Question:
6 Months Post Op- Emotional Swings- What can I do?

I am 6mo post-op open RNY and seem to be feeling a mixture of emotions and I kinda feel alone. I have done this alone from day 1, other than my husbands support and he is dealing with it in different ways and can't relate to what im going through. I have not talked to anyone that has been through this other than a few people this month off this web site, which I thank you for takng the time to answer my questions :o) Is this normal? I feel so sexy and pretty one day and the next day I crybaby over the saggy skin. I'm not depressed but just feeling like nobody understands what im going through. All my friends keep making comments like...you did this to yourself or I did'nt have the miracle surgery like you did. They just have no clue! Well that felt good to vent a little. I'm glad people here are so nice, Good luck to all of you!    — Sandy M. (posted on April 2, 2003)

April 1, 2003
I can completely relate to how you are feeling. I am almost 9 months post op and am still experiencing the same things. My docs tell me that because estrogen is stored in our fat, a significant loss releases the estrogen causing the mood swings. I didn't have my period for months and now that it is back, I am getting it every two weeks. I also think that in addition to the raging hormones there are a lot of mental adjustments that need to happen for our minds to "catch up" with all of these amazing changes-changes in the way we see ourselves & they way we are now percieved by others. I think that even when the change is "good" it still is often times challenging & uncomfortable. I keep telling myself that this is a PROCESS....and like most things, takes time & patience with myself. This site has been wonderful through my process-to talk to others who are in similar situations has been invaluable to me. You are not alone! Hang in there & be patient with yourself as you adjust. Best wishes in your process.
   — Heather N.

April 2, 2003
What a good answer, Heather! I am pre-op so I don't have an answer myself, but I am going to print out your answer and keep it for when I need it. I will be having open rny while my husband is stationed in Korea for a year (not our choice), so I KNOW I'll have mood swings!
   — Leslie R.

April 2, 2003
Yes, good response Heather. I think that it is important for you to communicate with others who have had this surgery. Does your doctor have a support group, or if not your surgeon, is there one in your area? Most support groups are willing to have people attend from other surgeons. This is an invaluable network to have. If one is not available in your area, do a search on this website for those who had the surgery around your date. Send out E-mails and establish relationships that way. I did so and have a nice group of E-mail buddies who have communicated with me thruout the process that I can share with. Your right, its difficult to talk to our friends and family members who just can't relate like those of us who have been there, done that.
   — Cindy R.

April 2, 2003
Knowing what it is helps me; or saying to yourself.. hmmm I am depressed, crying a little etc. Has always helped me. Even telling the Hubby- I am depressed, helps- almost makes it go once I announce that I am! I also am on a low daily dosage of Prozac, but sometimes the emotions go high and sometimes they go low and while Prozac helps 99% of the time, it's that 1% that you still need to work on.
   — Karen R.