Question:
I am 6 mths post op down 106lbs, started in size 26 now in 18, a girl from work just

asked me if I am still losing weight I said yes and she looked at me(you know up then down) and said REALLY! I know I have slowed a bit but gee was that rude? That old failure feeling slapped me right in the face. What can I do to increase the weight loss? I joined a gym, could be better on my protein, other than that I am following all my doctors orders.    — Lisa W. (posted on February 6, 2003)


February 6, 2003
First...tell that girl to go suck an egg! lol! How rude! Some people just don't know when you shut up! You just start sucking down more water and less carbs and I'm sure you'll loose. But keep in mind...everyone looses at a different rate (remind me of this when I'm post op and stressing over not loosing fast enough! )...and when you are down to goal and looking even more hot then you do now, you can rub it in the girls face. You'll KNOW that you worked HARD for the body you have and she...well...she'll never appreciate how beautiful you really are! But you'll know! And some day, when an overweight friend or coworker busts his or her butt and drops a few pounds, you can compliment them and cheer them on! :-)
   — Renee B.

February 6, 2003
Hi Lisa! WOOHOO!! for your current weight loss! Just take what that girl said and throw it out the window! I am still pre-op, but from what I have read, the best way to kick up the weight loss, increase your protein, water intake and exercise. Good luck on your journey!
   — preop_wendyd

February 6, 2003
Lisa, I know exactly what you mean. I have lost 126lbs since my open rny, which was almost 7 months ago. One day I was at work and one of the girls asked me how much I had lost. I don't normally make this a topic of discussion at work, but this woman leads a TOPS support group and has always been very supportive toward my weight loss efforts. I confided how much I had lost so far and she said, "Really? I can tell you've lost some weight, but I didn't think it was any where near that much." Rude @$$! I could not believe it. I was wondering if maybe deep down she felt some resentment because I had the surgery. Who knows. The bottom line is that I am a healthier happier person no matter what she thinks of my weight loss. (But I'd still like to give her a swift kick in the bum for that comment!) Congratulations on your loss!
   — Jenny S.

February 6, 2003
Oh, Lisa, Lisa, Lisa! If this is the first time in your life that you've been on the receiving end of a catty comment, you are blessed indeed! No one in their right mind doesn't notice 106 lbs! She's as envious as hell, and that was her first jab! There will be more. Wanna really get her goat? Say things like, "Hmmm. I'm surprised you can't tell. Everyone else can." or "Really? Actually, it's just falling off me. I can eat anything I want and all I do is just lose, lose, lose..." and then cackle and walk away. Or you can say, "Well, I'm trying to hide it by wearing bigger clothes. I was warned by others who've had this surgery that too much success too fast can make immature people really jealous." Ignore her and others like her. Remember the best revenge is living well. Go get 'em, Slim.
   — Nancy G.

February 6, 2003

   — Maggie M.

February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off 100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great. Keep up the good work think where you will be in a year. Diana
   — Diana B.

February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off 100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great. Keep up the good work think where you will be in a year. Diana
   — Diana B.

February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off 100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great. Keep up the good work think where you will be in a year. Diana
   — Diana B.

February 6, 2003
WOW 106 lbs in 6 months. I have my surgery on 3/21 and if I can take off 100 lbs in 6 months I will be sooo happy. You are doing great, think where you will be in a year. Keep up the good work. Diana
   — Diana B.

February 6, 2003
Lisa, don't let a comment like that make you think that you have to run out and increase the weight loss. 106 in 6 months is a tremendous amount of weight and if you just keep doing what you are doing-following the rules-the loss will continue at your own pace. Remember-protein first, watch those carbs and sugars, lots and lots of water, and EXERCISE. Just ignore insensitive comments-they can't help themselves, poor babies!
   — Cindy R.

February 6, 2003
Lisa, Don't let that comment get the best of you, I heard that comment just the other day and shrugged it offI'm know what I'm doing, and you know what you're doing, watching what we eat and exercising. He/or she that said that too you 1.) might be jealous,2.) or semi fascinated that you've lost such a large amount of weight in a short time, (Way to go by the way).... I just explain to them that yep it's comming off allot slower these days but every pound counts.I sometimes get the reverse of that, do you really want to loose any more, and I still see myself so big, how-ever I find that comming from all the skinnies already, maybe they feel threatened by you. Smile at them cause you know you're going to ge tthere.. Don't let any one get you down. You are not a failure, you are way too far from that .Chin up! Post op 8 months down 115 pounds. About 30 pounds away from goal
   — tannedtigress

February 6, 2003
I just say "I don't weigh myself very often so I'm not really sure" and leave it at that.
   — Valerie B.

February 7, 2003
She may have been giving the look of. "REALLY!.... Girl you look good now why loose anymore weight. ;-) Always look at the positive.
   — [Deactivated Member]

February 7, 2003
Do you know of any women (besides WLS women) who aren't jealous when another woman loses weight? It seems to be especially true if they know you had this surgery. Blow it off - you're doing great!
   — jengrz

February 9, 2003
Lisa, People never cease to amaze me. We can be the meanest things God put on this earth. IGNORE her. She is jealous and probably doesn't like to see others succeed. You are doing great should be very proud of yourself. I am still pre-op, but know that this is not an easy road. Keep up the good work!
   — Lisa Q.




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