Question:
My surgery is October 7, my daughter's 2nd birthday is October 11 ...

If I have a complication free surgery, am home in 3 days which will be the 10th, will I be able to particpate in my baby girl's birthday the next day on the 11th?    — Angela B. (posted on September 30, 2002)

September 30, 2002
I don't think you will be ready to sit and participate in a party, why not have the party a week or 2 later, or a week earlier than your surgery. You will not only be tired , but not up to having alot of people around, at least I wasn't.
   — Nilda G.

September 30, 2002
I agree...you are not going to feel like participating in the party if you have it on 10/11. If you have complications (hopefully you won't), you may not even be home by the 11th. Hold the party a couple of weeks later - your daughter when she grows up will never remember that her 2nd birthday party was 2 weeks after her birthday...
   — John Rushton

September 30, 2002
Honestly, I don't think you'll be able to do anything but rest! I had Open RNY and came home after 5 days. My first day home, with my then 3 year old was pretty rough, I didn't feel like doing much - other then trying to sleep! I agree that the best thing to do would be to postpone the party for a week or two, your little one will never know and, in a couple of weeks you'll be feeling much, much better!
   — Rosario T.

September 30, 2002
Angela, what a wonderful birthday present to give your daughter and YOURSELF. You may not be able to do a whole lot THIS year, but thing long range. So you have to depend on someone else this year to pull off the birthday party....but just think. YOU will be in charge for the next 21 to come. And she's so little now, she won't even remember. Best wishes on your journey. You are doing a good thing!
   — Annie H.

September 30, 2002
Thank you all so much for the advice. I will heed to your words and just have the party a couple of weeks after her birthday. She will definitely not remember ... Thanks again. I appreciate it.
   — Angela B.

October 3, 2002
Angela, I had my surgery January 25, 2001 and my daughters birtday was January 27th (her 3rd). We celebrated her birthday before my surgery :). Good luck however you choose to do it. It really is a great gift to her. I wouldnt be able to be the mom I am now without having had this life changing surgery.
   — Eva C.

October 3, 2002
Angela, I had my surgery January 25, 2001 and my daughters birtday was January 27th (her 3rd). We celebrated her birthday before my surgery :). Good luck however you choose to do it. It really is a great gift to her. I wouldnt be able to be the mom I am now without having had this life changing surgery.
   — Eva C.