Question:
Should I write a letter to my husband and children just incase I die?
— Melissa Sanders (posted on May 25, 2003)
May 25, 2003
a letter is a wonderful thing. it will give you some peace and it will
give your family some insight...so write it to celebrate your life!!!
good luck!
— nan K.
May 25, 2003
many of us leave goodbyew letters. I did for my wife Jen and some good
friends. I hid the letter at home and had my surgeon promise to tell jen
where it was if I didnt survive. <P>Luckily I came thru surgery fine.
— bob-haller
May 25, 2003
I wrote a long letter to my 2 year old daughter. I sealed it and told my
husband where it would be just in case. Luckily, my daughter won't need to
get it...although I am keeping it to give to her one day!!
— [Deactivated Member]
May 25, 2003
I think a letter to your loved ones is a marvelous idea. I have made out
my living will and I am in the
process of writing out my will. I plan to have letters completed to each
of my loved ones. Chances are, I won't be needing any of them, but I feel
the need to have them there anyway. Chances are you won't need them
either, but having them there would hopefully put you more at ease. Good
luck. :)
— Judy K.
May 25, 2003
I wrote letters to all my family members, made a videotape and planned my
funeral. Just in case. It eased my mind and gave me real peace. After I had
made it through the operation, I actually read the letters to my family. I
had written all the wonderful things that I appreciated about each of them.
It was a really special moment for all of us. We were all boo-hooing and
thanking God for protecting me through surgery. It is normal to need to
prepare. Write the letters.
— rpoepke
May 25, 2003
I know that I am going to sound crazy and a little silly but I did not
write any letters because I did not want God to look down and say "she
is so prepared to go, lets take her"! Ok it is silly but all I could
think of was I never did this for my 3 c-sections!
But I say if the letters make you feel better write them!
— Haziefrog
May 25, 2003
I think it is a good idea. But not because you would ever need it. It would
probally bring a smile to your face, later on down the road when you are a
couple years post op, slim and in good health. ;)
— Danmark
May 25, 2003
I hope this doesn't come off sounding rude, but did you write one to your
loved ones when your weight crept up to a critical level and your risk of
death increased substantially because of it? Not that I think writing a
letter isn't a good idea, it just kind of shocks me that surgery will
convince some to say their farewells in writing, when all along we are
immortal and risk dying daily. Personally, I think it's better to make
sure everyone knows you love them as often as possible and not dwell too
heavily on the what-ifs. Good luck to you!
— [Deactivated Member]
May 26, 2003
Writing such a letter often eases some of the pre-op tension and anxiety we
all have. I wrote a letter to my son. He was the only one who truly had
doubts about my surgery and IF something happened, I wanted him to
understand why I chose such a drastic step. I know he understood it
beforehand, from talking to him. But if something had happened, I know a
letter would be something he could read over again, and read again as he
got older and could understand more from it. Make sense? You'll do fine but
it is about peace of mind. - Anna
— Anna L.
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