Question:
Did I make a mistake?
It's only been about a month, but I am feeling miserable. I'm wondering if I should have had this surgery or not. I'm feeling worse off than I did before I got it. — NikkiCarter (posted on December 21, 2002)
December 21, 2002
It's probally just that damned post op depression. Alot of us had it. I
expect after two months (three at the longest) it will be over. Your body
just went through a great trama and is healing.
— Danmark
December 21, 2002
At around 1 month I was also feeling regrets, I still do occasionally such
as at the company christmas party when my friends were chowing down great
big lobsters and I was nibbling my few shrimp. Howevever, I am now 3
months out and have lost 49 lbs. It is a trade off. the surgery makes me
able to do what I couldn't do on my own. I still have food intolerances, I
did not fully understand how greatly my life would change (but I also don't
think any one can understand that until they actually go through it.) That
said, now would I do it again? yes!!!!! would I recommend it to others,
probably, but I would tell them the things no one ever told me preop. You
will feel better when you can eat more normally, at 4 weeks I was still on
liquids, but once i started solids I have felt much better. I Love being 50
lbs lighter and from a size 30 to a 22 or 24!
— **willow**
December 21, 2002
Nikki,
My way of looking at this is....I would rather have "QUALITY" of
life, than "QUANTITY" of food!! Now, with that being said...I
think that most everyone goes through period of transition and some will
actually "grieve" the loss of certain things....but if you would,
try this Nikki....write down the new and exciting things that you are now
going to be able to do that you have not been able to do comfortably in the
past!! Write down the things that you have missed doing with friends and
family...oh, and at the end of that list, be sure to write down that this
surgey has probably added years to your life! (smile) Your future will be
so much brighter and "lighter"...lol and more energectic! Ok, for
now you give up Lobster and I know how painful that is because Lobster is
one of my favs.... but I also know that some day in my future (and yours
also), I will have Lobster again while dipping it in drawn butter!! YUM!
But for now, being able to walk without getting out of breath is not a bad
trade for that few bites of food....I wish you all the best Nikki....I am a
little overy 4 weeks post-op and things are getting easier every day and I
feel so blessed that I have had the opportunity to turn my life around!!
You will be fine, just keep looking toward the future!!
Love and light,
— medium
December 21, 2002
Hi,
I'm 15 months post op and I felt the same way at first. I would go through
the surgery again in a heart beat. I can almost eat anything now in
moderation. I don't feel deprived at all. In time I believe you too will
feel this way it just takes time. My daughter in law ask me to try on her
new pants which were a size 9. I tried them on and they fit. I couldn't
believe it! I use to wear a size 24- 26. Best of luck to you all. If I can
help in any way please feel free to e-mail me. (((HUGS)))
— Kathy H.
December 21, 2002
Jen my wife was miserable for over a month. But that was a year ago. She
has lost over 105 pounds and is doing great. Time will fix it....
— bob-haller
December 21, 2002
Nikki, it WILL pass. I thought that every day I swear for the first month.
I am now 11wks out...down 61# from 257 to 196. I would do this again in a
blink of an eye. I can walk without becoming breathless....I no longer have
a heart rate of 110 but it is 78 now...my blood pressure is stable instead
of high then low then high etc....my knees are no longer constant
pain....and my hips and back feel great. I vomitted 2x after starting
solids. My fault! I ate too fast ;o( It does get better. I no longer feel
like I made a mistake. It gets easier to eat right. I used to think,
"There is no way I can keep up this eating 2 forks of food! I cant
stand this!" But I am so much happier now. Healthy! Keep your chin up
hun, time will help!
— Kathy A.
December 21, 2002
Don't worry, this should go away very soon. I was the same way the first
month, I was really depressed. But now I'm 2 1/2 months out and down 41
pounds and feel wonderful. I did notice that once I started walking
everyday, that I have more energy and am in a lot better moods! Hang in
there!
— D S.
December 21, 2002
You may want to talk to someone about taking some antidepressants. I was
already on them preop, but they do help a lot. I had several complications
in the hospital and out, so it was about 1.5 to 2 months before I really
stopped wondering what I had done, why I had done it. I probably cried
several times a day for the first month. I know hearing this over and over
doesn't mean as much when you are the one feeling that way, but I also can
tell you that it can and does get better. I would do it again in a
heartbeat, complications and all. Seven months and -91 lbs. later, I have
not felt this "up" in years. I do have my bad days occasionally,
but that is true of anyone WLS or not.
— sheltie
December 22, 2002
This is normal, it took me about 2 months to feel totally well. I a year
post op and I feel wonderful. Just keep taking your vitamins and try to
meet you liquid intake so that you will not become dehydrated. Hang in
there it gets better.
— Gwen J.
December 22, 2002
hi
i felt that way the day i came home and for about a mo i did but that
passes and i would do this again in a heart beat i feel so good and i have
gottenmy life back i was 306 iam not 206 and i reallyfeel great good luck
— ROSEMARY A.
December 28, 2002
Dear Nikki...I was in hell for the first three months. Constant nausea,
depressed, back pain (still have it at almost 8 months out), problems with
food, NO ENERGY...most, if not all, of these things subside in time. It
does get better! Hang in there, girl. You're probably in the throes of
post-op depression, which everyone gets, right about now. Just keep
reading the boards here...the support of others will get you through this
difficult time. And once you see the weight really coming off, you can't
help feeling good about it. Hugs, Joy
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