal in ways... and most importantly, acceptable for exactly who I was. Without this site, I don't know that the healing process and life lessons I gathered would have ever been discovered. This site helped me begin a personal journey of not only successful and healthy weight loss but "it" taught me about accepting myself. . . for my body, my mind and everything in between. Most importantly, generally speaking, I learned what addiction was. I learned that I had a food addiction. And, more frighteningly, I learned that I was a heavy alcoholic. I learned about my behaviors and still, to this day still work on them every day. This site saved me in a lot of ways. There's a whole heck of a lot more that needs to be done within me, but at least now, I accept it, understand it and hold no shame to it. So, to sum it all up, the most influential thing or person in my life through this journey has been this site. But, even more exclusively... Nick. And, along with Nick came spending time with Tee and Ann which, through the good, the bad and the ugly of my journey, helped me discover who I was and what I needed to start doing to make good of my whole life. Not just my appearance. Thank you. - Submitted by shannonE |
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I know it sounds corny---but for me that person was God. I spent a lot of time in prayer before deciding to have surgery. In the end I knew that God gave me this body and this was my chance to respect it and treat it the way it should be treated. - Submitted by Michelle P. |
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I gotta go with Michelle on this one. I made the decision but only after talking with God a lot. So I will take second credit, but to Him goes the Glory. - Submitted by Terry B. |
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I can't honestly say there was only one person that was the most influential as I had several friends who have supported my decision and been big cheerleaders during my weight loss journey. But to name the top supporters, there was : Teresa - who paved the way for me to even consider having the surgery - after she also had WLS. She was able to answer a lot of my questions about the process and has been supportive of me throughout the process. Sharon and RD -- these are good friends that retired at the same time I did and knew how bad off I was physically with my COPD and Lupus. They never fail to at least email me weekly to check on my progress and cheer me on. The looks of amazement on their faces when we get together for lunch once a month is such a motivator for me! Kim -- She is my next door neighbor who was apprehensive at first until she saw how determined I was to do something to regain my life. She is now probably one of my "top two" supporters and cheerleaders. She has also taught me some sense of style that I can take with me when shopping for clothes that actually FIT, rather than wearing the "bags" trying to hide my shape. Velda -- She's my "second mother" . . . well, she's a good friend that I "adopted" as my motherly conscience after my own mom died. She's very point blank and to the point about EVERYTHING! She was also apprehensive at first; but - like Kim - has come full circle and continually roots for me and shares my successes along the way. Evan -- my youngest son. Although he's away at college, he supports me and praises the progress I've made. I didn't tell him I was going to have the surgery until I actually had a date. I didn't want him worrying about it while he was away at college studying for his degree. He was apprehensive at first. But after I explained the procedure to him and how I was doomed to live with all the comorbidities from being obese without the surgery, he agreed that having the surgery was less of a risk than spending the rest of my life as an obese person. He wanted to make sure that I was making a fully informed decision and that I was doing it for myself, rather than the fear I had that I was an embarrassment to him when I visit him on campus. All these have played a major role in my journey and it just wouldn't be fair to choose only one that has been the most influential, because they have ALL played a major role in my success. - Submitted by Mountain Mama |
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I have to say that my hubby, Bill was my biggest influence. He supported me from day one by going with me to all of the pre-op seminars and support groups, helping me to see the positive side of things when I had my doubts and just by listening. And that was just pre-op! He and my family (including my daughter who was against it in the beginning) have all been great since my surgery (2/12). All of them have been encouraging me and putting up with my moods, which can get pretty emotional sometimes. My hubby will encourage me to walk and walks with me. I also have very supportive friends and co-workers who have made this journey much easier for me. I truly appreciate everyone's encouragement and support, however, I do have to give the real credit to God for guiding the surgeon's hands and for helping things to go smoothly so far. - Submitted by octoberbabee |
