Question:
Does anyone regret haveing this surgery?

im barely two weeks post op and a part of me regrets having this surgery i hate feeling like crap, does anyone else feel this way?????    — Deanna Wise (posted on December 31, 2001)

December 31, 2001
I too felt the same as you, but I promise it will pass. (you can read my profile for all the details) I am 4 months out and I did have a few complications, and thought to myself what have I done, but I promise it gets better each day. I have lost 70 pounds and 34 inches so far and I am able to eat now (that makes a big difference) If I can help you please e-mail me. But like I said each day that passes it will get better! Love, Laura
   — laurac82101

December 31, 2001
Deanna, I had an open SRVG on Dec. 11th. When I came in the door from the hospital I burst into tears and squalled like a baby. I was back in my home where all the eating had been done, back to the "scene of the crime!" I was sore, tired, and miserable. I wailed to my husband something like "What have I done to myself?" My poor hubby didn't know what to do, he just held me until I stopped crying! But it was all emotional. Within a few days I was feeling better and I am getting better each day. I went back for my post-op visit to my surgeon and have lost 25 pounds! Never, ever would I have lost 25 pounds on my own! What you are experiencing is normal, lots of us go through it. Try to keep your mind focused on why you had the surgery, it WILL get better, I promise!!!
   — esthjb

December 31, 2001
This feeling will pass. I had my surgery lap on 12/10/01. I went back to work this weekend (12/29/01). I work 2 12 hour shifts on the weekend and did great. I do remember recent days when I wondered if that would be possible but it went just fine. Make sure you are staying well hydrated and eating as well as you can. I got dry one day and it made a huge difference in how poorly I felt. Best wishes.
   — jsuggs

December 31, 2001
I miss pigging out on food! As rediculous as that sounds I do miss being able to eat till I am uncomfortable, however I am only 6 weeks post, down 50lbs and it gets better everyday. I havent had a cheesburger and fries yet and for some strange reason havent craved it. I am going to miss going to restaurants as it will be very impractible. I guess we are just never satisfied no matter what good fortune we have!!
   — Greg S.

December 31, 2001
The first five weeks, I regretted having the surgery! Now, I am 6 months out and -119 lbs. and very happy! Restaurants were always a big part of our social life and they remain so. I can find SOMETHING to eat in any restaurant we go to. I order the "to-go-box" when my order gets there, so I can place a lot of food in there, so I don't overeat. But first, I slide some off onto anybodys plate who wants some & we have grown sons, so that comes easily. I never have been able to waste food before, but if it makes it into the go-go box, I am able to toss it a day or two later. I would eat it, but we always have too much food, so it is not needed. As for at home, we still have full meals. I get a little of this and a little of that. What has changed, for me, I will never go back to eating rice, pasta & breads. Potatoes I will only have a plain baker about twice/week. So no....I have not really missed pizza, etc. I have my burgers plain with steamed veggies. Good luck to you.
   — Barbara B.

December 31, 2001
Yes, i am probably the only person on here who will tell you that after 2 and a half years, I do regret having it. On the other hand, the good news is that I am most likely very alone in that feeling. Most people would do it again in a heartbeat. Me? No. Too many postop problems...wayyyy too many. Your regret will pass as you see the pounds melting away. Everyone has that feeling like "what the heck did I do" but after about a month, it passes and you are well on your way to being thin. that in itself makes things much better. I got like that too until my health started failing. Just take it with a grain of salt, most people are so happy they had this surgery. I am of the minority but you asked and I am one of the few that will tell you this side of it. Most others who have had problems like me, don't stay on here or don't write these things. I wish you good luck and know that things will get better soon.
   — Barbara H.

January 1, 2002
Barbara. I am very happy that you stay with AMOS and give your input. I wish more with problems would do the same. Do the doctors have any idea why most of us can absorb vitamins and you cannot. Have they determined what went wrong. I feel so bad for you. Have you consulted for a second opinion on whether this can be reversed.
   — faybay

January 1, 2002
Deanna, I am also in the minority. I wonder if I did the right thing. I had my open RNY 10/24/01 and have lost 50 pounds. I feel like I could have done that by myself (and of course I have MANY times)and I have sooo much more to go. Now the bills are starting to pile up from the part my insurance didn't cover (about $9000.00 so far) and I feel so weak most of the time that I wonder if I will be able to work enough to pay off my debts.I guess I am starting this year with a bad case of PMS(poor me syndrome). But, you did ask, and I felt the need to say that right now I do have some regrets. Best of luck to you, Diane
   — Diane D.