Question:
After your surgery, what will you NOT miss???

I know that after surgery, it will be nice when "weight lifting" actually means lifting weights, and not just standing up!!! :-)    — Janet C. (posted on November 25, 2001)


November 25, 2001
I will not miss having to go to 10 different stores to find a shirt that my upper arms fit in.
   — [Anonymous]

November 25, 2001
I will not miss almost always being the heaviest person in the room. I will not miss the stares of strangers and the comments of small children - most recent: "Mommy, that lady needs to go on a DI-ET". I will not miss feeling so self conscious all the time that it won't let my personality out. And the biggest thing I will not miss is the look of pain for me in my mother's eyes because she knows how much this obesity makes ME unhappy.
   — Julie S.

November 25, 2001
I will NOT miss the constant "adjustment" of my clothes I did everytime I moved!!!
   — Elizabeth C.

November 25, 2001
I have never lived my life with woulda coulda shouldas and have done many of the things I wanted to do or try BUT.... I will not miss being heavy; I will not miss having to figure out how I'm going to wipe my butt in a small bathroom stall : ) ; I will not miss getting stuck in a roller coaster and having to go around 3 times; I will not miss shopping at Lane Bryant for expensive clothing that does not hold up; I will not miss having to bend over to see my feet; I will not miss my arms getting tired when using a curling iron; I will not miss sweating; I will not miss kneeling down to garden or scrub a spot on the floor and not being able to get back up "gracefully"; I will not miss watching when I want to be doing; I will not miss out on one more active minute with our granddaughter; I will not miss living to see my sons have and raise children. What I will miss is chocolate, ice cream, pizza and spaghetti a lot but in the analysis...with all I won't miss, this will be a piece of "cake".
   — AJC750

November 25, 2001
i will not miss...being embarrassed about my size, asking for a seat belt extender on planes, asking for a table instead of a booth in a restaurant, being tired all the time cause it takes all my energy to lug around an extra 150 lbs, i will not miss wondering if i embarrass my family when we r out together, i will not miss looking for size 4x clothes, i definitely will not miss all the medicines i am currently taking or my cpap machine, i will not miss the worried look my dear husband gives me everytime he thinks i am not looking & lastly i will not miss the worry that i will die before my time.
   — sheryl titone

November 25, 2001
I will not miss elastic waist pants, and huge cover up T shirts being most of my wardrobe. ( real jeans w/ a button down front!)
   — Cindee A.

November 25, 2001
I will not miss my huge, jiggly hind end and being self-concious when someone is walking behind me! I will not miss the interferance between my upper arms and my bust!
   — Sandra E.

November 25, 2001
You know, ever since I decided to have surgery I have thought about this almost everyday. I will not miss having to adjust my shorts or pants everytime I get out of the car, achy knees, incontinence, not swimming in our own pool when company is here, my big boobs,my crappy wardrobe, and looking for excuses why NOT to attend my husbands company picnic or Xmas parties. I can't wait to get this freakin weight off so I can start living and enjoying my life to the fullest!!!!
   — Kim B.

November 25, 2001
I am 9 months post-op, and I'll tell you what I don't miss. I don't miss those little patches of dark brown, pimply skin between my legs. I don't miss having to ask for help to clean my hiney in the shower. I don't miss irregular periods. I don't miss having to ask for a seatbelt extender and making sure there's tables in a restaurant instead of just booths. I don't miss sending my husband in for everything, because I don't have the energy to get out of the car and come in with him. I don't miss feeling constantly tired. I don't miss the joint pain. I don't miss the sleep apnea which made me feel smothered and wake up in the middle of the night sweating. I don't miss being passed up for promotions because I wasn't "presentable." I don't miss paying way too much for clothes, just because I know they'll fit me. I don't miss getting tired after only 5 minutes of walking in the mall. (I now do 2 hours of cardio, 4 days per week!) I don't miss people assuming I'm lazy just because I was fat. I don't miss stares and comments from children. I don't miss the fact that I avoided the gym/pool, because I was too ashamed of my fitness level and appearance. I don't miss food, actually, since I'm still able to eat my favorite foods in moderation, and I've actually come to a sort of peace with food after all these years. I don't miss starting a new diet every Monday morning and failing by Tuesday afternoon. I don't miss having high blood pressure, headaches, and scoldings from my doctor for being too fat. I don't miss worrying I will get diabetes. I don't miss being the fattest person in the room and wondering if people are judging me. I don't miss being fat, and I am SO GRATEFUL I was able to have this surgery and change my life. Looking back, even if I had to do a self-pay, it would have been worth every dime times a hundred. Continuing luck to all you "losers"!!!!
   — [Anonymous]