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For me, the biggest influence has been this board and the folks on it. I'm two years out and want to thank all of you for the good advice, motivation and sympathy along my journey. I also want to give a special thank you to Eggface for giving me new things to eat when I didn't think I could eat another bite of what was in the kitchen. My best advice to everyone is to keep reading here often cause you are the best cheerleaders around. I didn't go to a local support group so you guys were it. Thanks for everything, Linda Prock - Submitted by winning714 |
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I have really just started my WLS journey (5/5/09) and I have so many in my life that have been a great influence on me. My husband, who had RNY (10/1/08) has been such an inspiration to me and my decision on having RNY. I think that taking this journey with one another is one of the best adventures of our lives. We share so much, good and bad feelings, and understand what each other is going through. He is always telling me how very proud of me he is and how beautiful I am to him and it really boosts my self-esteem. My family is so supportive, always telling me how much better I look and feel. I can do more with my grandchildren, which I am so grateful for. I want to continue this journey to be healthy and live a wonderful life with those I love. Most of all, I thank God, who every day gives me the strength, faith and hope to make every day that he gives me a great one!!! - Submitted by thinner56 |
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WOW very deep...I have to say my daughter... being a single mother weighing 380lbs with co-morbids of high blood pressure & diabetes, I would not have been blessed to see her grown-up, go to college or even get married. She encourages me every day.. saying things like.. "MOM you look AWESOME... or KEEP up the good work." I mean when you have support on your team it helps you go beyond the extra mile. I'm eternally grateful and blessed that GOD gave me another chance on life. I post my daughter's picture and my before and after somewhere near, to encourage me not to go back and to keep going in the new future. I wish everyone continued success.. - Submitted by georgiapeachinla |
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I am still in the beginning stage of the journey, to the middle of myself. I am experiencing changes from the inside out. The most influential people to help and support me is more than one. God, for being in my life! I thank my PCP for saying, "Diane you are killing your liver if you don't do something radical to change your weight, therefore, changing your comorbidities. Here is a script for bariatric surgery, go check it out!" My husband, for supporting me even though in the beginning he thought I was fixing to change myself and wanted to leave him, yet he said, "Go for it Diane, I love you enough that I want you to do whatever it takes to save your life!" My brother for saying, "if you need a liver, I will donate part of mine for you." My best friend for making me realize that I needed to be perfectly honest on my Psych eval. I have learned a lot about myself because of her. Thanks goes to the Psych Eval Doc. She said three simple words and it has changed my life, "wait a minute." Last but not least by far, to my OH friends and friends to come. There is not a day that goes by that I do not thank God for the words I read here and the friends I have made! - Submitted by MzDiane |
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Me.I have been my strongest support, my biggest cheerleader and my own and best motivator to keep on keepin' on. - Submitted by Jackie H. |
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In reading your question about who was my most influential person in your life, It isn't just one person, but several persons who have supported me before and after my decision to have RNY. Before my surgery, my teenage children were the two that really helped me decide to go to the introductory meeting. Without them being honest with me, I don't think that I would have stuck with going through all the meetings, tests and waiting for approval. There are several people who welcomed me with friendship on OH...The first would be Amy, then Lin, Becky and Deborah. All of these women live in different states and countries. Amy lives in Colorado, Lin, in New York, Becky lives in Florida and Deborah, lives in Scotland. Each of them have become good friends that I can email with questions and they give good advice and great support when I am needing it. After surgery, the people who continue to support me are my kids and my friends. I am so lucky to have them with me throughout this new phase of my life. - Submitted by lady_roper2 |
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Ultimately, each individual must reach their own point in life where they believe that whatever they have done in the past to escape the hopelessness and despair of obesity hasn't worked. I have been there. But the best solution I came up with were a string of failed diets. It's a very disheartening state of affairs. I am grateful to have had a primary care physician who first suggested that I investigate seeking weight loss surgery. Every new obesity related condition I would experience, my doctor would gently remind me of that option. By the time I took his advice seriously, weight loss surgery seemed like the only choice remaining if I wanted to stay alive.I have renewed respect for my doctor's knowledge, compassion and abilities. They say a journey of 1000 miles begins with the first step.Thanks Doc for pointing me in the right direction. - Submitted by hercules411 |
