Question:
I am 6 mths post op down 106lbs, started in size 26 now in 18, a girl from work just
asked me if I am still losing weight I said yes and she looked at me(you know up then down) and said REALLY! I know I have slowed a bit but gee was that rude? That old failure feeling slapped me right in the face. What can I do to increase the weight loss? I joined a gym, could be better on my protein, other than that I am following all my doctors orders. — Lisa W. (posted on February 6, 2003)
February 6, 2003
First...tell that girl to go suck an egg! lol! How rude! Some people just
don't know when you shut up! You just start sucking down more water and
less carbs and I'm sure you'll loose. But keep in mind...everyone looses
at a different rate (remind me of this when I'm post op and stressing over
not loosing fast enough! )...and when you are down to goal and looking even
more hot then you do now, you can rub it in the girls face. You'll KNOW
that you worked HARD for the body you have and she...well...she'll never
appreciate how beautiful you really are! But you'll know! And some day,
when an overweight friend or coworker busts his or her butt and drops a few
pounds, you can compliment them and cheer them on! :-)
— Renee B.
February 6, 2003
Hi Lisa! WOOHOO!! for your current weight loss! Just take what that girl
said and throw it out the window!
I am still pre-op, but from what I have read, the best way to kick up the
weight loss, increase your protein, water intake and exercise.
Good luck on your journey!
— preop_wendyd
February 6, 2003
Lisa, I know exactly what you mean. I have lost 126lbs since my open rny,
which was almost 7 months ago. One day I was at work and one of the girls
asked me how much I had lost. I don't normally make this a topic of
discussion at work, but this woman leads a TOPS support group and has
always been very supportive toward my weight loss efforts. I confided how
much I had lost so far and she said, "Really? I can tell you've lost
some weight, but I didn't think it was any where near that much." Rude
@$$! I could not believe it. I was wondering if maybe deep down she felt
some resentment because I had the surgery. Who knows. The bottom line is
that I am a healthier happier person no matter what she thinks of my weight
loss. (But I'd still like to give her a swift kick in the bum for that
comment!) Congratulations on your loss!
— Jenny S.
February 6, 2003
Oh, Lisa, Lisa, Lisa! If this is the first time in your life that you've
been on the receiving end of a catty comment, you are blessed indeed! No
one in their right mind doesn't notice 106 lbs! She's as envious as hell,
and that was her first jab! There will be more. Wanna really get her
goat? Say things like, "Hmmm. I'm surprised you can't tell. Everyone
else can." or "Really? Actually, it's just falling off me. I
can eat anything I want and all I do is just lose, lose, lose..." and
then cackle and walk away. Or you can say, "Well, I'm trying to hide
it by wearing bigger clothes. I was warned by others who've had this
surgery that too much success too fast can make immature people really
jealous." Ignore her and others like her. Remember the best revenge
is living well. Go get 'em, Slim.
— Nancy G.
February 6, 2003
— Maggie M.
February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off
100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great. Keep up
the good work think where you will be in a year. Diana
— Diana B.
February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off
100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great. Keep up
the good work think where you will be in a year. Diana
— Diana B.
February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off
100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great. Keep up
the good work think where you will be in a year. Diana
— Diana B.
February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off
100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great, think where
you will be in a year. Keep up the good work. Diana
— Diana B.
February 6, 2003
Lisa, don't let a comment like that make you think that you have to run out
and increase the weight loss. 106 in 6 months is a tremendous amount of
weight and if you just keep doing what you are doing-following the
rules-the loss will continue at your own pace. Remember-protein first,
watch those carbs and sugars, lots and lots of water, and EXERCISE. Just
ignore insensitive comments-they can't help themselves, poor babies!
— Cindy R.
February 6, 2003
Lisa,
Don't let that comment get the best of you, I heard that comment just the
other day and shrugged it offI'm know what I'm doing, and you know what
you're doing, watching what we eat and exercising. He/or she that said that
too you 1.) might be jealous,2.) or semi fascinated that you've lost such
a large amount of weight in a short time, (Way to go by the way).... I just
explain to them that yep it's comming off allot slower these days but every
pound counts.I sometimes get the reverse of that, do you really want to
loose any more, and I still see myself so big, how-ever I find that comming
from all the skinnies already, maybe they feel threatened by you. Smile at
them cause you know you're going to ge tthere.. Don't let any one get you
down. You are not a failure, you are way too far from that .Chin up!
Post op 8 months down 115 pounds. About 30 pounds away from goal
— tannedtigress
February 6, 2003
I just say "I don't weigh myself very often so I'm not really
sure" and leave it at that.
— Valerie B.
February 7, 2003
She may have been giving the look of. "REALLY!.... Girl you look good
now why loose anymore weight. ;-) Always look at the positive.
— [Deactivated Member]
February 7, 2003
Do you know of any women (besides WLS women) who aren't jealous when
another woman loses weight? It seems to be especially true if they know
you had this surgery. Blow it off - you're doing great!
— jengrz
February 9, 2003
Lisa, People never cease to amaze me. We can be the meanest things God put
on this earth. IGNORE her. She is jealous and probably doesn't like to see
others succeed. You are doing great should be very proud of yourself. I am
still pre-op, but know that this is not an easy road. Keep up the good
work!
— Lisa Q.
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