Question:
I have my surgery date, I keep thinking something will happen prior to surgery.

I keep thinking something will happen to interrupt my planned surgery. Illness with my husband, me, finances, or any disaster that would prevent my having surgery. (Surgeon has emergency, e.t.c. Help! Is this just nerves?    — Joyce B. (posted on October 14, 2002)

October 14, 2002
Hi Joyce/ I had the same fears prior to my surgery/ I think it is just nerves/ I wanted this surgery so badly, I was afraid that something would happen to keep me from getting it, because it just seemed like a dream to me/ But just trust in GOD and HE will chase away your fears/ HE loves you and wants what is best for you/ I DID get my surgery, I just celebrated my 1 year anniversary of my surgery, and I am 5 lbs from goal/ I am a size 6-8/ So YES, it WILL happen, don't give into your fears/ I will be praying for you/ by the way, when is your surgery, and what type are you having ? Patti Meadows/ e-mail: [email protected]
   — peppermintp

October 14, 2002
I've read so many posts/letters/messages with basically the same worry and experienced it myself. I would guestamate that 90%+ surgeries go on as scheduled. If they didn't, could you imagine the surgery schedules that would ensue? Ack! :>)
   — [Deactivated Member]

October 14, 2002
Most people deal with second thoughts about having the surgery. Not me, I never had a second thought, but I did feel like something would go wrong to prevent me from having my surgery. It just seemed too good to be true. Something that good wouldn't happen for me. I was even having these thoughts on the way to the hospital, wondering if I would get into an accident, or my surgeon would get into an accident. My surgery was a couple months after the 9/11 attack, and war was imminent. My surgeon is a Navy trauma surgeon and they were saying that he may have to go. I had nightmares about it. But I had my surgery on schedule and am now 11 months post-op and at goal! Something wonderful did happen for me, and I am so thankful.
   — Cheri M.

October 15, 2002
Joyce, It sounds like nerves. Relax and let God lead you! "Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength." author unknown... Tami
   — Tami D.

October 15, 2002
I had my open RNY about 10 1/2 months ago. I had to wait 29 days from getting my date to the surgery and I was convinced every one of those 29 days that something would happen to stop it. In fact, my surgery was scheduled for Thursday, in a town about 3 hours from where I live. I was planning on leaving early Wednesday morning to go do the pre-admit stuff at the hospital, the appointment with the pulmonologist and then the pre-op with the surgeon. Well, about 11 AM Tuesday winter storm warnings were issued for all of North Texas. I was at work and still hadn't even packed everything to take. My sister was driving me to Wichita Falls for the surgery and about 1 PM we decided maybe we had better leave. We actually got out of Dallas about 4 PM and drove in pouring rain about half the way and the rest on ice. Just outside Wichita Falls the sleet turned to snow. My pre-op appointments were cancelled but the surgery went on as planned. But I wasn't convinced til I woke up in recovery hurting and the nurse assured me that the surgery was done, was successful and that I was on my way to a healthy new life. So, you aren't the only one with those fears - I wasn't afraid of the surgery at all - just that it would be cancelled. By the way, that was 10 1/2 months ago and I have lost over 150 pounds. This is the best thing I have ever done.
   — Patty_Butler

October 15, 2002
Wow.. did I ever go through this.. each step before my actual surgery.. tests.. the whole thing.. I just knew something would stop me and I wouldn't be getting it. I did feel it was my last chance for life... *grin*... and funnily enough.. it all went off just fine.. and yours probably will too... good luck! I think you're very normal!
   — Lisa C.

October 15, 2002
Hi, I could have written that myself. I was SURE something would happen, but it did'nt. My doc has a history of being late for appts. in the office and I was sure he was going to be late or something come up the day of surgery, but he was there with bells on early. don't worry, everything will work out. Take care.
   — Mary M.

October 15, 2002
Honey you are in the most trying time of this whole process the waiting for the big day. It is tough and everything that could go wrong will stay in your head. The good thing is that you are going to be so busy trying to see that it doesnt happen that when you do get to look back you will see it just flew by. I kept very busy with 2 disabled kids and making sure the house stayed put together and paying bills and making sure work was ok and the SO was doing their share and making it all possible that BOOM the day was there. Good luck to you honey see you on the other side. Peggy 3weeks post op -30lbs
   — Peggy A.