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The most influential persons in my journey to lose weight, have surgery, have plastic surgery and deal with the ups and downs, (those not involved with the scale) were my parents and even more so my dog. How funny to equate healing with an animal but honestly I believe that animals have that power. My dog is a huge mastiff weighing over 120 pounds and by gosh, Brody was amazing. She would lie in bed with me and somewhat spoon if I forced her and she was always there even when others weren't, mind you she couldn't really leave. but still. My parents were amazing too. They never once were mean, uncaring or made light of the tough trials of my situation. Losing weight can be difficult and without having a strong support system the journey can be even longer and more harrowing. I owe thanks and a million hugs and kisses to my support team, Mom, Dad and Brody. - Submitted by SomeKindofPerfect |
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The two best friends a man could ask for...Debra and Yvonne.. They have been my cheerleaders the whole time. I am a very blessed man to be BTB... Between the Blondes.. - Submitted by Da Shrinking Dawg Ramon |
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Hi Kathy. Thanks for this topic. I am reading so many responses of having friends, relatives, family doctors, nurses, co-workers, and of course God that my response will be this: I echo everyone on this board! Of course, God drew me in this direction after much hesitation. ( Five years of research & hemming & hawing.) I have Him first to thank, then, I guess I also say my personal family doctor. He is wonderful and so patient. He never pushed, just suggested. His staff, too. Always there, always supporting. Wonderful people. I have my co-workers, who also not only talked with me daily, but encouraged me all the way. They still do. My bosses at work. They know what a daily struggle it was just to get into work and try and function. Of course, my wonderful family. My brothers supported me, my aunt encouraged me and all surrounded me with their love. I knew I had made the right decision. Most of my friends were all supportive, although those closest to me were scared for me and afraid for my life, I think. Stil, they encouraged me to make up my own mind. I must also say my dear mother who is now in heaven and was when I had WLS. She was there (I know this) watching over me and smiling down. I had angels in the OR with me (Mr. doctor & his staff) and in recovery (all the nurses and staff). Believe it or not, they too encouraged me and influenced me, so I had many (and a few who are gone) that I prayed to that influenced me. Bless them all and thanks for this post - just another small way of saying thanks to all those who help others. God Bless Mary (Molly P) - Submitted by mollypitcher08 |
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My mom...at first she was worried but in the end, she was w/me from the beginning until now. My hubby was not happy at first but now is good with it. Some of my friends were jealous and assholes, so I dropped them off of my list of friends. - Submitted by HIgurl |
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My faith in God, my husband for his continuous loving support, my excellent and caring surgeon's staff and team and more friends on OH than I can count or name. - Submitted by Sunshine's Heart Karen |
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For me, I would have to say my husband! He has loved me since the day we got married (15 years ago), as I grew, he never gave up on me. After realizing that I did not want to live this way anymore, I made the decision to have WLS he was behind me 100%! If anything, his love has grown even more. He has been so supportive. That first week of recovery he helped me so much. One night, I could not sleep and he stayed up with me and we talked for hours. I cried and he held me...it was wonderful...LOL My kids, two boys 14 and 9, have been even better. They are so happy for me. My oldest goes on walks with me all the time, especially when I first started this journey. He did not want me to walk alone, so he gave up time with his friends and his Xbox (lol) to walk with me. My family has given up soda and junk food and they are just as happy. Although I have to feed my teen a lot more food, he dropped weight and needs to add a few pounds. They always make sure if we go out to eat, the restaurant has food I can eat. They are so supportive and so helpful! I do have a few friends that I have told and everyone is happy for me and roots me along. But really, the people that have helped me and influenced me the most are my BOYS! They are the best supporters I could ever ask for. - Submitted by ErinsClovers |