November 25, 2001
I am 6 months post op as of yesterday, and every answer here is so true! I thought I would tell you guys what I DO NOT miss now that I am 20 pounds from goal! I do not miss going shopping for everyone except me because I am so sick of wearing big clothes. I do not miss spending every minute of the day wondering if I look fat, if my stomach is adequately covered, if I look like a slob, etc. I do not miss worrying that I am the fattest person in the room, that people are thinking..."nice face, too bad about the rest of her." I do not miss hugging my husband and having my stomach get in the way, not being able to be physically active with my kids, sweating in 30 degree weather: being the ONLY one sweating in 30 degree weather. I do not miss worrying that I can't stop eating, that I will die because my blood sugars are out of control, as well as my blood pressure, cholesterol, thyroid function, PCOS, etc. I do not miss worrying that I will lose my legs due to my Necrobiosis as my grandmother did. Now, to share what I love about life after surgery: I love feeling attractive and having this new look. I love that everyone who loves me is excited for the way I look, but mainly that I will be here with them for alot longer because I have this new found health. I love that my children write books about their "skinny" mommy! I love to GO SHOPPING, and buy lots of wonderful clothes just for me! I love tucking in a shirt with a pair of jeans and a cute belt! I love that I can go to any store and get great bargains: not be at the mercy of the larger size stores who rip me off! I love that I bought my first pair of leather jeans(woo hoo!) I love working out (who'da thunk?) at the gym and taking three dance classes. I love having energy and people telling me to rest. I love life again, I love getting up and seeing the new me, knowing that I did something brave for myself and that it is for the rest of my life, which will now be alot longer; that I have new healthy eating habits and I like it. To all of you pre ops, go for it, all of the things you said you will not miss will soon be a distant memory, and you too will focus on all the new things that you now LOVE! Blessings to you all...
   — Vicki K.

November 25, 2001
I won't miss panty hose that pinch, my cpap machine, and worrying about lawn chairs that might break if I try them out. I will not miss my stomach bulging over jeans, pants that wear out between the legs, and always wearing slip on shoes!
   — [Anonymous]

November 26, 2001
I wont miss catching a glimpse of myself in a window or mirror and thinking "Oh God, that cant really be how I look!!!". I wont miss trying to suck my stomache in so hard that I have to hold my breathe while I walk!! I wont miss wearing the same clothes over and over because I am sooo embarrased to shop in the Plus size stores. Just a few of the things I wont miss!!!
   — skymaxjr

November 26, 2001
WARNING this may get graphic, but it is a fact of life: One thing that Overweight Men have to deal with is the litte German soldier that is MIA behind "hamburger hill"(Distended Pubic region). I have steadily seen it not so much shrink as be taken over by my large pubic region. This is the same way with many men, and I am sure that I speak for them when I say: I cannot wait to get my Penis back!
   — sbinkerd1

November 26, 2001
I will not miss... -having tohave a prom dress made. -trying to tie my shoes in public. -neverbeing asked out on a date, or asked to dance -going shopping with my skinny friends as a tag-along becuase i could never fit normal clothes -going to the mall with my 5'0" 95 lbs size 0 sister-in-law, and not being able to buy or fit any pretty clothes. -my inner thighs rubbing together, getting skinned, and leaving me unable to walk normally for the next couple of days. -neverbeing able to cross my legs -always feeling self concious and ugly - walking past skinny/ or pretty women in the store and feeling like my boyfriend is checking them out, then getting upset and feeling ugly. -being jealous that i'm missing out on being young ,beautiful, and healthy.
   — tjmoore

November 26, 2001
I won't miss always being the biggest person in the room!
   — [Anonymous]

November 26, 2001
Iam not going to miss seeing 10 pairs of sweat pants with 20 3X t-shirts in my closet, Hanging jumbo underwear on my clothes line, tight seatbealts that contrict any movement, sitting on other peoples furniture worring if its well built,co-workers talking about how I used to look 10 years ago when I weighed 125lbs., other kids teasing my daughters about their fat mommy, avoiding going to social functions, sweating and suffering in the summers, no more pure white skin, and most of all, having my picture taken with my kids and family. For the last ten years of my life I am not in any photos with my family for all the holidays or any family occassions, birthdays etc... Its like I didn't even exist!!! I finally get to say good-bye to that life and close the door forever!!! Thank God We were givin this tool to live a healthier and happier life!!!!! Blesssing to all!!!
   — Laura G.

November 26, 2001
I'm still pre-op, but I will NOT miss people asking me "When are you due?" <br> <br> Due for what? I'M NOT PREGNANT.
   — Goldilauxx B.

November 26, 2001
I will not miss going out with my tall skinny friend and having everyman notice her, talk to her, buy her a drink, try to get her number. It was funny the first time we went out and someone noticed me and not her, she got jealous!
   — Tracy C.

November 28, 2001
I went shopping with my mom after Thanksgivings. For the first time in over ten years, I didn't have to shop at Lane Bryant, The Avenue, or Catherine's, so I definitely don't miss "The Fat Ladies Shops." I could shop there cause I'm a 22/24, but I was not limited to those shops. I also don't miss everyone passing me as I walked through the mall. I was a lady on a mission, and I was actually passing others. My mom who's a size 16 (and only 51 years old) could hardly keep up with me. Thanks for letting me express myself.
   — Tammy W.




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