Question:
some times doesnt it seem like we were not ment for wls surgery!

I have had bad luck my whole life and it seems like i was not meant for wls surgery. can that be true? I have tried and tried and no luck. maybe god might be telling me something?    — enriqueta C. (posted on February 22, 2001)

February 21, 2001
snap out of it. everyone encounters bad "luck" in their life. you talk about god and then luck, sounds like your feeling powerless. everyone here has felt powerless. being obese is the most difficult thing i've ever done ( not single motherhood- not college- not getting clean and sober-obesity is a real hurdle. your lucky you believe in god. god can be fantastic strength for us. you also need a good support group, maybe OA or a wls support group in your area. NO SUCH THING AS UNLUCKY! you've just got some challenges others may not have. maybe you have it easier where others don't. try to look at the positives whatever they may be. try and be grateful for the things that you do have. i am not trying to underemphasize your pain at all. in fact i sympathize tremendously with your powerlessness. god loves you and i love you and you need to find some people who can love you until you can love yourself.wls isn't a cure for this stuff you know. im so sorry your having a hard time. go see a good movie!
   — [Deactivated Member]

February 22, 2001
The lord works in mysterious ways my friend. Have faith. None of us were meant to be miserable. If things have happened that seemed unlucky, try to accept them with grace. Also, remember to focus on the blessing. Like this community. When I get down I make it a point to find five things a day that I'm thankful for. There might be fifty things that went wrong, but if we focus on the positive, it tends to grow. Lean on us and we'll all get through this. :)
   — [Anonymous]

February 22, 2001
I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and God answers prayers, just maybe not in the timeframe we might like but in His own perfect timing. Case in point, I started pursuing revision surgery in 12/99 and knew I was working against a deadline. In 3/00 I was marrying a man from another state and in 6/00 I was quitting my job to be with him if I didnt find anything sooner. I was anxious and was devastated when I was denied. I was jumping up and down, praying my head off because it took 2 months for NeWeigh to file my appeal (seems they chose this time to review the way they present revision cases since I was yet another denial). Finally they sumitted it and the wait began. In the meantime I got married and I interviewed for a job that I KNEW should be mine. A job I didn't get. Finally, on May 17th (2 weeks from my quitting date) I got a call saying I had been approved. I got hysterical thinking it was already too late but after praying about it I called back and guess what? The next day I was having pre-op testing, and that Monday (4 days later) I had my surgery. I moved out of state the day after I got out of the hospital, was able to go on short-term disability with my job and then at 4 weeks when I was cleared to go back to work guess what? The job I had felt was mine was vacant again and guess who got it. So, although I got freaked out and felt like I wasn't meant to have the surgery, God had everything worked out in His own timing....and, of course, it was perfect. Don't give up, keep praying. You'll get your answer. God bless you.
   — Kellye C.

February 23, 2001
I want to say that everyone has posted wonderful answer to this question. I remember last Oct 2000 when I began doing research on WLS. That night when I camE home from PCP with tears in my eyes because I needed help and did not know where to turn, because so many diets/exercise progams that I have done/joined had failed. I had prayed millions of times to God to help with my diets. that I would still feel like I let GOD down too. I would start a diet on Monday and by Thursday or end of week I blew it the diet was over. Week after week or month after month. I always failed....This special nite in Oct I got on my knees to pray as I cried for God to please give me the guidance I need. Please show me the Path for I am blind!!!That I am sick and tired of being sick and tired of carry around this 349 lbs. and I know there has to be a better life and I do want to live...I held my head down in shame for I knew ok Jay here you are again praying to God making bets/tradeoffs. But this was different I was asking for Guidance and a Path. Next thing I knew I went to my wonderful computer and went on a search engine and I keyed in '"FAT REDUCTION BY SURGERY" this is what brought me to this wonderful site and I begain doing my research. I had my surgery Jan 15,2001 and as of today Feb 23, I now have lost 38 lbs FOREVER. I also want to add before my mother passed 3 years she would always say to me DREAMS DO COME TRUE IF YOU BELIEVE, this came back to me as if she was here and said it again to me. This was so true and I now am a firm believer that things happen in GODS time and place and not mine. When I remove myself and powerness I find I do alot better. Sometimes I just need to move from the driver seat. I will keep you in my prayers and pray that your day will soon. Never give up. Just likes the 4 seasons there is a reason for everything we just dont understand what it is. God Bless you DREAMS DO COME TRUE FOR THOSE WHO BELIEVES
   — jay B.