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I am extremely fortunate-all my friends and family were supportive of my decision, although they were scared. My husband continues to be a main factor in that he made me start exercising six months before surgery and keeps me motivated today to get at least five workouts in each week. The Lord gave me the peace that this decision was the right one for me and my wonderful friends and family have supported me throughout the process with everything from taking my clothes that I outgrew, giving me clothes to grow into and sharing meals with me! Finally, I could not know what I know and feel as supported as I do without the wonderful folks on this site, whom I consider close friends. - Submitted by kkj5165 |
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I'm just at the beginning of my journey and I have to say it's been the people on this site who have given me the most information and support. - Submitted by hamptons11937 |
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Love the question Kathy. I would say that it was my GYN doctor. I had been having such female problems that were being compounded by my weight. He had asked me if I had ever thought of the procedure, gave me a referral and after a lot of research, praying and asking questions, I was on my way. My children and hubby at first did not like the idea. I decided that this was the one time in my life that I was going to be selfish. This time it was going to be about me and my health. Now 50 pounds down, (with more to go), I, as well as my family, have come to realize that it was the best decision for me. So hats off to the GYN Clinic at Walter Reed for helping me start my new beginning. - Submitted by Tlc91 |
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My mom has been the most influential person in my life. She has been next to me since I made the decision to have RNY surgery. My significant other left me after almost 18 years, because of my decision. I am so much better off without him. I love myself again and am very HAPPY with my decision. - Submitted by b510slc |
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My friend and I started the process a year ago. We both got approved with two weeks of each other. I ended up backing out, because I felt like I needed more time to really make an informed decision and to mentally prepare. She proceeded and had Lap-Band surgery in Oct 2009. I have watched her do anything and everything the wrong way. She has never done what the surgeon has told her. She eats whatever, whenever and how much she wants. She drinks soda pop with a straw, then complains of painful gas. She leaves the table at least three times every meal to throw up, only to come back and eat more. She eats more now than she ever has and it's not even been six months. She doesn't exercise. She literally only got up to use the restroom for eight days after the surgery. She lost 20 lbs in the beginning, but has not lost another pound since. We've talked and talked and I've explained how concerned I am for her. Nothing helps. So, in a roundabout way, she has been my most influential person so far in my journey. I am starting again and will follow through this time. I have prayed and prayed about it, read every book under the sun about RNY, and seeing how she is throwing away her tool to weight loss and a healthy lifestyle, makes me more determined than ever to make use of WLS to get healthy. I deserve better than what I have done to my own body all these years! I WILL SUCCEED! My family knows I need this and they are encouraging me, but they will be no support. I'm having my surgery two hours away and don't even know who will bring me home at this point but I'm leaving it all in God's hands. Finding this site will be a major place of support and encouragement. I can already tell! - Submitted by dprtllz |
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Your post allows us to publicly thank those individuals who supported us the most in this life changing journey and I want to thank you for that. First, I want to publicly thank my husband. From the moment I made the decision to pursue WLS, he selflessly did whatever he needed to do to support me. As a legally blind individual who cannot drive, for nine months he spent his off-days driving me to appointments, seminars and hospitals. In my early days post-op when I could not tolerate any protein products, he dropped whatever he was doing in order to go to the store to find something I might tolerate. He cooked everyday ensuring I had ready meals on those days he was working. He reminded me when it was time to take my supplements and monitored my protein intake. And as much as his schedule allows, he takes me to the gym or park in order to get me out of the house so I can exercise. I could not have done this without him. Second, I want to thank my children who have celebrated my past victories and cried with me with each failed weight loss attempt. They encouraged and inspired me. They are all beautiful, healthy young women and my weight struggles have inspired them to remain healthy. For that I am grateful. Third, I want to thank my friend Rhonda. The thought of having WLS never entered my mind because I never thought I would qualify. However, when I joined Facebook and viewed her before/after photo diary, I knew I had to contact her. She could have been very negative if she had formed her opinion based upon the last time we saw each other. I was wearing a size 8 – 10 at that