Question:
WAS LIFE EASIER 100 LBS (OR SO) AGO?

Now that I am a normal weight, I am finding myself in very uncomfortable situations - such as making enemies with a nice person that I had a little "liason" with at work. Because of my big mouth. Sometimes I feel like a 15 year old girl stuck in a 35 year old body, in terms of dating. Who had to "re-learn" how to deal with men, dating, the whole mess. It's enough to make me wish I still weighed 250lbs. and was "safe", y'know? Wondering if anybody else has had these feelings/experiences...and did you finally quit screwing up.    — rebeccamayhew (posted on August 1, 2003)

August 1, 2003
Hi Rebecca, No way would I want to go back into my shell and hide inside an obese body. You have summed it up in your own question and given the answer too. It was "safe" because no body bothered us and we were invisible. I would rather deal with life issues and get on with it than hide away. Another thing to remember is that a lot of MO's haven't developed social skills because it was not necessary for the very reason you stated. It was safer just to hide. Give yourself some time and it will work out. I think another thing to consider is that for years we let others walk on us and now we have a kind of "anger" about that so we refuse to let it happen anymore. Lots of issues but they aren't unsurmountable. Life is better at 100 lbs less!
   — Mylou52

August 1, 2003
I'd been normal weight and had lots of relationship problems. When I was slightly older than you I gave up and purposely put on weight to avoid it all. Be careful! It is possible to sabotage all your hard work. If you find you can't handle things I hope you'll get some counseling; that's what I plan to do if I can't deal with the men who are starting to sniff around.
   — Chris T.

August 2, 2003
My sincere thanks to those who responded. I just need to forgive myself for the mistakes I have made in this, and pray that this person forgives me someday, esp. since I have to see him every day at work and right now it is extremely tense. Therapy might not be a bad idea since I am having some severe misgivings/traumas about my newfound "sexual power" and wanting to regress into my shell - which has now disappeared. You guys are the best...
   — rebeccamayhew