Question:
i'M 15 MONTHS OUT RNY SEPT 20TH 2002

AND I'VE LOST A TOTAL OF 150LBS STARTED OUT @ 287 NOW 137LBS, AND FEELING REAL GOOD, I'M JUST KINDA AT AHH WITH ALL THIS ATTIONTION IAM GETTING, I DON'T MIND IT ITS JUST SOMETIMES OVERWELMING,SOMETIMETIMES EVEN SCARY. HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THIS ATTIONTION GUYS? YOU SEE I'M A GAY FEMALE, AND ALL THE ATTIONTION IS WITH MEN.    — jennifer O. (posted on December 30, 2003)

December 30, 2003
Jennifer, I don't think the fact that your gay is an issue, at least not in my mind. Smile... say thank you.. and go from there. I am just starting my path, with major resistance from my partner/husband. He is not happy with my decission to go down this road for this. I can not wait to be in your place and get attention from men and women. shaz :)
   — shaz59

December 30, 2003
I agree with the last poster. I would simply say thank you and leave it at that. If you are saying that you are only getting attention from males and you would like attention from females then perhaps you could search out a gay/lesbian support group or singles group in your area. You may just need to get more involved with getting the attention you deserve. Good luck to you.
   — tntwildlife77

December 30, 2003
from one lesbian to another.....I'm tickled pink when I get attention from men- Ohhhh yea ! Flatter me baby (just don't ask me out on a date) LOL seriously tho- How do I now deal with attention ? I soak it in- I smile kindly, just a simple thank you- Its "funny" I went for quite a few years with men letting the door slam in my face instead of holding it open for me,,now they practically put down their coat on a puddle..haha PATHETIC (giggle)
   — WABBIT F.

December 30, 2003
Congrats on doing so well. I understand how you feel. I am surprised at men who will speak and be friendly now. I am uncomfortable with the flirting. If I am getting it now, I can't imagine what it will be like when I am 140 pounds. Do you know there is a yahoo group for gay and lesbian folks who have had wls? Hang in there.
   — Ann B.

December 30, 2003
Eventually you will get used to it. I was embarrassed by it all in the beginning and when complimented didn't know what to say. I've learned to just say thank you and move on. If men press you for attention/dates, just tell them your seeing someone. Works every time...
   — Cindy R.

December 30, 2003
I've tried that "I am seeing someone", like Cindi just suggested - but that never seems to deter some men. I have also said, "Sorry, thanks but no thanks, I'm a lesbian" (which I am). Dont try THAT one...it just seems to egg them on!! lol Must have to do with that threesome fantasy! lol I say, just smile to yourself and giggle knowingly that they can never have you cause they dont have the right stuff!! ROFLAO! :-)
   — MissKimberly

December 31, 2003
Jennifer ~ I don't mean to diminish your feelings, but I have to tell you, that I can't wait for that to happen to me! I've lost 100 pounds so far (now to 190ish and a size 16), and my women friends and coworkers tell me how great I look, but so far, no extra attention from any man--ones I know or not. It's been a long time since men paid attention to me, and I'd like to experience it again! I'm sorry you're having a hard time with it. I can only echo others' suggestions of a polite "thank you" and move on. Congratulations on your fabulous weight loss success!
   — Vespa R.

December 31, 2003
Wow!!! I have not yet had my surgery but I too wonder about the attention from men. (me being a lesbian also)I didn't know they had a support group for us on yahoo.But I thank you for bringing up this issue.
   —  Renee W.