time, but she didn’t. She listened to me and offered to drive me to upcoming seminars. She has encouraged me from day one. Fourth, I have to credit this website for educating me. As a shut-in, my contact with others is profoundly limited. As a result, it has been ObesityHelp that has provided the technical support I need. When my bariatric clinic gave me the detailed instructions for life after WLS, it was reading the boards that provided the concrete examples about what happens if I do not follow my plan. I sincerely thank everyone on this site who has generously spoken into my life. Last and most importantly, I have to thank my Creator. Like many, I believe He wants us to be the best we can be and to enjoy the life He has given us. He intimately knows our struggles and is concerned for our lives. I entered into this quest with a profound peace knowing what I was doing was part of the plan for my life. I am so thankful for “His peace that passes all understanding.? - Submitted by dasie |
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I should say, my son and my parents.I know God was and is supporting me all the time. I did it because I want to be alive when my son grows and develops. I want to play with him, take him outdoors and enjoy life with him. My parents supported my decision and they were and are there emotionally for me. I thank God for all blessings. - Submitted by hellokittyapple |
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Definitely the moderator and members of my WLS support group. I attend monthly, reached goal a couple of months ago, and am down some since then. I am a single senior, living alone, and attending the meetings (with Lap-Band, RNY, and VSG types) has provided me with the insight of others when I run into a problem that has made my WLS journey much easier! - Submitted by phred |
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I did this with the help from ME and my Dad (for driving me to all my appointments), and my pets. - Submitted by Jo-Anna B. |
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I can honestly say that the other members of the Ontario Forum on Obesity Help have been the greatest influence on my weight loss journey. They can relate to my journey and those that are further down the road than I am have immeasurable wisdom and experiences to share. Those that are just starting out help bring me back to basics often and give me a chance to encourage in the same way that I have been encouraged by others! - Submitted by Karlalala |
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Hi there My biggest influence came from my friends on the OH forum in general and there are specific people as well. We all go through so much in our personal lives and can always come back here to vent/share.I don't believe that ANYONE can do this on their own with no support or influences at all. Have a great day. - Submitted by Joyce J. |
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Hello,So far it's been the crew that answer all my little questions from my nerves and pull me up when I am down, here at OH - Submitted by loiswill |
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Hi there.The biggest influence and support to have this surgery was from my daughters. Although they are still young, they boost my motivation to go forward every day and one day at a time. They celebrated every single wow with me and made my life have a different and beautiful meaning to be healthy. My husband was very supportive too but was more of concerned and scared at the same time. My friends at the Shape Shifters and Ingersol support groups in London and the Ontario forum were so supportive, helpful and inspiring all along this journey. - Submitted by mabusheh |
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I have not had surgery yet, but the people who have been most influential in this journey have been my husband (who had RNY in December 2009) and the wonderful ladies of the West Ottawa WLS support coffee group, who I connected with here on OH. They have been a source of strength and a fountain of wisdom. - Submitted by Karen M #2 |
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Most influential... The scale..when I stepped on and saw I broke 300 pounds! I got scared. Scared I wouldn't see my girls grow up. So I took the bull by the horns. Went into my doctor and said I want this surgery. She said they didn't do it anymore or wasn't covered by OHIP. I pulled out an article I had seen in the Star (three years ago) and said, "here they do it here and I want a referral." I got in and saw Dr. Klein, who I guess didn't feel I had tried enough and suggested I see another doctor who deals with nutritional issues, mood and eating disorders. He was amazing. I got treated for depression..(figured life always sucked so didn't realize my life could of been better.) I was treated for sleep apnea (what a difference a good night sleep makes) and miraculously started losing weight. Two years later I went back into Dr. Klein's office. I was 70ish pounds down and still wanting the surgery. Although I had lost the most during the first year with the nutritional doc...I had stalled in the second. However, in that second year I didn't gain weight back and let me tell you, last year was stressful. So I really do credit the scale for my motivation to get the surgery but my perseverance to follow it through.Jill - Submitted by mysticbug |
