Question:
I can feel myself being mean!
This is NOT me. I am a very easy going person and love people but since about 2 months after surgery (11-12-01) I can feel myself being mean! I really thought it was just the toll from the surgery but it seems to be getting worse. My poor hubby and kids are afraid to talk to me most of the time. My doctor put me on some hormone pills to try to enhance my sex drive about January so could that be it? I swear it is BAD. Anyone else feel like this or have any information as to what may be causing it. — Lynda T. (posted on June 19, 2002)
June 18, 2002
Linda, I don't have the answer but thank you so much for your question. I
am 3 months out. I too have always been relaxed and easy going. In recent
weeks, I find I am quick to become Angry. It is extremely rare for me to
become angry. So rare, that this streak has begun to scare me. I don't
want to an ugly person that no want to be around. I do not know how to
handle Anger because it has never been a part of me. I don't take my anger
out on others yet though they must realize I am displeased. I just sit and
fume. Fortunately, I have also become sieve-brained so the flash of anger
is soon over and forgotten. This should be the happiest time of our lives.
Instead I find myself unhappier than ever with person I'm discovering
inside. Lord, I hope it just hormones and will go away soon. I apologize
for horning in on your question without supplying any insight. I am just
so relieved to find I am not alone. Thank you.
— Debbie N.
June 18, 2002
I don't really know the answer but have a couple of suggestions. I do
believe that hormones could be playing a part in some people. I know when
my hormones get whacky I do the same. Also, I know I have always dealt
with anger and frustration by eating. Now I no longer have that
"cushion" and I find I'm having to work through those feelings
instead of burying them with food. I'm not sure if this is what is
happening to you but it's worth thinking about. Good luck.
— Vicki H.
June 18, 2002
I agree with Vicki that we can no longer drown our anger in food. Some of
us never allowed ourselves "bad thoughts" and now we are becoming
human. A suggestion was made to me tothink all of the mean thoughts while
I am on my treadmill, when I am done they are gone and I don't have to
express them to anyone. We have to get our anger out, but we don't have to
do it to another person. The fresh air can carry this anger away. (I don't
believe I've gotten so corny)
— faybay
June 18, 2002
ditto on the hormones. I was mean after delivering both of my children.
Fixed it the first time with the pill (had never taken it before then) and
fixed it the second time with breast feeding and then after that Celexa
(Seratonin). I'm great as long as I keep a low level of Celexa in my body.
You should definately talk with your PCP about this.
— Danna B.
June 19, 2002
I haven't taken any hormone pills but I too have become mean and/or quick
to get angry! My poor boyfriend! I've always been a little on the
short-tempered side, but nothing like this. I'm 6 weeks post-op and I hope
that it gets better soon. Good luck to you.
— Jennifer A.
June 19, 2002
Hi, Lynda! My doctor has had me try Premarin twice, both times I became
irritable and downright mean and edgy. I had a hysterectomy years ago, but
was able to keep my ovaries. In the last few years my sex drive just
disappeared, thank God for a loving, patient husband.
I recently saw Dr. Helen Pensanti on Daystar TV (she's also on Trinity
broadcasting) and she has a natural hormone made from wild yams (Menopause
relief creme with Red Clover-a natural progesterone creme). You rub 1/4
tsp on your inner arms, abdomen or inner thighs twice a day. I have been
using it for about 2 weeks and I feel so much better and my husband calls
it wonder creme. She also has many other products, some of which I'm
trying. I found out Premarin is made from pregnant mare urine which is
altered into a synthetic hormone for women. Studies have shown there is a
significant increase in the chance of cancer for women on synthetic
hormones. Her website is www.askdrhelen.com, she also states that if you
are taking synthetic hormones, a weaning period may be necessary, she has
instructions for that. Hope this helps, Jo-Dee
— tinyjo
June 19, 2002
Hi there.
I am 23 and have not had surgery yet, but.... I suffer from depression and
when I get into a funk I get mean, snappy and confrontational, even my mom
can tell, she says she can see it in my eyes, I am wondering that if since
your surgery there arent underlaying issues that you may not even be aware
of, they are tricky.. talk to someone about it, a friend or a doctor.. see
what a pro has to say,, all you can do is try!! good luck, I know,, it is
not fun to be mean... and it certainly does not feel good.. again.. GOOD
LUCK!
— Kate D.
June 19, 2002
I have heard that fat cells will hold on to estrogen in our bodies and as
we lose that fat the estrogen is released. With all these hormones in our
bodies, we can get depressed (like "baby blues" after having a
baby). Being short tempered, irritable ect... can be signs of depression.
You should see your Dr. about this. Good Luck to you!
— Leah H.
June 19, 2002
Are you depressed? That sure will make anyone crabbie.
— Danmark
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