Question:
Is anyone worried the surgery wont work for them?
I am going on my 6 week out , have lost a total of 20 to 25 lbs. (It flucuates)! I get so worried that I will stay at this weight and only loose an additional 20lbs and thats all......I started at 274 and now weigh 250ish-255ish. I never have been able to go below 235 and am worried i will stop there.......Has any one had theese feelings and ame out a success? I exercise 2 hours a day now, 1 hour cardio and the rest weight lifting diffrent muscle groups....Yes, I know i may be gainig muscle and loosign inches.....But has any one felt like this......I feel so worried and I barley see the weight loss that I have, yet others can tell......Please let me know how you are doing.. — christina L. (posted on June 24, 2003)
June 23, 2003
Yes, I'm worried, too...and I haven't even had the surgery yet! But I've
been on 2 protein shakes a day for over a month now, and have lost less
than 10 pounds. So I'm really concerned that after the surgery, my body
just won't give any weight up.
— Maryland D.
June 23, 2003
I am also 6 weeks post op and have had the same fears so I guess it's
normal. I mean after all, we just had our insides rearranged, and went
through a lot to have it done. Naturally when we hit a plateau, we fear
the worse, "it's over, this is it, I went through all that for
this"! That kind of thinking is probably destructive, but I think if
everyone were honest, they would agree that that same thought has crossed
their mind. Hang in there... we will do it! LA - 40 lbs
— Happy I.
June 23, 2003
Christina- Everyone I know who has had the surgery has that fear. After
years and years of failed dieting we are program to believe that is will
fail. You are concerned a light weight and it may be slower for you - don't
compare your weight lose with someone who was over 300lbs. They are going
to lose faster. Think of this way- right now there is no possible way you
can eat more calories then you burn in a day (unless you are having a milk
shake for every meal). You will lose if you follow what you suppose to do.
Hang in there. Cheryl S 5/30/02 -125lbs
— Cheryl S.
June 23, 2003
I worry every day that the surgery will not work. I am scheduled for my
second surgical consult this week and I have doubts on top of doubts. I
have not been below 250 lbs in years and years... and I am around 280 now.
It would be such a "GIFT" if I could break that 250 mark. I
asked my doctor the same thing... "what if it does not work?"
His answer was, "if you follow instructions it will work." It
sounds like you are following instructions to me. Things will be fine. We
HAVE TO believe this! God Bless in your Journey.
— Eleanore Davis
June 23, 2003
I was one of the biggest doubters of this surgery!! My doctor
even had to talk me into having it. I did not want to give up
my old lifestyle. Well, he told me that I would not have a life
style if I kept gaining weight. He told me that I would not live
more than 5 more years at my weight ( I weighed 450 lbs!!!)
Well, I had finally gave in and had a RNY after I saw how much it
helped my wife. She lost 110 lbs in about 6 mos!!! I had my
surgery in Oct 2001 and have now lost 215 lbs!! Quit worrying
about if it will work on you. If you follow all of your doctors
instructions, you cannot fail!!!!
— OLD RODEO C.
June 23, 2003
I too was one of those people who was sure this surgery was not going to
work for me and for a while I was right. I only lost 40 pounds in th first
3 1/2 months and that was with a starting weight of over 400 pounds. My
doctor was at a loss as was everyone else as to why I wasn't losing because
I was doing everything right, but my body just flat out refused to give up
the weight. My doctor said if nothing else I'd be a great subject for a
study or (my favorite) the last survivor on a desert island. Now,
approaching my two year anniversary in August, I've lost 286 pounds and I
feel fantastic. I just kept plugging away and, most importantly, kept
exercising, exercising, exercising. The weight did come off and I'm in the
best shape of my life or frankly the lives of all my friends and family.
Exercise and determination were the keys for me. Don't be a quitter! Just
keep doing your thing and eventually the weight will come off, but I have
to admit I do get really annoyed when I read the posts from people who say
they lost it all without exercising. If their metabolism is so much better
than mine, how did they get fat in the first place? Just how much were they
all eating pre surgery? How are they coping with all that excess skin that
will only get better with exercise? But then I figure I can hike the Grand
Canyon now and go mountain biking and climb the stairs at the Eiffel Tower
and any other physical activity I want to do so it was all worth it. By the
way, no offense to those of you who don't exercise and still lose weight,
but it really is annoying to those of us who even with surgery struggle for
every lost pound.
— Traci H.
June 23, 2003
I am still pre-op, but that is my biggest fear. I read other people's
profiles and they say they thought it, but it ended up working just fine.
I STILL am like:"Yeah, they just THOUGHT it wouldn't work for them,
but it REALLY won't work for me." But, I figure that if it works,
that is the most FANTASTIC thing in the entire world. If it doesn't work,
I'm sure God has a reason, and at least I TRIED to make a positive
difference in my life. That is the same way I am rationalizing my fear of
death. (Although I have already had two surgeries (breast reduction and
gallbladder removal) and have come out of them with flying colors!) I
figure that if it doesn't "work" for me, at least no one could
say that I haven't tried EVERYTHING!!!! But, logically, you can't expect
that cutting caloric intake and increasing activity WON'T work! It has
to!!! If you aren't taking in as many calories, and are burning a lot off,
the extra energy has to come from somewhere! (Hopefully, it will be from
my belly!!!) Hope you start feeling better about this...
— BeckyT
June 24, 2003
I felt the same way, and like someone else mentioned I thing its because we
always failed at the diets. However, this one actually works as long as you
do your part. Yes muscle does weigh more but I'd still excercise as much as
your comfortable with. I was "stuck" at one weight or another for
sometimes as long as 2 or 3 looooong weeks!!! grrrrrrr!!!!!! Its just a
dreaded plateau is all. I wanted to lose 100 pounds at my 6 month
anniversary and I did that quite easily! I had my surgery on October 15th
and as of today have lost 128 pounds and still losing. Don't worry and just
keep doing what your doing, it will start to come off again, your body just
needs time to "catch up" to you:)
Lori Miranda
— Lori M.
June 24, 2003
I am four and a half months out and still worry about this every single
day. I am down 61 pounds and still think I am failing this. I am think I
lose very oddly, I only lose one week of the month and that is when I am on
my monthly, but then I lose about 10 pounds in that week and then nothing
until the next month's cycle. I am glad you posted this, I needed the
engouragement and the knowledge that I am not alone. Marcy, open RNY 3/4/03
- 61
— Marcy S.
June 24, 2003
Hey, I'm almost 10 months post op(and 150lbs down) and I STILL worry that
this surgery won't work for me!!!!! I still don't believe that this is REAL
and permanent! It's one day at a time here...............
— Debby M.
June 24, 2003
Hi Christina,
I am in the same situation has you and feel the same way. I am on 7 weeks
post op (5/5/03). I also have only lost what seems to be a small amount. I
am only down -34 #'s. I doesnt seem like much, but it is a start and am
willing to live with a slow loss. My Surgeon and Dr, say it is just where
they like to see the loss, this way, yes we can tone. I am 25 yrs old and
started my journey at 294 (not my highest). Some people think that I am not
going to reach my goal weight of 150 (5'5). But I say you are all wrong, I
will reach my goal, even if it takes me 5 years. We were all given a tool
and we all have to learn how to use our tool. Each one is different has
each one of us is too different. At this point of the game, we need to
remember to use encouraging thoughts and words. I also, cannot really tell
the difference others can. The one thing I can tell though is my stomach is
flat (flatter than it has ever been). That is exciting to me! Just hang in
there and remain positive. Remember: Its all good! We are on this journey
together. If you want to email me: [email protected]
— Anna T.
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