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I WENT TO A SEMINAR SPONSORED BY HENRY FORD MACOOMB HOSPITAL . AT THIS SEMINAR I HAD A CHANCE TO MEET SOME POST OP RNY'ERS . AT THIS POINT I REALIZED I COULD DO THIS. TOGETHER WITH THESE NEW FRIENDS, WHO ALL COME FROM THE WINDSOR AREA , AND DR. MARSHALL AND DR. PESTA, I JUST FELT I HAD NEW HOPE . MY ULTIMATE GOAL IS TO BEAT MY WEIGHT PROBLEMS . TOGETHER WITH ALL THE PEOPLE I'VE MENTIONED AND MY NEW FRIENDS ON THIS WEBSITE, I THINK I CAN BEAT THIS PROBLEM . THIS IS THE BEST THING I'VE EVER DONE FOR MYSELF . I HOPE ANYONE STILL THINKING ABOUT THIS LISTENS TO ALL THESE PEOPLE. YOU'LL NEVER REGRET THE FINAL RESULT ..........ROGER - Submitted by GATOR |
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I did this for me and then my family. I wanted to see my granddaughter grow and with the weight I was gaining who knows what would have happened. Also, my mom, because if it wasn't for her, I would have never got it done. My family and parents support is awesome.... - Submitted by maryanne oney |
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I have to say my mother, father, sister, husband, my children and this website. People on it have really been supportive of me through my WLS Journey. I really wanted WLS and my family has been there for me through the whole thing. I went through everything I needed to do to have WLS surgery and now that I have had WLS, I'm happier in life. - Submitted by wendykell |
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I would have to say that it is myself. I had to make the decision to have the surgery and commit to the lifestyle changes that I would have to make for the rest of my life. No matter how much my family and friends encourage and support me in my decision, they cannot make the choices for me that I need to make every day on this journey - those choices are mine and mine alone. - Submitted by less_of_me |
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Many, many people were influential in my journey! And the effect was cumulative - a great example of how the sum of the parts can be greater than the individual parts themselves. One of these influences alone would have been great - but all of them working synergistically was POWER! - my family for supporting me in every way, even when they were scared for me. - my Cambridge Coffee Crew for being there EVERY week, to cheer my successes and kick my butt when I needed it! - my Ontario forum OH family (a pretty great forum btw!) for the constant support, ideas and information. - my friends who stuck by me in the journey for being there, even if they couldn't really understand what I was going through or why I did this. - my friends who didn't stick by me, for helping me realize who were my real friends and allowing me to focus my attention on the people who were deserving. - anyone who ever called me fat, or beached whale, or big-boned, or two-tonne-tessie - for being honest (even if RUDE) and helping me to see what I needed to do! Thanks to all of you! - Submitted by ericaFG |
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I did this for me...Mainly because before I lost my dad, I told him that I would take better care of myself. With the support of my husband , children and family I was able to make it through this journey. I also had a lot of wonderful advise and help from my new friends on OH ...Thank you all. - Submitted by tcblakely |
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For me, I think I have been influenced by many – not one thing or person I believe is responsible for my choice to move forward in the weight loss surgery process. I believe it was a series of events that gave me the push I needed. It all started one night when I was working at my part time evening position (a fabric shop) when a lady came in who needed to alter to her outfit. It was TOO big! She had this huge smile on her face and she just started to tell me her life story (I think she was having a WOW moment). She explained how she went forward with weight loss surgery and how it was a success. I started to feel this overwhelming feeling – within in seconds I started to get emotional. I explained my history and she recommended that I research weight loss surgery as it may be a possible option. I couldn’t wait to get home that night, I needed to know MORE. More is what I got, a few binders of printed information to be exact. This lady inspired me to start the process. The men and women on the Obesity Help Ontario Forum are the main reason for my commitment and dedication to change. Members of the Ontario forum inspire me with their journeys, wows, and their ability to overcome weight loss surgery hurdles. My favorite part which helps me get over the “hard times? is when I see people who have met their goals, or their before and after photos – TRUE INSPIRATION. - Submitted by Carrie F. |
