Question:
How do you control this anger, I seem to loose it so easy.

I realize I do not take my anti-depressants, maybe in denial that I need them, but I just loose it so easily. Say things that are so hurtful and it goes on and on. What is happening to me. Mood swings goes with some of my illnesses, but medication for those is under control. Is anyone experiencing this or have in the past. Oh so many emotional things. Oh just sitting here typing I am getting frustrated over all of it. Sorry to bother any one. Thanks for listening. God Bless. Joan    — Joan T. (posted on January 5, 2004)

January 5, 2004
Hi, Joan! I know what you mean about losing control over your anger. I tend to do the same thing very easily. I don't take my antidepressant like I should, because I think I'm having a hard time absorbing it. I know I definitely need it, though. I'm also considering going for some type of counseling for anger management; as a matter of fact, both my 15-year old daughter and I need it. We both have very short fuses and have really been butting heads lately. I'm hoping that counseling will help. This has been a tough year for all of us, and this new year isn't starting out much better, I'm sorry to say. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I don't really have any answers for you, but I can definitely sympathise with you! Take care, Moiasa
   — Moysa B.

January 5, 2004
i have been exactly where you are. it took me a couple of years to come to grips with my illness too. the one thing that has helped me the most is to let things go. i would get so upset about all the little things. i would even get upset if i had something planned and it rained that day or if my husband spilled some sugar when making his coffee. here is what i have been doing for the last 8 years....before you blow up...think...is this going to matter an hour, week, month or year from now??? if not just let it go. i say that very easy now, but it was hard in the begining. when i would get mad the only thing it did was make me feel bad....and my family too. i know i am a very different and happier person now...and the people around me are happier too.
   — franbvan

January 5, 2004
I do the same thing, but I've discovered that mine is hormonal. About 1 week before aunt Flo, I turn into super B***h and I'm mean to everybody in my family. I yell at my kids and my husband, I get very upset when something messes up my plans or if somebody makes a mess in a room of the house that I've just cleaned. I don't have any advice other than what a previous poster said. Before you blow, take a few seconds to think about it. I need to take this advice also. Good Luck
   — Carolyn M.

January 5, 2004
Hi Joan - another short fuse bomb replying here! I really find on days that I don't take my wellbutrin (on the weekends because I just keep the meds at work for convenience) I really see a difference. I just lose it over the stupidest things. I've always been wound tight, but since the surgery, I find I'm much worse. I'm happier than I've ever been about my weight, but pissier than ever. And, yes, I do think hormones play a part, because I definitely get worse the whole week before my period. My insurance does not cover therapy - only 50%, which is still too expensive, but I really need something. I think if I can just try to talk to myself for a minute before exploding, I could be better...easier said than done, though. I also find that I have little sympathy for overweight people complaining about not being able to lose weight - and how crazy is that?? HELLO - I have been there my whole life!! sigh. Anyway, I'm not much help here, but I do recommend taking your meds regularly - thin people have just as many issues as overweight people, and the weight is often just a symptom of depression - not the cause. I know how you feel! Open RNY 03/20/03 326/216/146
   — vittycat

January 6, 2004
hi joan - i have been there . i was always iritated at the least little thing that happened around me . i was taking paxil for depression and buspirone (buspar) for anxiety . it helped me so much . i could feel the difference . while it is not good to tell people to take alot of drugs , you might talk to your doctor about getting something for this . i weaned myself off of the meds. this past summer , that was not fun , these are strong meds. , but i was tired of taking so many (still take others for more serious reasons)and i feel i have a better control on most things . never hurts to talk to your doctor and maybe get acouple months of a sample to try . good luck ........
   — patti G.

January 6, 2004
I'm the same way. :(
   — Danmark

January 6, 2004
If you needed medication for high blood pressure, or some other illness you'd take it, so why wouldn't you take an anti-depressant if you need it too, especially if it made you feel better? It can't be any fun to be so wound up and to loose it so easily. I don't know your age, but it sounds menopausal to me! If your doctor has eliminated causes such as hormone fluctuations due to menopause and you need the anti-depressant, I suggest you try going back on them to see if you feel better. Honestly assess yourself and if you do better on them than off, then stay on them. Saying hurtful things cannot be any fun for you or the target of your anger.
   — Cindy R.

January 6, 2004

   — Jazzy