Question:
Post Ops: Any of your peers on the job wanting you to go

lunch with them now that you are no longer obese? I can remember times BEFORE my WLS when absolutely NO ONE would ask me to accompany them at lunchtime. Now, looks like I have to just about schedule times (*grin*) How does that make you feel or affect you? Proximal LAP RNY 9/0/02 Hadiyah, a.k.a.~~    — yourdivaness (posted on February 1, 2004)

February 1, 2004
Actually, I have found it to be the opposite. I have found that people would ask me to go before and now they are self-conscious about inviting someone who has had WLS to lunch...JR
   — John Rushton

February 1, 2004
We don't go out to lunch at work, we order in, usually Chinese, Italian or Spanish style. I was always asked as a pre-op. It took awhile after surgery for people to see that I can still eat what they eat, just not as much.
   — Fixnmyself

February 2, 2004
I was always asked as a pre-op and still am but now they get such a kick out of watching what and how much I eat. My co-workers have been, and still are, wonderfully supportive!
   —  SCbabe B.

February 2, 2004
This sounds bitter as it rolls out of might mouth, but if the "ppular" people didn't have time for you before, when you were obese, why would you give them your time now? <br>Do you qualify as being good enough to be with them now? I bet you were a great person before your surgery too - I would be more worried about those who are still getting left behind, still feeling like cr@p, just like we all used to. Just my two cents, just since you asked. <br>Yeah, it's great to have the extra attention when the weight goes away, but we are all the same people inside, aren't we?
   — kultgirl

February 2, 2004
I get asked out less than before WLS. Even if I ask them to go with me, they always seem to have something come up. I asked one lady why and she said I made HER look bad because she ate so much more than me. She ate the same amount that she always had but it just LOOKED like she ate way more. Hmmm... Its their problem not mine. ~Sidney~ Open RNY 10-23-02 down 130+
   — Siddy I.

February 2, 2004
The person who has treated me like that is my "never had a fat day in her life" sister-in-law. About 15 years ago I managed to lose 80 lbs....well thats when she decides to be my buddy. So later on I put back on the 80, plus more lbs and I am shunned again. You know what?? I don't care!! I have lost 130 lbs since my surgery on July 11th 2003. She hasn't laid eyes on me to see how different I look now. She is so shallow!! Her mother taught her that its what is on the OUTSIDE that counts. Her insides are showing and they are very ugly. :halo:
   — Lois B.

February 2, 2004
Lois, I think we have the same SIL. She could never stand the sight of me, but now you'd think she was my best friend. She actually told me once that she could never talk to me "Before" (read "when you were FAT") but NOW she can talk to me and I'm her favorite SIL (we have a big family). Lucky me.
   — mom2jtx3

February 3, 2004
What is a "SIL"????
   — Danmark

February 3, 2004
Daniel - SIL = Sister-in-law.
   — koogy

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