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Hi the people that are very supportive to me in my weight loss journey are my family, friends, my boyfriend and my kidney specialist. I have also found my friends on the OH site here to be very supportive. The most influential person in this was me. I also made the choice to have the surgery. I did research. I chose on a daily bases to work the tool I was given. I to have made choices to keep myself healthy. Also, my surgeon (Dr. Klein) has been influential in my weight loss to. SINCERELY YOURS PAULA(paula-37) - Submitted by paula-37 |
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My answer is divided. I've had VERY mixed feelings from family and friends but there's been two people that have made the difference in my life- during my journey and motivating me. 1st: ABSOLUTELY my OH/Ontario board family. With no fail they are there time and time again with advice, support, love and harsh reality checks. I know no matter what tumbles and falls or what success I've had, these people are truly my family. Included in that category, I do want to say my hero and true angel is Deedums/Darice. She loved and supported me and my family while I was in NY getting my surgery, has taught me everything I know and is my biggest cheerleader! And 2nd: My husband... it was for him and I wanted to take this journey. I wanted to ensure that I'll grow old with him, to be with him always and forever. Cheesy I know, but it's the truth! Once I met him four years ago, I knew I had to do something. He supported my decision and now 10 months post-op, I have never seen this kind of love and support before. He took care of me when I came home. He makes sure I only eat the right things and making sure I exercise. He's the one that kicks my butt when I don't get up to it.... he can be harsh, but really its only to make me better. There's lots of people in my life but these 2-3 people(s) are what keep me going! Thank you OH /Ontario board, to my husband and to Darice! - Submitted by Nadine M. |
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Hands down, my friends here on OH have been my biggest support group. I could name so many who have helped me along the way.My family and hubby, of course, have supported me, but they can't know what I am going though likes those people here on OH. You guys are my rock, my sounding board, my ground zero. I need this forum like I need to breathe. The people here create an environment of acceptance. Anything goes and I love it. - Submitted by nanpet |
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Hi Nancy, You have been there for me from the very beginning & have offered unwavering support. I consider you a true blue friend & supporter. Thank you. - Submitted by andreadoe |
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First and foremost, my family supported me unconditionally! I did this for myself, but it was so I could be around for them for as long as possible. The Ontario forum, with all the great people here, has been a huge part of my success. Last but certainly not least, my Cambridge Coffee Crew people. They really are the greatest bunch of people. They are there to support me, encourage me and kick my ass when needed and there are no words that can say how much that means to me. - Submitted by Lisa P. |
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I think for me the most influential person in my WLS journey has been my three year old daughter and her future sibling that isn't here yet. I look at her and I am reminded of how hard being pregnant was at 300lbs with her. How I didn't enjoy my journey being pregnant. I want to be healthier for baby number two. To have a different experience. A great support for me has been my husband, who encouraged me to go to coffee nights with the crazy Cambridge ladies, where seeing people going through the same journey you are is a great place to draw strength from. Thank you ladies. Last but not least, my Mom. She has always stood beside me, regardless of my choices. She has been there to cheer me on, to support me, to give me strength, to cheer me up with a new pair of pants or shirt she saw when shopping that she thought might fit right about now. For all these people, too many to name, they are all so needed and appreciated! - Submitted by roots-girl |
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The greatest influences on this journey have been my darling wife Poppy1 and members of the various groups that we have been involved with over the years. Barrie, York Region, Quinte, Peterborough... all great people and great influences. - Submitted by sailorboy |
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My wonderful husband Peter has been there with me from my darkest days of being 300 pounds and very unhappy ( suicidal even ) to the present day. At 180 pounds I feel like a whole new woman...my life is full of joy and purpose. He loved me despite everything, he is truly my best support. He even had the RNY himself. We are truly fighting the obesity battle together and always will. Thanks sweetheart ...you saved my life! I have met so many wonderful supportive friends here on OH and at the various support groups I have attended over the eight years since my first WLS (VBG) till my revision to RNY last year. (With the wonderful Dr. Klein.) The Barrie group welcomed us in with open arms and made me start to believe in myself again. I stay in close contact with many from there to this day .Love to you all Barrie group! I lost a couple of friends to along the WLS road. Some were from the boards ...made me sad. But I found a few true gems too. One of which was Andrea D. She runs the York region group with huge dedication and a warm loving giving heart. She has been there for me over and over again. She is just a wonderful friend . A shout out to Janet , Joyce , Eva , Jeanetta , Nancy , Tina G , Rita , Chantelle , Heather , Steph , Tina , Cheryl , Jude , Erica (what an inspiration you are !) and so many others. My own Peterborough group, the Belville and Brampton gangs, the Scarborough coffee ladies...you have all become very special friends. Thanks for all for changing my life so very much for the better . I couldn't have done this without you ...and I am definitely in this for the long haul with you guys. - Submitted by poppy1 |
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Thanks Linda. You have been a great support for me through my ups and downs as well. It is great the number of wonderful people you meet on this journey. - Submitted by jetta77 |
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Aw Linda! Thank you for your kind words. I want to thank you for your consistently positive attitude & your regular reminders of how far I've come & how good life is. You have been a true blue friend throughout this process. - Submitted by andreadoe |
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I will have to say that my family physician and my friends here at OH have been the biggest influence for me. (And for that I thank you! ) There is no way that I would have been able to make this decision without the help that I had from the folks here. The information on the OH site was invaluable afterwards too, as there are so many "little things" that WLS patients need to know will happen to us (and it is so good to know we are not the only ones these weird things happen to). - Submitted by Arpeggia |
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Hmm, I would have to say pre-surgery, celebrities who had WLS were most influential: Carnie Wilson, Al Roker, Rosanne, Sharon Osborne, Starr Jones. They gave me the idea - but I figured the surgery was reserved for famous people. Then I saw Big Medicine & the idea came to me that maybe this surgery was available to average people. Then I spoke to my family doctor who supported me all along the way. So, pre-op, it was WLS celebrities, the doctors of Big Medicine & my family doctor. It was really unfortunate that I didn't know a single person who'd had the surgery. I had to research this via the internet. Finding OH was a lifesaver. Then I found Dawn. Her story let me know that this may really happen for me & I may even be able to lose all my excess weight. She helped me raise the bar high & I'm so grateful to her for that. Once I made up my mind to have surgery, I have to say my family was very supportive & their support was a big help to me. But, the support & advice I got from my OH friends was invaluable. They answered my questions & gave me little nuggets of information & advice that helped me achieve the results I did. Thank you friends, family & OH. - Submitted by andreadoe |
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Most Influential? Wow, to pick only one would be so hard! My family and friends are amazing, my children are my inspiration and my fellow WLS buddies online definitely help me get by. But I guess the biggest one for me is God. He has given me more strength and willpower, and more encouragement and inspiration then any one person or group. I wouldn't be here without Him. - Submitted by Danielle_24 |
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Wow - that is quite a question! I have a similar answer to Erica's... so why re-invent the wheel?" Many, many people were influential in my journey! And the effect was cumulative - a great example of how the sum of the parts can be greater than the individual parts themselves. One of these influences alone would have been great - but all of them working synergistically was POWER!" - my boyfriend, my sister (who finally came around) and my two sons for supporting me in every way, even when they were scared for me. - the first person who I discussed WLS with, and has been my mentor - a friend from high school - Lisa Sieben, the first group of six that met in the summer of 2006: Carolynne, Paulette, Trudy, Rosemary, Lisa (and myself), my co-facilitators over the years for the Hamilton and Area Weight Loss Support Group "Find Your Weigh", Debbie Linfoot (my angel), and Laural B. - my peeps in the Milton, Barrie, St Catherine's, Toronto, Ingersoll and Owen Sound support groups and of course all those who come and go at my HAMILTON support group.All these folks cheer my successes and kick my butt when I need it! - my Ontario forum here at OH as well as those on the OSSG Toronto forum, and the London yahoo group. - my friends who stuck by me in the journey for being there, even if they couldn't really understand what I was going through or why I did this. - my friends who didn't stick by me, for helping me realize who were my real friends and allowing me to focus my attention on the people who were deserving. - all the new friends I have made along this journey who have made me realize that there is so much more to me then my "earth suit". - Submitted by Erin A. |
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